me and my fianacee work a lot which i dont mind because it means we get more money and a break from each other. But theres one problem we only really see each other during the evenings now, and i think im getting used to him not being their.
I would have got upset before but now its gone from one extreme to the other he works week days and weekends, his days off fall on days im working to.
i just dont understand how im feeling because on one hand i've got used to him not being there but on the other hand i feel like im being torn apart.
Please can you help me to understand why and how to sort this out????
2006-08-14 09:03:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i work in payroll monday till friday 9am till 5pm and he does any days 9am till 5.30pm, but we find it hard still. But hes not as worried as me about it either!!!!!
2006-08-14 09:26:12 · update #1
get a different job.
go on holiday together and if you feel the same way split up...
2006-08-14 09:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean this to sound harsh, but you haven't anything to worry about. I've had a relationship where my boyfriend and i had about and hour every day together - he worked 9am -5pm and i worked from 8pm to 4am. By the time you take into account travelling we had the grand total of an hour together in daylight hours, and he'd get up for work only 90 minutes after i got home.
So if you you're only seeing him in the evenings thats ok. Enjoy the time you have together, and dont worry about getting used to him not being around, its only a problem if you resent him being around.
2006-08-18 02:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason your not getting upset now is because its not new anymore. You two have established a relationship and are more comfortable with each other than when you first dated. Now, you are in one hand enjoying your time alone and the other with someone you care about. Don't analyze it too much. Have fun with it for now, if you see things getting worst than maybe you both need to make changes.. Ever think that he may be having mutual feelings?
2006-08-14 09:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u obviously miss him and love him. r u working long hours to pay 4the wedding? if so this will pass and u'll b together soon. in the meantime try getting a day off and spending some quality time toghether, mayb stay in bed all day watching movies or other stuff. if u love each other deeply enough then u can conquer anything!
2006-08-14 09:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to sit down and talk properlly, say how you are feeling and how you feel like he doesnt seem to care enough about your lack of contact, money is no good to you both if you cant enjoy some time spent on each other..
2006-08-14 09:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its human nature to adjust to situations, me and my fiance have just spent 9 days apart, she went to barbados and i stayed home in ma wheelchair, in some ways i was devestated but its been great just worrying about me, enjoy your time apart but enjoy your time together, text him at work saying you miss him, and this may lead to you both being pleased to see each other.
2006-08-14 09:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by orfeo_fp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is talk to him about how your feeling ;-)
2006-08-14 09:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your shift
or have him change his
2006-08-14 09:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋