2006-08-14 07:39:13 · 28 answers · asked by mammaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way you can trust someone that has cheated on you is to walk a fine line between protecting yourself and trusting them. Also dealing with the constant nagging thoughts of "Where are they now?" or "Why are they late?" or "What he said just doesn't sound kosher." and then having faith that you aren't trusting someone who doesn't deserve it. The thoughts won't go away. It is like self-inflicted torture. I have never seen it turn out okay, ever. And then you always have the old cliche's to haunt you like "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and "First time shame on you, Second time shame on me." And any healthy relationship requires you NOT to throw it back in their face...because that is a sure sign you aren't forgiving them or forgetting. Yeah...it's no fun. Get out before you are completely insane!
2006-08-14 10:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. I don't think you can ever trust him again ,all you can do is forgive him and try to start over. It's not going to be easy b/c that little voice in the back of your head is going to ask is he cheating on me again. If this is the case it's time to let him go. There is nothing like having a piece of mind. Worrying will drive you crazy. No man or woman is worth going crazy over. Good Luck
2006-08-14 08:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I don't really think a person can trust, at least not right away, if the two decide to work on the marriage/relationship maybe down the road to repairing the cheating thing you might be able to forgive and he would have to earn back the trust, but you will never forget, in my book once a cheater all ways a cheater. only you know what is right for you.
2006-08-14 07:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking of trust, I suggest you focus first on respect because with out trust and respect, your relationship is doomed for failure and your already driving down that road.
Whether its at a dead end, I say only you know.
Trust will only come again with watching his actions and see whether he has become a man you can trust again.
Trust isn't something you plan its something you earn and that's how you learn to trust again.
2006-08-14 07:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to learn to trust someone once they have cheated on you, but if you really love this man and want the relationship, marriage, whatever it is that you have, then seek counselling, if he refuses to go, then there is your answer, get rid of him and go to counselling for your own peace of mind, it helps. Been there before. Best of luck.
2006-08-14 07:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by cheyenneautumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first dont just listen to other people you decide for how self and if it is really something you can or cant not live with move from there. remember you can find another partner, dont feel like that is the only person that you can be with ;)
well you just have to ask yourself how does it make you feel when they are with someone else for whatever reason and if you are ok with that then you should just think about how you would want them to being the healing process if you cheated.
the only problem is that cheating is more than cheating it is about communication. why go cheat when you could have just talked to me so if you can being that process maybe you can begin to forgive your partner
2006-08-14 07:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by porsha226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try , but every time something just don't add up that's the first thing that comes to mind...being cheated, on is so painful that you'll will never learn to trust, but in time you will forgive.. your relationship will never be the same again... it will constantly be there in the back of your mind always.....!
2006-08-14 08:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by lady-likes-poetry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh been through this, it takes along time, and when he gains the trust back hes loses it again, but cheating, its a circle that he keeps doing.
2006-08-14 07:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have to deal with trust issues, it can go either way, but, usually you can never trust that person again, and you end up going separate ways, because forgiving is easier than forgetting, and it can eat ya alive!!!
2006-08-14 07:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do stupid things when they are young. If you love them enough after some time has gone by then maybe he deserves a second chance. By the way he's only human. I believe every man has at least once.
2006-08-14 07:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by jewl_8098 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋