She is very inhibited and shy. It took almost a year for her to go down on me. I think she's afraid it might hurt, but she's ok watching porno's where they do some anal. any advice?
2006-08-14 08:16:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
put it in as she sleeps
2006-08-14 08:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by King Of All Kings 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Be very very gentle. Try kissing and licking her rear hole for first few times. Using lots of lubrication, gently slide in your small finger in her rear. Let her get comfortable with the feeling before going in deeper. Then ask her whar position would be comfortable for her. And very gently try nudging head of your Peni_s in her rear very very slowly. DO not make haste or try to shove it in too hard or fast. Let her control the amount of penetration. If she is OK slide it in little bit more. If she likes her first anal encounter she is never going back. The same happened to me. My first anal was so wonderfull that now anal is part of our lovemaking almost all the time.
2006-08-14 08:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it took her a yr to go down on u, then expect the anal to be much harder!! It will hurt!!! Some will like it, some won't! By watching it, she sounds somewhat open to it. If she give u the opportunity, make sure u do it real slow, and gentle, & ur chances of her liking it will be greater.
2006-08-14 08:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by SADN W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, you cant force her because it will hurt like hell, I know. She needs to be totally relaxed and reassurance from you. My hubby does a lot of for play with me and this makes me really relaxed and turned on. He does everything he can to take my concentration away from what hes doing. He will start off fingering me real slow while hes kissing my neck or rubbing me else where. By doing this it gets my mind off him trying to do anal with me. You cant just stick it in. Foreplay is the key.
2006-08-14 08:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by adatude4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not take the advice of these men!! Forcing someone to have sex when they don't want to (either tied up or sleeping) is considered rape- even if you are married! Talk with her about it at a time when you're not being intimate- it will feel less intimidating. Maybe just ask to try it once, and if it hurts you'll stop. Being supportive of her feelings and concerns will make it more likely that she'll go for it. Give her time. It took a year for a ********, it may take 3 for anal. Respect is the number one thing you can give her.
2006-08-14 08:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by magnanamous 1 · 5⤊ 3⤋
You don't, it will hurt. You be happy with what you get, if you do otherwise she will come to the conslusion that what she does do isn't good enough for you and she'll stop doing that too. Why do men do this crap all the time? Why can't they ever just appreciate what they do get? Are you willing to do it? Men actually get much more pleasure out of anal stimulation than women do, it stimulates the prostate. Get over it, if you wanted porn movie sex you should have married a porn star (and do you really think they would act like that if they weren't getting paid for it). Are you willing to pay her what they make for doing it?
2006-08-14 08:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
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2016-04-21 14:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS HURTS, ALOT THE FIRST FEW TIMES!
then it feels amazing, I love it! Tell her this, its gonna hurt but we will ease you into it and we will both enjoy it. Use a finger a few times so she can get used to the idea. Use plenty of lube. go easy on her, the first few times you wont even get all the way in before she starts crying and pulling away....thats just the way it goes.
2006-08-14 08:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by deet deet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject for women. Speaking as a female, we dont get anything from anal, it is stictly for the mans pleasure. If this is something you enjoy then sit her down and express your desire to experiment. Ask if she would be willing and if she is then take it very slow and with lots and lots of lubicant. My husband asks me for anal and my response is this...as long as I can do you first. He of course says no way. Why is it ok for us to do anal but not you men???
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2015-01-24 08:05:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋