A decade ago, I had a best friend for thirteen years. She even lived on the same street as me. We did everything together. She even kept my secrets. Then things changed. She spent more time with her boyfriend and her other friends than with me. She borrrowed things and never returned them. Our plans were cancelled or postponed.One rough patch: her phone was broken, and had to use her family’s other phone number. Her dad got mad, when I explained about her phone problems, and that she told me to call her back at certain times. I did that. It wasn’t my fault. I’ve told her to get a new one or get it fixed. At least her mom understood. Then things were okay. The last time I saw her was January 1996. But she never told me she moved, when I found out later from her parents, and asked for my stuff back. I even asked for her address and phone number-her parents said they lost it or don’t have it. I thought that it was strange. So why did she end things like that? Why did her parents lie?
2006-08-14 08:20:35 · 13 answers · asked by Kristen H 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why it ended like that? She may have simply outgrown you and didn't know how to tell you and/or didn't understand it herself. She just realized she didnt' want to be friends with you any more. Don't take it personally, it could merely be her own issues and you don't fit into her life anymore.
Why her parents lied? A parents job is to protect their children at all times. If she is the fussy type, she may told them years ago never to tell anyone anything about her because if she had wanted them to know she would have told them. Her parents are just honoring her wishes. Again, don't take it personally.
It's been since 1996 and so it's time to just let it go and focus on your current friendships. Let bygones be bygones!
2006-08-14 08:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds screwed up. I would have said that you should call her up and say hey.. you know; get things started. But maybe she turned for the worse in life.
On proactive measures, just people search her in the general area that you think she is and call her up or write a letter. But do you really want to go through so much work to converse with a person you haven't know since 1996?-- You two may have totally different personalities. Good luck!
2006-08-14 08:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by hangout756 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time have replaced and so have human beings. Distance is a huge ingredient besides. because of the fact of this long distance relationships infrequently ever artwork out becasue it variations human beings whilst they circulate to a diverse place and make new pals. If the friendship replaced into so tight contained in the commencing up, than you 2 could nonetheless be pals so, because you 2 stopped speaking, i assume it is not as tight as you nevertheless.
2016-09-29 06:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by gangwer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress yourself out about it. Sometimes certain circumstances in a person's life keeps them from letting their good friends that they had to move away. There's more to your friends story than she or her parents are willing to share. Don't worry. Let them work things out amongst themselves. Maybe some day your friend will come looking for you with an explanation. Just be willing to listen to her.
2006-08-14 08:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really stupid how they are reacting... She probably didnt know how to tell u she didnt want to be friends with you anymore so she told her parents top lie for you which was totally wrong. Does she have anyone she kept in touch with so u can try to talk to her in person. Find out why and what happened to your friendship. It was wrong for her parents and her to deal with this problem in this mannor... Friends should be able to tell you everything and tell you that she didnt want tot friends or whatever..good luck
2006-08-14 08:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents know something that you dont wanna know. Plus, what is a friend like that good for? I think she just didn't want to be friend with you anymore, and that makes it very unpleasant, but true and you shouldnt dig into why...just accept it.
About your stuff back...not sure how much stuff did you give to her.
Anyway she was rude. I understand your feelings.
2006-08-14 08:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by Umpalumpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you did anything wrong it's not you it's them just you a best friend that understand and parents that appreciate what good of a friend you are
2006-08-14 08:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have seen you as a threat or a bad influence. Parents just don't understand
2006-08-14 08:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we outgrow our friends. and maybe your personality didn't match hers anymore, she probably told her parents to not give you her phone number, or simply she ran away and they didn't want to tell you.
2006-08-14 08:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she told them that she didn't want to know anything about you anymore and not to give you any info about her.
why would she do that? people change, that's life. let it go...
2006-08-14 08:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by Nia24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋