My husband said he's fallen out of love with me but we still have sex, and when we do he's there he isn't distant. I there something else wrong because I don't want my marriage to end...
2006-08-14 08:16:06 · 11 answers · asked by babie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is possible to fall out of love, it happened to me. I strongly suggest not sleeping with him anymore. If he has no feelings for you, theres no need to.
2006-08-14 08:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honey, if he says he doesn't love you anymore, then don't ignore him. Obviously, he's "there" when you're having sex. That's probably the best thing about your relationship. I have learned that love has nothing to do with sex, and he would probably do you if you weren't together anymore, too, but that doesn't mean that he loves you. There is probably something else going on. Usually if the man is cheating or something, he won't want sex from you at all, so maybe it's something else. But, don't be crazy and ignore him when he's trying to say something important like that.
2006-08-14 15:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little word of advice, stop sleeping with someone that tells you he doesnt love you anymore. Have some self respect. If you think him having sex with you means he must have some love left for you, it doesnt. Men can seperate sex from love very easily. Women on the other hand, have a much harder time. So while you spend time investing your heart in hopes he will come around.....in his mind it is just sex. Try some counseling for couples. My best of luck to you and I am sorry.
2006-08-14 15:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband told you he's fallen out of love - THAT IS A HUGE DEAL! SOMETHING IS INCREDIBLY WRONG and you need to find out what. Why didn't he tell you? STOP HAVING SEX - it's only making things worse. He's probably having an affair. God, how awful. I feel for you. You will probably get divorced VERY SOON.
2006-08-14 15:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...you can surely fall out of love. However, we must be reminded that when we make the vow it is for better or for worse. The falling out of love hurts but it is just as much within his power to rekindle the feeling and fall back in love with you.
This is NOT your problem. It is his. You have to remind him of his vows. Sounds to me like he is being selfish and hurtful. I know because I did this very thing to my husband.
I was fortunate to realize just how special he is and always will be before I did some stupid *** thing like divorce him. It is all about what we choose to focus on. There is always bad or annoying that is why it is up to us as caring individuals to focus on good and be reminded of that.
Try withholding sex. Tell him you can't get intimate with someone that doesn't "LOVE" you. He really needs to shape up.
2006-08-14 15:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to some extreme circumstances, such as cheating, or so on, can cause someone to fall out of love. But, other than that when I hear someone is falling out of love I tend to believe that the person mistook love for lust or infatuation because of the similarties but with one fine line difference. I suggest that you both go to marriage couseling and determine what the problem is and possibly re-evaluate your relationship or definition of love for that matter. Best wishes!!!!
2006-08-14 15:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can fall out of love.
And to speak in generalizations, more women than men equate sex with love. He could easily still want to have sex with you and not be IN love with you.
By the way, there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Sounds like he may have moved from one to the other. It happens.
That being said, I would ask him specifically what he means when he says he's fallen out of love with you, what kind of relationship he wants with you, what your future entails in his mind. Then make up YOUR mind if you want to live like that.
Good luck.
2006-08-14 15:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people fall out of love everyday. The sex is just sex to him if he doesn't love you anymore.
2006-08-14 19:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband has told you he has fallen out of love with you, then you can safely assume your marriage is over.
2006-08-14 15:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him. He is just using you to satisfy his sexual needs. Tell him he needs to commit or it is over. If it ends so be it. Move on as he had moved on already.
2006-08-18 03:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by Baby_Apocalypse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋