i need the advice from women only. i was in a chat room last night and my husband was on before me some told me to ask him about some woman and this woman is a former student and i do c her sometimes cuz her oldest daughter is friends with one of my oldest daughters i did try to ask my husband about her but he would not tell me and he said there is nothing but the way he said it there is something and she came over this morning to vist and i even tryed to ask her and she did the same thing and husband is at work right now and i went into the same chat room today and someone told something and i do hope this person was wrong so i would like to know HOW DO I GET HIM TO TELL ME THE TRUTH ABOUT IT AND IF I DO GET IT OUT OF HIM WHAT SHOULD I DO NEXT
2006-08-14 09:08:58 · 33 answers · asked by jennyhoney37 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-14 09:33:10 · update #1
If you think he is hiding something then tell him what you know and watch his reactions. Tell him he really needs to get the truth out now.
If he tells you do you think that you should stay? If you can't trust him then why even bother finding out the truth?
2006-08-14 09:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering the other woman came over to visit this moring...while he was at work, this is your perfect opportunity. He has no idea what the 2 of you talked about. You could start off by saying when your husband does get hoome...." So and so came by today for a visit. She had lots to say about the 2 of you. I am really disappointed you felt as if after all this time together you couldnt sit down and tell me" If he says..." tell you what?" You then say..." come on, you cant possibly try and deny it now after she and I just spent 2 hours discussing it" " I am not mad but would like to hear your side of the story" See what happens...he may come clean if he thinks she has already blown the whistle.
2006-08-14 09:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband gets memberships to swinger sites and e mails invitations for sex with women of all races. I will not be here forever. Just biding my time. The computer is not good for the family. Too much easy access. Maybe it's just certain immature husbands. Mine included... Check the history on the computer. You may learn lots more. There's a little click button at the top of the screen...
2006-08-22 05:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust that there is nothin goin on, no matter what he says or does if will not fix anything. What interests me is that you would believe the strangers in a chat room over your spouse. Get off the computer and into bed with your husband, see if that might help the situation.
2006-08-22 05:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by bootandpooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can try to pretend to be him maybe at a time that he would be on and see if this other woman does show up... I know its hard but unless you catch him then you wont know if its true or not that he's cheating on you...you know he wont tell you...I am sorry that you are going thru this I know how you feel...cuz I've been there and what I did is I went on his yahoo id and clicked on the history button and saved all his im messages and that's how I caught him...good luck I hope it goes ok
2006-08-21 10:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by tinker143 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you could make someone tell you the truth unless I knew them personally. Think about a lie he has told you in the past and how you got the truth out of him then. Or, be creative, tell the girl that he told you, you are gonna have to find out some intimate details from someone who heard the conversation.
2006-08-14 09:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would love to help you...but your run-on sentence has completely rotted my brain. I wish I could be of some service to you...
and by the way if your husband says that he is not cheating on you i would just let it go but that is only my advice and my advice means nothing so do what you want to do because you are asking incoherent questions on this stupid website because apparently people have nothing better to do have a nice day
2006-08-14 09:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the lady above, get the chat log and print it out. Save it for a day in court, if needed. DO NOT tell him you have it. If he's cheating...make him pay in divorce court and find a better guy that you so deserve. If you learn they're meeting somewhere, hire a private investigator and get it on tape. Good luck, but he sounds like most men...they all lie.
2006-08-22 05:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him what you heard and ask what is going on and what is wrong in the marriage and how does he suggest repairing it? Listen to each other. Communication is extremely important. Give him as much s*x as he needs. Women can be left sometimes for this reason-when there isnt enough. Most men need alot of it.
2006-08-22 02:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a gut feeling there is a reason for this..maybe your unconscious knowledge of his deceitful body language when you ask him questions might be it....definitely research the things that people are telling you and don't go by what HE says 9 times out of 10 he is not going to admit to anything if he thinks he can get away with it. Read a book about body language before you ask him questions and see if he is showing signs of deceitful answers go with your gut feelings and unspoken words through body language........
2006-08-22 02:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋