Why do in-laws get in their kids life?

Question

My mother in law hates me because of something I said, and the evil ***** is trying to get back at me by doing things to cause my husband and I to separate, But I already told her What God put together let no man put asunder. What should I do to keep her from bothering us cause MY Husband ain't going no where?

Answer 1

Don't worry about her, and if your husband really loves you, then he will stay with you no matter what. The reason why some inlaws act like that is because they hear something from someone else about you or they have someone picked out for their child to marry, and most of the time that doesn't work out the way they want so they become frusterated. Just put all of that in the hands of the Lord and don't worry about it because if you and your husband are meant to be together, then yawl will stay together.

Answer 2

Pray for your mother-in-law. Maybe we should all get together and talk about our mean mother-in-laws. But in all sincerity, there seems to be an issue of control of Mothers and their grown sons. I hate it. What I have learned is to pray for the situation and ask God to intervene because a lot of the times I don't know what to do with my mother-in-law. But I do ask my husband to back me up whenever his mother is around. It is my husband's responsbility to protect me from his mother and all the words that come out of her mouth. My husband has had to put his foot down several times and his mother has backed off a lot. I personally had to tell his mother to mind her own business. There still is a lot of work to be done in this area. But your husband and you need to come together as a team and whatever his mother does to you, remember to be nice and have your husband deal with his own mother. I quote, "Have your husband deal with his own mother - not you." I can't stress that enough. Try to stay out of combat situations with the mother-in-law if you can, I know it is hard. But this is where you see how your husband feels about you. If he truly loves you, then he will stand up for you even when it comes to his own mother. If need be, have your husband tell her that there needs to be a time of separation in visits, phone calls, letters, emails. etc so that your husband and you can focus on each other. Your husband's relationship to you should be stronger and more important that his relationship with his mother. At least that is what the Bible teaches.

Answer 3

My situation is not nearly as dramatic, but here is what I do and why. My MIL is kind to me for the most part but her "nice" switch flips on occasion and she becomes very demanding and controlling. We recently moved and prepared our old house for sale. She insisted on going there and giving it a good cleaning. I reluctantly agreed having already spent days cleaning it myself. MIL spent three days there. I would go over to see if she needed a soda or lunch and she would hit me with a barrage of insults. "I can't believe you put the house on the market in this condition!" or "this house is a mess, have you ever cleaned behind the appliances?" While moving into our new place, she insisted that our furniture be put into the spots she chose. That was the only time I put my foot down in a very clear and consise way. She also guilted my husband into taking some of her creepy old family photos for OUR living room. My husband and I decided to take the pictures but not put them up, telling her that they just don't fit our design scheme.

Basically what I do to combat her insults and controlling nature is to 95% of the time agree with her maddness or ignore her. She's not going away anytime soon, and neither am I. We limit the time we spend with her and exchange niceties when we're in her presence. Personally, I don't like drama or tension and I've situated my life to proceed according to those rules. I just don't want to fight or argue with this woman or anyone for that matter.

In your case, I would move away or ignore her attempts to make you feel insecure. Avoid any real converstaion with this woman because it is guaranteed to become hostile. Sometimes to keep peace you have to be the one willing to make peace happen.

Answer 4

I have a similiar situation. I have a real b@@@@ of a mother in law as well. She is always medelling in our business, and wanting to noise where she shouldn't. She has even gone as far to call my family to try and get them mad at me. I have learned that you need to speak your mind to these type of people and if they still do not listen then you need to have your man make a stern impression on her about your relationship then she will eventually see that all the plotting in the world is not going to buge that mountain of a relationship. If your man won't stick up for you to her then you have other issues that need to be dealt with.

Answer 5

Monster in-law strikes again! Been there and don't deal with the crazy @#$& anymore! thats hubby's job. If he wants to deal with all that drama it's all on him sweety! That is what caller ID is for. Don't pick up the phone. Don't deal with it! It works for me! He isn't getting booty from moma, he is getting it from you. I've tried every route to get along with my monster in-law and it did'nt work. This works best. Just keep hubby happy and don't deal with her. If that doesn't work you might think there are always other options.

Answer 6

Luckily I don't have problems with the in laws. I can see where you are coming from and the best thing to do is to just play nice.

Answer 7

Thats tough.

Your husband has to stand up for you and tell her to stop interferring or you are gonna have years and years of this!

Just try to get along with her for your husbands sake.

Answer 8

maybe you should tell your husband that you come first and not his Mom! Is he sticking up for you? Or is he just cowering in the corner when you fight with your mohter-in-law?

Answer 9

Tell your husband to talk to her. Let him be the one to do it because she's more likely to listen to him then to you.

Answer 10

My mother in law is the same way...mine is different thought...I'm white and she can't get over that he black son love a white women...like we are any different...and that I wont let her stay at our house. I don't care who she is no druggie can stay in my house....GRRRRRR in-laws...