ok. ive been with my boyfriend for 4years, we have a daughter of 3. recently ive been getting really annoyed by him and wanting him to leave me alone. ive been friends with my ex 4years and after we dated briefly years ago still c each other. we've been getting flirty lately and i know if i wasnt with my boyfriend something would happen. so my dilema is that i still fancy my ex and want him but cud never cheat on my boyfriend because i love him. but at the same time i want something to happen with my ex. HELP!!!!!
2006-08-14 09:23:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Put your child first. You should have sorted out your love life before you brought a child into this world. Is it fair to break up a home because you're behaving like a teenager?
You've got responsibilities, not only to your daughter, but to your partner. Avoid the ex - he's just trouble. Which is why he's probably attractive. We all have to make sacrifices at some stage in our life. You're not in love with him, do't let it get out of control.
2006-08-14 11:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. you only want your ex because you want what you think you can't have. as you have stated, you only went with this ex for a brief period of time - your boyfriend has been with you a lot longer and you have a child together. every relationship goes stagnant after a while which is what would happen if you got back with your ex. not to mention the problems that it would cause not only for your current boyfriend but for your daughter. I don't think you should do anything - I think you should cut all ties withyour ex as it is only lust not love. I know it's hard and it can feel as if you do love him but you will find out you don't. Then you will regret it and regret is a horrible thing...
On the other hand, if you are not happy with your current boyfriend then you should break it off with him - but NOT for your ex. If you break it off with him you should take some time out for yourself and think about what you are really looking for outta life - first and foremost what your daughter needs from you. Then you will know after time if it is your ex you really want or not.
Good Luck x
2006-08-14 16:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by Showaddywaddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is...
Dont let go of the one you love for the one you like, becuz the one you like, will leave you for the one they love.
You should stop seeing your ex, that is the problem. Dont ever cheat on your boyfriend, that is the most worst thing you can do. Just stop seeing him.
2006-08-14 17:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you can only feel validated by having a relationship, as though you are only half a person and need to have a man in your life in order to feel fulfilled.
But there are thousands of men out there and perhaps you should think of a completely new start?
You sound like such a victim!
2006-08-14 16:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered it yourself. If your thinking about someone else with thoughts of sexual interest than apparently you are not fully happy in the relationship your in. I think you need to have a talk with your current boyfriend. He might be sensing tension from you, for we all have an inate perception. Sweetie, don't hurt him by cheating, do the right thing!!
2006-08-14 16:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings, if you really love him and he feels the same, it would probably help if you stopped seeing your ex for a while, so you can get things straight in your own head. Maybe you need to rekindle your relationship with your boyfriend, if you don't go out together, get a babysitter and go out with him. cheats always get found out.
2006-08-14 16:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by madmim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all they are your ex for a reason. second the chioce is yours but at least dont cheat end one before starting another. good luck in whatever u do
2006-08-14 16:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by lcox65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly think of your daughter! & i think its a case of the grass is greener....................i dont think it will be! you could lose everything for nothing! think of why you split up in the first place, there is always a reason. & work on sorting you and your fella out x
Its so hard to find a decent guy - trust me, if you have one now, your lucky dont throw it away x
2006-08-14 16:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mel.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you that divorce is very hard, I have been through it. But if you are not happy go with your gutt.
2006-08-14 16:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by hoboken134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is always greener, dont give up on your guy
2006-08-14 16:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by orfeo_fp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋