I do not see him in my future. He has been stagnating all his life and offers nothing to me. I need to leave but he says he'll die if I do. Please help!
2006-08-14 08:06:38 · 15 answers · asked by lovelee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The whole, "I'll die!" lines is one of the saddest things I have ever heard. You are not happy. It is your life. You definitely need to break up. I will say this as both a dumper/dumpee, breaking up sucks no matter how nice you are, because at the end of the day, someone is still being rejected by someone they have feelings for. Be honest. If he has done something or a few things in particular. Tell him. It might allow him to fix a few things for a future relationship. When you do it, don't talk in circles. Say everything that you want to say once, no repeats! Then leave, dragging it out will only hurt you both. After the breakup, you both will feel lonely, but spend time with friends or pick up new or old hobbies. The lonely times are tough but "this too shall pass." Don't continue talking to him because it will just make the healing process take longer for the both of you. Remember you are breaking up with him for a reason. Do it sooner rather than later, and after some time passes and you heal, you can find a person that makes you truly happy.
2006-08-14 08:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless...you are going to hurt him. every break up hurts, there is no way around it. Do NOT let him manipulate you in to thinking that he'll die if you break up with him, he's trying to keep you around because he knows no one else will want him. If you do not see him in your future get rid of him, why waste your time on something that is going to get you nowhere? would you work for free? well in a sense that's what you are doing! It won't be easy, but after you do it you'll feel so much better. Sure you'll miss him, but trust me, you'll pat yourself on the back and thank yourself later on. If he says he's going to change, tell him to prove it first...don't let him slack girl and USE you. You can do it!
2006-08-14 08:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't die, the guy just loves drama. You know when you had had a bandage for too long its sticks very bad? Then if you peel it off slowly it hurts like hell everytime you take a pull? Well, if you pull it fast it hurts for less time. Same with relationships it heals quicker if you just rip it fast. Just tell him the same thing you put here.
2006-08-14 08:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Almita79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be totally honest with him. Tell him that you don't see him in your future. He's going to get hurt no matter what you tell him, just make sure you tell him somewhere private... if he's a sensitive guy and he might cry, it's better that you're not in public. also make sure you don't do it over e-mail, text or anything like that, because that just makes you seem b*tchy. Tell him in person and remember to be honest about it.
2006-08-14 08:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know why you are leaving. He needs this for future relationships too succeed. There is no way to let a guy down easy. Sooner than later is your best option.
2006-08-14 08:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by jewl_8098 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to emotionally blackmail you. Don't let him. He won't die. He'll hurt for awhile. We've all been hurt at some time. But he will heal.
2006-08-14 08:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your responsibility to make him happy.......its your responsibility to make yourself happy......that may well sound selfish......but if there is no love....then move on. It will end sooner or later.......regards the suicide threats.....sounds so familiar...Ive been there and done that.......he's still alive! There just threats...... you need to move on. If you see no future.....then there probably isnt going to be one....do what feels right and if getting out....feels right then go for it. You cant stay with somebody because there threating there life! Your head sounds like its screwed on right......his....doubtfull! Good luck................. L.Butler
2006-08-14 08:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, he is a loser to tell you he will die if you break up with him.....he won't die and you'll be happier.
2006-08-14 08:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Special Ethel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want your life back and it's time for both of you to move on.
2006-08-14 08:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by Americanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure, don't waste any time. Tell him. Even if you are nice, it won't hurt less... do it honestly, in respect.
He'll thank you later.
Good luck!
2006-08-14 08:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋