Sometimes I'd rather have a Girl say I don't date black men or something like that then to tell me I don't date men. Maybe it's because racism/prejudice isn't new for me to deal with.
I think we Straights take it a lil personal and thats where some of the hate stems from. (I don't hate anyone.)
Here's the Kicker I got no problem saying to a Gay guy I don't date men period strictly becasue of thier Gender.
I hate being dissed Becasue of my Gender Yet I'll turn around and Do it. I guess I'm just a Fu*ked up Person. Yet still trying to illustate a flaw so it can eventually be fixed.
2006-08-14 09:16:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey I'm not being hateful and I didn't hit on anyone I'm Illustrating a point just answer the question and stop trying to read into it so much.
2006-08-14 09:24:34 · update #1
WHat I'm doing here is illustrating a Point, I found out a hot girl was gay and I got defensive. I shouldn't but I did so I post the question so others can see it's a problem straight people don't admit to as much. Thats all I'm doing
I see you Tab Trying to be slick on the you ask gay people stuff so you must be gay. Nope......it's not happening.
If I have questions about interactions with people then I'm asking you guys so thats how thats going down.
2006-08-14 09:49:27 · update #2
It depends on straight person. Are we talking someone in a city or someone out in the sticks? A religious zealot or an open minded person?
It seems to me your real problem is with lesbians because they arn't interested in you and not with gay men because you are not interested in them. Oh well. Look at it this way - For every gay woman that turns you down - there is a gay man that you would turn down. By that logic - you come out even.
Get to know some of us. Were fun. Treat a lesbian like you would a sister or a cousin. They will give you great insights on your straight girl friends. Most gay men will never hit on you if you let them know up front how you are. We don't bite.
Good luck.
I
2006-08-14 09:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm a queer woman and i've had men tell me this before, that they are intimidated by gay women because they feel like they are being left out of the picture. this kind of makes me sad because i really like having guys as friends, i like spending time with them and talking over a beer and stuff. but i honestly kind of feel like i AM a guy, or sort of androgynous. so, thinking about dating men just kind of makes me giggle and say no, the same way you feel about you dating men.... you have no problem saying "no thanks."
i do think some straight guys take it personal, but if they aren't hateful, there's usually a reason. maybe they either had some problems with females in the past, or they haven't met many gay people. oddly enough, i've never met a woman who was truly intimidated by gay men or felt slighted by their lifestyle. any ideas there???
2006-08-14 17:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was being led on by someone who never disclosed their orientation, while knowing I was falling head over heels, SURE I'd be ticked off.
However, I have no problem when I notice someone hitting on me of the same gender, of letting them know that I am straight...but I do it very tactfully.
2006-08-14 16:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But nobody's dissing you. It's just a statement of fact: "I don't like men that way." Just like "I'm married" or whatever. You don't mean to insult gay men when you say you don't like men that way, right? And you don't mean to say that you don't like men at all, right? Just "you're barking up the wrong tree," right? Same with lesbians.
2006-08-14 16:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is odd that you would do to someone else what you don't like done to you, but not exactly the worst thing in the world these days.
It is a shame though - I think you would make a very nice boyfriend for someone!
2006-08-14 16:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. She's all about the clam.
Has this happened often to you? Maybe stop hitting on girls in lez bars?
One of my friends girlfriends realized she was gay after dating him for a year..... you got off easy.
2006-08-14 16:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by SillyQuestion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take other people's insecurities personal, if you move on and are secure with your own sexuality, and they arn't, their the ones getting ****** in the long run.
2006-08-15 12:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my point of view most men are intimidated by lesbians because they know can't be with them and it hurt their egos.
2006-08-14 16:48:01 · answer #8 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it just plain childish to think every one should be interested in you sexually.
Tammi Dee
2006-08-14 16:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what you mean.....but as a straight woman .....i would take it personal if a guy shows interest in me and i'm also interested only to find out he is gay........
2006-08-14 16:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋