Is it appropriate for me to be upset? Or should I know better?
A friend invites you to go out in a few days and says they'll call you up once they decide when they're gonna go. They never call. And when you ask them about it a few days later they tell you they tried calling you, but that YOU never picked up. When you ask for more details they don't respond. Perhaps, they made that excuse up. They've repeatedly done stuff like that in the past.
Makes me not want to go to their wedding if their lying manipulative a$s ever gets married. That insecure, manipulative, condescending, wreck of a friend...The only reason I'm so invested in this friend is b/c I don't know many others that share similar interests like this one and making new friends is difficult and slow.
2006-08-14 07:41:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have friends like these. I call them my toxic friends. I finally just stopped calling them and all the sudden they realized that hey, I'm not around and all the sudden they started calling again. I suggest making new friends. Its hard, but you'll be happier. At least you'll have someone there for you when you need them instead of people who only want to talk to you when it is convenient for them.
2006-08-14 07:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Hula Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand fully I have had many friends like that in the past that would invite me to go out and at the last minute would cancel or not show up at all. I used to let it bother me so much and it would actually play on my self-esteem. What I did was I started inviting them over or out and would do the same thing to them to show them what it felt like, and then I went out and met new people who didn't always share all my interests but, they actually were better friends to me then any of the rest that I thought I had more in common with. Go out meet new people and you'll see these so called friends will be trying to hunt you down now that they see your not dependant on them anymore. You'll see you wont even have time for these jerks anymore....you will be too busy with your new fun life. Don't waste your time they obviously don't respect you....they see you as "GOOD OLD RELIABLE". Turn things around let them go there will always be others that won't treat you like S H I T.
2006-08-14 07:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would be upset if that happens... and you say that it has happened to you a few times, not just once. That's really not fair from your friend, to call you out, and then not set up the date. Oh come on, you didn't pick up your phone when I called... lame excuse. There are many ways to contact the person, not only through phone call. And it's obvious they made the excuse up since they don't reply when you ask them for details. Don't let that friend to use you like that, and lie to you constantly.
2006-08-14 07:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by miraob86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be easy to make new friends, but that is precisely what you need to be doing. Since it takes time for a true friendship to develop, start now so you'll have folks to count on in the future. And remember, the best way to have a friend is to be one. You don't like how they treat you? Don't ever do the same to others.
2006-08-14 07:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are right to feel upset, especially if you value this friend and really like spending time with him/her. However, taking your anger out on them in Yahoo! Answers isn't the answer. Being upset because the person gave a lame excuse is ok, but maybe you have to consider that he/she has a life, just like you, and they just got on with it. My best advice would be to open up to new friends. Once this friend sees that you are busy and active, they might just find more time to spend with you instead of giving such lame excuses.
2006-08-14 07:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is appropriate to be somewhat upset.
Your anger sounds way out of proportion to me.
It maybe hard for you to make friends if you you take things so personally that you call them names and deem them as horrible, mean people.
Good friends should talk through things. How about telling this friend what you like about them and why and that you don't understand their behavior. Listen to whatever they have to say. If they don't see a problem, tell them how it made you feel. If they don't seem to care then you have your answer.
2006-08-14 07:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's alright to be upset. I would too. But it'd be better to hash it out rather than let the rage fester inside. Give them a chance or 2 and then let them go.. better to have no friends than ppl like this..they aren't FRIENDS anyway
2006-08-14 07:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by chikoko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu should invite them to an all you can eat buffet and then leave them stranded with the bill. That would show em'. OR you could just talk to your friend about respect and what your expectations in a friend are.
2006-08-14 07:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Midwestern Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok they do no longer sound like your actual associates yet, Do have an somewhat good plan next time they bypass someplace and do not invite then you definately brag about.Say Oooo it would want to of been fantastic I wouldnt recognize I wasnt invited like then raise the problem. good luck playstation Make more effective efficient associates
2016-11-25 00:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i understand you,cause it happen to me once,when i ask someone to go at a place and he told me that he is staying at home so i been to the place and he was there.so i choose to end the friendship and then i had found new friends that are honnest and they are there when i need them.So i think it would be better that they are not friends to hang with and you should consider finding new one that you can trust.good luck:)
2006-08-14 07:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by none 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋