is it normal to want your wife of 8 years and kids back after 6 months of serperation?
is it normal to drink now and again and do some stupid stuff like turn up to talk?
am i wrong to have bought a brand new house and ask them all to come try again?
is it normal to take my kids but think of there mom when i do and get hurt?
is it wrong for her sister to interfere and call me worst than crap on the phone if i call?
2006-08-14 08:30:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure your gonna ask why we split, yes it was my fault yes i was messed up maybes still am but all i want is my family back and i will really do everything i should of.
2006-08-14 08:31:47 · update #1
You seriously have to talk to her, get some councilling,but above all dont listen to others, yes you made a mistake but dont we all.
2006-08-14 08:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal for a person to realise that, you realise that you want your family back for they are important to you, sometimes people take things for granted for the things that are there and realise the importance of it when it is gone.
It is normal to drink now and then as long as you know the level of your drinking capacity then it is not normal if you are drinking and do something bad after you had a drink, that's the problem you have to face and sort out, drinking alcohol is supposed to be drink moderately so you wouldn't end up do stupid stuff, and drink alcohol into your stomach and not into your head.
You brought a brand new house because of the reason that you're hoping for your family to be together again and build a new beginning and a new start and learn from your mistake and patch up things together.
I know sometimes family interfere in a relationship but you can not blame them for they seen their family or sister was hurt.
If you want your family back patch up things together and talk to each other and be responsible for your family. Family is important and if you think they are not important to you I don't think you will think and feel this way, so as they are important to you take care of them and cherish them as they will take care and cherish you, what you show to your family is what they will give you in return.
2006-08-15 23:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by confused_fozz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is normal wanting your family back is only the beginning if you want your wife and kids back you need to prove it actions speak louder than words! First you need to figure out if your ready to be a good husband then you need to prove it to your wife. It's going to take a lot of work especially when your the reason why the marriage is over in the first place. As far as her sister goes family is important and you should try to get along and put your differences behind you. Try to improve yourself and your faults first then try to work on your marriage! Good Luck
2006-08-14 08:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to want your family back. I don't know if it is the first time that you have messed up, but if you truly want to change, you are going to have to show her and be very sincere. You should sit down and talk with her about it and tell her that you would do anything to make things right. If it means marriage counseling, then do it.
Buying a house is good, it's for your family. It's moving ahead... Yes, it is wrong for her sister to interfere, but you need to understand that she is trying to protect her sister... Maybe you should tell your wife if she speaks with her, for her to keep it to herself on how she feels. Your wife speaks to her to vent. Everyone needs that, so don't take that away from her.....
Hope all works well with you.... Look unto the Lord and ask for forgiveness and for him to guide you and give you the strength to change and get your family back...
Good luck and God Bless
2006-08-14 08:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, its not normal. You are a plonker.
Your feeling of loneliness and regret are perfectly normal, but sucumbing to these emotions rather than getting on with your own life as independantly as possible is hindering you. It will be creating animosity with your ex-family as well. The more you contact her with what YOU want, the less inclined she will be to have any communication whatsoever. You are going to have to draw a line in the sand and move on, otherwise she will get so annoyed with your behaviour that she may get an injunction against you.
Getting drunk and turning up on her door to "talk" is bang out of order and she'll end up phoning the police which could put you in big trouble with the law. You need to get a grip of yourself, and stop wallowing in self pity. Grow up man, and start behaving like an adult.
2006-08-17 11:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Allasse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You messed up,drove your wife & family away,& now you want them back.It's all about poor you & your wants,isn't it?There must have been plenty of warnings before she left,but you being you,thought it would never happen.You admit that you still do the stupid things that lost you your family,drinking etc.Now you are harrassing them with drunken calls.Her sister is right to tell you what she thinks.Don't you realise a house is only bricks & mortar,it could never be a home to some-one who is abused in it.I believe you deserved all you got.
2006-08-18 07:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So youre STILL drinking and being stupid; how does that make you a suitable father and marriage partner??? If you had treated her right in the first place you wouldnt be whining to us now. So youve bought a new house; its not a new house she wants, its a different husband, so forget it and move on, and remember your mistakes for next time. If you treated her worse than crap, then yes, her sister does have the right to slag you off- stop calling---youre not welcome any more.
2006-08-14 12:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want your family back, pull out all the stops to prove to your wife just how important she is to you. And yes, it will take time and probably be painful along the way but it will be worth it.
I wouldn't worry about her sister, she is clearly just looking out for your wife
Good Luck!
2006-08-15 00:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by lucyt20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's worth fighting for but remember your wife is probably hurt and protecting herself. Just stay available and keep doing what you are. In the end it's her choice. The sister won't help but don't feel tempted to attack her, after all, she is only protecting her sister too. In time your wife may see how much you want to make it work.
2006-08-15 09:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by good tree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah its normal
you say you want your family back, is that the whole family,or just a fear of loosing your kids? her sister shouldnt interfer and that may stop your wife admitting how she reallys feels and what she really wants. but shes only looking out for her after all. think its a case of you dont realise what you got till its gone, if want something so bad fight for it, fate will take its place but give it a helping hand. whatevers happened could make you stronger?
2006-08-14 12:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by roundtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it one step at a time. if you have lost your wife's trust you have to gain it back slowly.
take her out for a coffee - just half an hour & talk. kinda like dating her all over again. it will take time months maybe but gradually she'll start to trust you & remember why she loved you in the 1st place.
However if she absolutely doesn't want to be with you, then you can't force her to change her mind im afraid.
2006-08-14 08:38:11 · answer #11 · answered by tjstarbe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋