2006-08-14 09:20:35 · 10 answers · asked by anahona 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
words and actions go hand in hand...and the problem may not be that he doesn't love you..the problem may be that he doesn't know how to Satisfy you. to make u Feel safe and secure and loved. figure out what u expect from urself, ur husband and the relationship! talk to him, communicate with him. explain, calmly, why you feel the way u do. now, if he responds w/ care and he Tries to figure out things with you, then u have a keeper. he needs to try to grow with you, learn how to satisfy ur needs. then, and only then, will u truly respect and believe what he says. give him a chance to learn, but if u continue to feel bad, negative, unhappy, and unloved, that is a problem. u shouldn't have to continuously stay in a bad situation...u need to nip the problems in the bud, and work on the trust until u can learn what is good and right for eachother and the marriage. and this is always going to take work..but it's a satisfying work, something that is *worth* saving. u need to love, and be loved, and satisfy eachother. if u don't know how, it's ok. just talk to eachother and find out what u need, and what he needs. if he doesn't want to do it, that's a problem. a HUGE problem. but if he just doesn't know and is willing to learn, i'm sure u will be able to figure things out! good luck, and try hard not to get angry without explaining things in a way that a man can understand; u have to spell things out step by step...!
2006-08-14 09:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel that your husband loves you, it may be insecurity on your part. Regardless, it is important that you communicate to him that you feel a disconnect in your relationship.
Over time, people tend to get involved in their day-to-day lives and they do not take time to work on their relationship. This gets even worse when you have children.
I would make it a point to start doing something special for him once per week. Make a dinner, dress up nice, give him a massage, offer to watch Monday Night Football.
This way you are making an effort to improve the relationship, and show him you love him. I am willing to bet that he will start showing you in his own way that he loves you too.
Just remember that communication is another really important part of ANY relationship.
Good Luck
2006-08-14 16:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by xogeniousox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ana, there is something I want to share with you from one woman to another. Men well some, don't realize they don't let us know they care, they think because they are there in the room that's enough for you to believe them. as women we need to feel it , hear it, and most of all, we need to feel we are cherished always. we have to except our husband for all there faults as well as they except ours. neither of us are perfect. I know it is very hard, still working on emotions myself.
this may help you out . I love to read, so I found book at the library on men and woman. understanding each other, I was stunned to realize there was more to than i realized.
men need to know we love them and they want us to love them, I was just thinking about this how long have you been married?
some woman feel lost after the honeymoon is over. that is just a thought that's all. well I've said all i can.
I wish you luck and happiness with your spouse, talk to him about it.
2006-08-14 16:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he nice to you? Is he nice to the children(if there are any)? Does he come home at night in a good mood? Does he want sex on a regular basis? If the answers are yes, he loves you. It might be your insecurity that you are feeling.
2006-08-14 16:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best idea that i can think of from experience, is the silent treatment. if you play the silent treatment roll, sprinkled with a little frustration, then see how he responds. if he comes and comforts you, then his feeling are sincere, if he just ask you, " what is wrong now" or " what's the matter with you" without any emotion or comfort, he might be fading away.
2006-08-14 16:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Knuckles06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel not, you should know why even if he tells you. Women are usually right about those kind of feelings. Hope I'm wrong.
2006-08-14 16:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by ladydi9red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he spending all the time with you and spend all the money on you then he love you my mom told me if a guy really love you then he will do anything for you and to make you happy and spend all of his money on you men only care about money, sex, if they are not in love
2006-08-14 16:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your insecure. if he says he loves you he does. you need to be more secure with yourself maybe you should get away for the weekend go camping have some together time
2006-08-14 16:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by mom19242000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone loves u , u ve to feel his love .. if u dont he doesnt love u , always women feel the love
2006-08-14 16:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he should be showing you that he loves you.
2006-08-14 16:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋