I've been married almost 10 yrs. Who else thinks that after that long, a couple should probably just break up

Question

the chores instead of constantly figuring out who's doing what? How do you separate your chores and stuff. Do you have a set list or is it random like my wife and I?

Answer 1

I searched for you and are now reading all of your questions, they are all totally different from each other, so creative!!!! LMAO, thanks for the laughs

Answer 2

No set list. I tell him I want the chores to be 50/50. So it is about 70/30 with me having the 70. I am content with that, but if I told him I was I would only get 90/10. Mind games=marriage. lol

Answer 3

WHOEVER IS CLOSER TO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE FIRST..............THAT'S A GOOD POILCY. "you're closer, and you got here first" could work if you both stick to it....But if that doesn't work for you, then you need to make an evenly divided list.
As far as the 10 year breakup-thing.....only those who forget why they're together, those who forget to flirt, date, and try to seduce each other, and try to win each other over......the ones that forget and are not willing to get through it should break up.
People forget, lose motivation, and passion here and there over time. It happens. But if you really want to stay together, you ask for what you need, you learn what it would take for your partenr to feel like #1 and you are willing to do whatever it takes to inspire those feelings......you fall in love again.
Forget fighting. Character assassinations, spite, and intending to hurt, are counter-productive. The way you treat others is a reflection of how you feel about yourself.
Disagreements happen, but EVERYONE"S feelings are legitimate, even if they don't make sense to you. Think of it like this: all arguments should be conducted like a debate class......follow the rules. Present your argument, and support it with fatcts, not feelings.
If you feel undesirable, underappreciated, powerless, unimportant, avoided, untrusted, unwanted.....you need to step up and tell your partner that, and what it would take to win you over.....
People get all wrapped up in their own priorities and become self-absorbed. They forget to see beyone their own perspective if they are not reminded once in a while......
Be willing to put forth as much effort as you want her to. You can't make her feel anything, but your actions can INSPIRE the feelings you wished she would have, and wish you had.....
Give her what you yourself want, and she will want to reciprocate.
You could get ideas from www.drphil.com if you look at a premarital checklist of all the forgotten things people should consider before marrying.

Answer 4

We never had a formal conversation about it. It all just gets done because we are not lazy and we both chip in. I never leave something for him to do later...I just do it, or ask him to help. I shop, make dinner, do dishes, clean house. He does the garbage, helps w/ laundry, mows, rakes lawn, general outside stuff and the cars. It all works out pretty even I think and there is nothing to fight about.

Answer 5

i've been married for 11 years and we've shared chores from the get go. he even does his own work clothes. there are other reasons why after 11 years I want to call it quits. like for exmple his anger management issues.

Answer 6

We share the chores. We have no list but do seem to pretty evenly split things.

Answer 7

I have now been taken in 3 times. Funny stuff. My favorite was the 'Jewels'. I do not do dishes, she doesn't do laundry. Everything else is up for grabs.

Answer 8

One time I wanted my husband to clean the birdcage and he wouldn't, so I wrote it in eyeliner across my *** and mooned him. That worked but only once.

Answer 9

Your questions are getting less gross. Are you softening up on us. Just whoever has time to do whatever, it's a partnership..

Answer 10

yeah, time to upgrade and get a maid, a hot one too