I knew this going into this relationship, but I thought I could be okay with it, but the jealous side of me kicked in, what do I do? Is there anyone out there going through the same situation or has been through this type of situation. We do love each other, but he's obligated to her. We've been a couple for 5 years now.
2006-08-14 08:23:11 · 35 answers · asked by tami78731 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You made your bed, you lay in it. Why wouldn't he have sex with his wife? Its his wife! Married men hardly ever leave their wives so if you can't handle it than you should end it.
2006-08-14 08:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by renee1724 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey ,I hate to tell you this but you and him are not a couple,his wife and him are the couple.You are the boody call whether you think so or not.
And hes using the old "Ive got obligations to her" line.
He has the best of both worlds and you have nothing but sex and heartache.is he obligated to have sex with her ,and how do you know he does,unless he likes telling you to make you jealous.He sounds like a real winner,why are you putting yourself through this,don't tell me that old tired "I love him"crap.Get some self respect,tell him to stay with his wife and leave you alone.You deserve someone to love only you and to be faithful.I'm not letting you off the hook about being with a married man you know that's wrong so I wont go there ,but you need to get out of this so called relationship that is a 3 way trip for disaster.I cant believe you have wasted 5 yrs on this jerk.
Let him go,rise above this and find a real honest man that loves only you .Good luck
2006-08-14 08:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Yakuza 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you foolish or just plain stupid? What a freaking shame that he spends some of his sexual energy on his WIFE. You love each other? You've been a couple for 5 years? Question, where does he have Thanksgiving and Christmas? Does he have your name on any deeds or wills? I would be surprised. You are not a couple . You are living in an adulterous dream world. Why don't you stop being jealous of his wife and get out of her world. Go get your own man so another woman can do your husband.
2006-08-14 08:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fool to believe anything will come out of this relationship with this married guy of yours! He is sitting on both sides of the fence and having a blast! And what do you have to show for it? Nothing.
Married men very rarely leave their spouses for their lover. There is way too much at stake - financially and convenience! And if there are children involved, you better know that is one more reason he will not leave.
Your guy will always be obligated to his spouse regardless of what he tells you about his relationship with her or anything else. The best thing you could do for yourself is get out of this relationship as quickly as you can. Yes, 5 years is along time, its a monumental loss of time on your part. And if and when you say your good-byes, there will be another women to fill your shoes.
2006-08-14 08:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship your in is going nowhere. They never leave their wives and will tell you, the other woman, lies upon lies as to why they cant or wont leave. As far as getting jealous when he makes love with his wife....that is almost a joke in itself. Do you really think you have that right? She is his wife. She is the one that is supposed to be having sex with him, and ONLY her. How would you feel if this man left his current wife, married you, then cheated on you with someone else? Once a cheater always a cheater, and what comes around goes around. Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.
2006-08-14 08:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if your ok with not having him as yours then what is your problem ?? Your upset because he's having sex with his wife ?? The nerve of her, she must have been horny. Come on, get a grip. I'm sure the wife and you are not the only ones. I know you probably think different but I'm sure that is the case. When you sleep with a married man you have to know he is sleeping with others too. Its come to the point where you need to end this. You let yourself get emotionally attached and your only going to be hurt more and more as time goes by.
2006-08-14 08:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation once. He was married when we met. Never lied to me about it. Swept me off me feet. Fell in love head over hills. But I always told him that I would never ask him to leave her. That's wrong. It did hurt knowing that he was going home to her and make love to her. I stayed until I couldn't take being second anymore. I left he came and found me when he seen that I was not coming back and that I was serious. He left her and got a divorce. But it was not because I asked him too. If he really wanted to be with you then he would but as long as you let him keep doing this to you and settling for second place then he will keep doing it. So you really can't get mad. You made the decision to with him knowing. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
2006-08-14 08:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is lying to you. I know what you are feeling for him right now but it's time to think about you! I think that you need to make a decision, Do you feel you deserve that type of treatment? It's normal to feel jealous when someone you feel so strongly about is sleeping with someone else, even if the someone else is his wife. This situation is not good for you. Try getting with someone that will be just yours.
We like to tell our selves that we can handle it but the truth is we are human!
And for all those people that are blaming you for being a home wrecker, HELLO he obviously has no respect for his wife, It takes 2 to tango !
Good Luck!
2006-08-14 08:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years and still making empty promises. Move on girl and get you a man of your own. I hope when you get married that your husband finds and keeps an ongoing relationship w/ another woman. That way you get a taste of your own medicine. Its like the saying goes if you cant take the heat get out of the kitchen!!!
2006-08-14 08:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by ariola2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF IT. This man doesn't love you and never will. He obligated to her because he married her. Stop being the other woman - it only shows how WEAK you are as a person.
2006-08-14 08:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's amazing how blind people can be.
Echoing all the advice given here:
- You are not a couple. You are his mistress.
- He may be obligated to his wife, but if that's all it is, why is he sleeping with her? Because it's more than just an obligation.
2006-08-14 08:42:00 · answer #11 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋