its nice to know that love is still here?

Question

my girlfriend just got back from a trip to spain. we have said openly that we love eachother, we both knew we loved eachother and we both like eachother. well i just found out that when she was in spain she went out and made out with another guy and hung uot with him and got really close. when she told me about this, she wanted me to respect her because of the fact that she told me,thought i was being too harsh over something and plain just went home and to bed. i dont know what's happening whether she just doesnt love me anymore, i mean i love her, but if she doesnt love me then all i ask is for her to at least be honest, and then she uses the excuse of "when you're not with me i feel different" does that mean that if i ever leave her alone later on im gonna have to worry about an affiar? she moved back to england just a few months ago, and i told her id move over once i finished college because ih ave to think about our kids and a future. i just dont know what to think. plz help

Answer 1

Despite the confidence of the first 2 answers, there's still too much left unknown. It's okay for young people to explore different relationships. I'd prefer my partner tell me when they do that than to hide it.

The question you need to find an answer for is not "will she ever make out with another guy or will she only focus on me?" You need to define under what conditions you want to be close to her and see if you can agree to those terms. Determine if she is worth it and that relationship status/flexibility is best for the long term.

Answer 2

u may love eachother..but that's not the problem here. the problem is, are u both willing and ABLE to do what is best for eachother? for the relationship? are u satisfying eachother, mentally, emotionally, physically?? if one or more thing are missing, there is a problem with the relationship. and remember, not because u don't love eachother, but because there are other factors involved. distance can be one, so can communication, and trust. seems like u have lost some trust in her... and u feel guilty because u do love her. but again, love is not the point. the point is, is she willing and able to do all she can to keep you satisfied? to keep ur trust? if not, then she may not be the right one for you. she may love u, but she may not be the right one. and u need to give her a chance to fix things, change things, if u do love her. but that chance should not become a 3rd time, and 4th time, u have to forgive her. she needs to take advantage of that chance, and do all she can to secure ur needs and wants. if she cannot do that, whether or not she is stubborn, or just is not able to, that is what u need to figure out. and u need to figure out what u expect from ur relationship. and from eachother. u need to be able to grow, and build that trust. u have to use that Love u have for eachother to fuel the relationships growth. if one person is not there, or not able, or not willing, it becomes one sided and there is resentment, anger, and distrust. love is still there, but it can sour. both of u have to work on it..and if u feel she doenst' understand, or continues to do things that u don't understand...then u will always have a rocky relationship. find someone who makes u feel Safe. Secure. Loved. Wanted. and Taken care of. and make sure u do the same for that person. that way u can weather ANY storm, or distance. good luck.

Answer 3

Sorry to be blunt, but this would fall under the category of BS and she is NOT being honest with you. She wanted to clear her own conscience not for you...but for her.

Dump her.