I have never actually had one, at least not that I know of. (I figured it'd be an obvious feeling, so I'm pretty sure I haven't) It's not that I'm not pleasured during foreplay or intercourse, because it does feel great. But for some reason I've never reached that 'point'. Is this really so strange or is this common?
2006-08-14 07:44:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Orgasm difficulty is a very common problem for many women, usually after childbirth or for those on birth control, although younger women and women of all ages can also experience the problem. The causes range from some type of physical or emotional trauma, such as damage to the nerves of the sexual organs or excessive anxiety. Overuse of vibrators can also cause low sensitivity leading to orgasm difficulty. Hormonal imbalances also results in difficult arousal and the lack of sexual urge and orgasm difficulty.
2006-08-14 07:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
every normal person have orgasm....so even you have experienced it... i tell you...
but the problem is you have just fantasized it to a great point... you think it must be something great.....
well, yes it's a great experience...but...let me explain you how it feels... when you reach the orgasm, hormone called oxytocin is secreted, and, all the smoodh muscles of the body is contracted and gives you sence of great satisfaction, your heart rate and respriratory rate increases, and much mor things happen you don't need to go in detail...
in short, when orgasm happens, you feel, yes, this is just what i wanted.... remember, everytime it has different intensity and not similar experience.... don't keep very high expectations, there won't be any blast... the blast would be inside your mind....
surely you'll enjoy much more when you don't expect....just don't worry....enjoy...
2006-08-14 14:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by dhrupadvaria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it depends on your age. If you're young or relatively inexperienced, tension and nerves can get in the way. Let's hope you're not so young (adolescent) that your cycle is still irregular which means your hormones are all over the place, and that could be an inhibitor. You need to relax and not be worrying about what your partner thinks of you. There may be compatibility issues with your partner, too.
A lot of women fake it from time to time, tho men usually would never believe it. Which means you can get away with it if you feel you need to.
2006-08-14 14:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not strange or uncommon. It took the right "fit" and guy before I reached climax/orgasm and I'd been having sex for 4 years before I met him. Once you've had one, you'll never have the same problem again ;-)
Tip?
If you have a shower or even better, a shower head, hold the shower head about 20cm away from your clitoris or, place one of your legs up against the wall in the shower and use the water"fall" to find your "spot" on/around your clitoris (even if you have to part your labia majora with one hand or whatever). Have the water fall onto whatever part is best for a bit and... see if it works.
ENJOY!
2006-08-14 14:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jesi G 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
most women cannot reach orgasm thru intercourse. they need direct clitoral stimulation. Do you own a vibrator? i suggest masturbating and really learning what does it for you. Then you can teach your partner what you like, and hopefully orgasm. Does your partner perform oral on you? if he does does he finger you at the same time? if he finds your g spot and plays with your clitoris at the same time that could do it for you. get a bullet, very small vibrator, that you place on your clitoris they work the best. Also if you are on certain medications that have sexual side effects, that could also be the problem.
2006-08-14 14:51:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's fairly common for young women to not experience an orgasm. Don't believe people who tell you they always orgasm or they have 7 in a row. Truly multi-orgasmic women are rare.
First, relax and enjoy the intimacy. And don't put pressure on yourself to have one.
Next, realize that orgasms feel different. A clitoral orgasm does not feel the same as a vaginal one or a g-spot one.
The best way to find out what turns you on is to do it yourself. Then teach your partner how to please you. He's not psychic, so you need to tell him & show him. Enjoy ;-)
2006-08-14 14:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it you will get there just enjoy things the way they are!!! Sometimes it can take a while-believe me I was in my 20's!!!
2006-08-14 14:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not uncommon at all. you have to "practice" to get one. i am serious! it took me many years before I had one, but now I have at least 3 every time i have sex with my hubby.
i could give them to myself when i masturbated, but never with sex. try that. use your hand or get a toy, they're fun! but don't give up, you'll get one eventually.
2006-08-14 14:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by stickan8 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
common till you can totaly trust your partner
2006-08-14 14:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by jyd9999 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some women have a problem with this.
2006-08-14 14:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋