Why do parents try and ruin teena lives by stopping them dating etc or lying to them that there is plenty of t

Question

The critical time to have started dating appears in the uk to be 15 due to the school system changing to college or sixth form but close by should be high school...


Basic poitn being when you enter college 16-18 in Uk anyone why is not used to dating or pulling etc is seen as needy forever more and will find it virtually impossible to get dates, snogs let alone relationships as girls ONLY go for confident guys who know what they are doing and its all competitiive with the nice godd shy guys ending up nowhere but rejected...

No point saying find someone special as if they do then what.. the experienced bad boys get them...


And so forth at each level they don't graduate so fall further behind

Bit like missing the first titanic boats...


Come Uni the first week is know as fk a fresher week.

Agins unless you not only havve the foundation level of first kiss relationships. No mistakes allowed, hell not allowed at 16 but now experts only into the experiements level.

Yet people complain about 18/19 year old guys goign for 16 year olds expecting all are mature but expect the maturity to come magically from knowhere as they considered 16 too young and never supported...

Then next at 21/22 level no uni no mass or up for it single folk in a casual environment you get to know over time... So its work... little chance or bars when you have 2 seconds to do everything right or reject...

So how is someone who is yet to kick off supposed to being about to out compete the charmers who dont mess up and with that vast amount of experience.

Now if not already on top starts the long term sharwe bills relationships...


Now all along there little chance to catch up as standards so high and it only gets worse till no single folk left hence many guys going for younger girls late teens early twenties...

Or more likely stippers etc...


Given that... why the fk do parents want their kids innocent or into absteinance when it will only totally destroy

Their lives especailly as employers only want social people skills not acedmeic qualifications...

So why do that to your kids its horrendous abuse

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Note its a LOT easier for girls as guys like the pull a virgin routine...


But girls aint like that... they only go for those with as much or more experience, and confidence then they have...


So the post is saying why do parnents think its a good thing to sabotage your chances of ever forming a relationship ?

And why do people think its a good thing...?

Surely thats worst then stds?

At least you lived.

And just just condoms and pills...


And why cant others read and understand?

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I know those saying dont worry are liers as older then that.

Plus seen some mates as could not pull at 15 never got to catch up only the odd unsuccessful couple of dates or one night stand... cant get close if don't know what you are doing and able to compete

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Sorry guys I can see lots of typos but can't edit it.

Can't look up and type

Not a moron good at probelm solving in resourceful terms, good with creativeity, technology, cooking, dealing with emergenices...

And was just not parents but family friends, relatives, teachers the lot...

All hiding things, not saying stuff, no support nothing...


All with theis sick in the head notion of abseinace being a good thing... Now see it like raping someone... it fks lives up

NOT A TEENAGER ANYMORE SO KNOW PARENTS AND ALL LIED...

Plus what use is education... never got to use any of it... they only wanted office politics and sales skills...

and for you to act dumb and not talk back or use any knowledge.



So you are better off sening kids on more dates and getting laid as it will be more use in life.

Been there done that, seen the lies and got hurt and seen ohters hurt too.

Answer 1

ok thanx 4 tha 2 pointz

Answer 2

Parents normally want what is best for their teenager. There is a fine line between getting experience of the right sort and sleeping around. STD's and other diseases are now more a worry than an unplanned pregnancy. If teenagers joined a group they are interested in - drama, scouts, guides, choir, art or whatever.. they will hopefully be in a mixed group and relationships will follow. The more confident teens can be in a mixed group of friends will lead to relationships that can have a chance. In todays throwaway society, friends etc are too quickly passed by.

Answer 3

I feel so confused.
i feel like i was reading english, but it made no sense. i don't think i've ever felt like that before.....

even if you don't have a first kiss until you are older, well, big deal.
you can make up for lost time later on in life.
one of my roommates freshman year in college had only had a few boyfriends and she was a virgin. no problem. she dated guys and eventually found a good one.
i was the first to get married and that didn't happen until 26. i mean....slow down....relax....life will happen for you when it happens. no sense in rushing it.

take care.

Answer 4

i think parents are concerned that boyfriends or girlfriends will distract you from your full time education. which, be honest, they can do. when i was 15 i fell in love with a boy of 18, my mum and dad didnt like him and tried everything to split us up, but it just pushed me close to him. i wished i had listened to them, i had 8 years of married hell. Parents arent stupid, they have been there and done that. Listen to their advice, they are not trying to ruin your life, just make it better

Answer 5

1) you don't have to have sex in freshers week. I am british, i didn't sleep with anyone at uni. I always had boyfriends and I have been happily married since 26.

2) have you seen the number of unwanted pregnancies on this site- doesn't that make you want to avoid such a catastrophe in your life?

Answer 6

Sorry, I fell asleep after the first 6 pages.

Answer 7

dude learn 2 write and thnx 4 da 2pts

Answer 8

Your not really going to go to Uni are you?
Would you at least be good enough to learn to write first.

Answer 9

My husband only had one girlfriend - me - married 18 years.

Answer 10

You lost me after the first word, Thanks for the two points. If your parents wont let you date, I think they have a good reason. You seem like a moron.