Any happy - truly content - couples out there that can give us a clue? How long have you been happy? Were you always? How did you discover the secret of getting along with each other so well?
2006-08-14 07:47:24 · 9 answers · asked by NANCY K 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No relationship is perfect - It's all in how you deal with the problems. My husband is my BEST FRIEND and we have the utmost respect and trust for eachother. We may have our disagreements, but our love is stronger than that. Over the years we have learned to communicate with eachother and figure things out without 'fighting'. We are sensitive to eachothers needs and we tell eachother daily how much we love eachother. Both people have to realize that it's not all about them anymore, but when you got married you became ONE. Work as a team, love as a team and when things get hard...Figure it out as a team.
2006-08-14 07:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laughter, forgiveness, tolerance, compromise and acceptance. I've been married almost 18 years. It hasn't always been this way, just the last 9. Over time, we've learned what is really important. We did have some counseling to shed some light on this for us. Instead of looking for outside sources to keep us content, we had to turn toward each other. The more we did that, the fonder our hearts grew. We are now best friends as well as husband and wife. It also helps to have the motto "things could always be worse". It gets us through the hard times. And there is something to be said about choosing your battles carefully. As well as never going to bed mad at each other. And last but not least, you have to want it to be happy. Those who do, often suceed in finding that kind of love, those who could care less, often find out it doesn't last.
2006-08-14 15:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself to have a happy relationship for the most part. But, with marriage or anything else for that matter will always have highs and lows. However, I think it's good to marry a partner that is not only your lover but also your best friend. In my opinion, I feel that good communication, respect and unconditional love is the key to a successful relationship with happiness. But with true love, a unhappy moment will seem so minimal with such a maximum love. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-14 15:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dated a person going back several years
and it has worked and been consistently joyable getting better by the day because we are compatible and like doing the same things and have the same interest.
We both also have the same personalities where we like to give and help others. We both are also family oriented and basically we have too many of the same characteristics and ideals of what we want out of life which compatibility is very very very important and communication without either, you don't have a relationship.
I don't buy the old saying "opposites attract" they don't and you will eventually notice that the opposite is causing problems. If one partner is a communicator and the other doesn't like to talk you got a problem. If one partner likes to stay home and you like to go out, you already have a problem, so as I said communicate and be compatible and you should see longevity.
2006-08-14 15:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought that we were happy until we reached our 2 year mark. We started fighting every day and things just fell apart. We just officially ended it and it hurts so bad. The true thing to happiness is having your lover being your best friend, but that's when it hurts the most when it ends. I hope that if you are with some one you can find true happiness. Good luck.
2006-08-14 14:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by sexylilgirl_idealmgf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are a happy couple but we have had our ups and downs. We have argued but never gotten into big fights. Someone has to have control. For example, I tell my husband that i don't want to fight. We sit down and talk. Also, we never call each other names. Show him/her how you feel. Express yourself. Communication is the secret to a happy marriage.
2006-08-14 16:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always been ipen and hounest if tehre is ever problem we can tell it 2 each other stiaght... this also meens we have alot trust in each other
A good sex life is also a plus.. so b prepeared 2 experiment... also ask wt he preafers my g/f asked me 2 gain some mucle so she did and i asked her 2 gain some weight (fat and she did)... adn it relli made are sex alot more enjoyble and we both not lookin at other ppl
also jst makin a romtic effort is gd aswell ;)
2006-08-14 15:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been happily married for 5 years. the basic thing in a lasting and happy is trust and faith. i know from my past mistakes if I want to be happy I have to change my faults and one off them I did not know how to really communicate or trust. I held resentments and blamed it on him. now if i feel that he said something to upset me, I comely ask my self what my part was in then we sit down we talk about it and let go
THIS TOO SHALL PASS.
2006-08-14 15:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes work and compatible personalities. I talk to my husband as often as possible about all sorts of things from the news to tv to whatever project we are working on. We spend as much time together as possible and I can't wait to spend alone or vacation time with him because that's the only time I get all of his attention. I love that.
2006-08-14 14:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by moviegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋