Rough outline of situation:
This 18 year old boy I know in Canada.Got a girl pregnant.
Shes 17.This relationship is a problem from the start.Now the girl is pregnant.He was warned he would be dissowned if she got pregnant but he did anyway..(he says he used condoms :/ ) This girl punches him in the face and hangs around with people he doesn't want her to.He thinks she did drugs and made her get a test..now the doctor wants to see her emidiatly.She smokes cigareetes also.At 5 months pegnant the mother wants to get her to have an abortion.The guy is thinking about taking on the responsability of a newborn at 18 years old alone.He has no job and sitts around on videogames/and his computer dialy and is 18 and still in grade 10?
Any ideas about this one..its a biggy..lol
2006-08-14 07:37:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he needs to step up. but there are plenty of programs out there to help single parents people may look at him funny at first since most single parents are female. But he can get all the help he needs and hold his head high for doing the right thing and accepting responsibility for his actions
2006-08-14 07:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a lose/lose situation, but with a possible silver lining for the infant.
An 18-year-old of either sex is not sufficiently mature to take on the responsibility of an infant, even if there are hundreds of young parents out there who are going to say otherwise. The boy hasn't finished growing, physically, emotionally & mentally; he hasn't finished his education, probably doesn't have a good job. Does he know anything about infant care?
The girl is irresponsible but so is her mother. As for abortion at 5 months, nobody will perform it, because infants of that age are nowadays viable.
The most important thing for the young man to do is to VISIT A LAWYER who deals in family issues.
For example: if the girl gives up the baby, the boy needs to know that he, too, has a voice - but reason should tell him to agree to it.
BUT if the girl decides to keep the baby the boy becomes liable for support.
HOWEVER, she sounds like someone who will not be allowed by society (in the form of CHildren's Aid) to keep the baby.
In this instance the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD have to be paramount.
2006-08-14 14:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime a child is born out of wedlock there should be an adult available to help with the newborn. I think adoption would be great. There is so many of us women that can't have our own child and would love to have a newborn to give love to and a better life then drugs. If she is truly on drugs then it is obvious that the baby will have to be detoxed. His life is already off to a bad start. Talk to your friends about this. If you are a true friend and you care what goes on in their life then stand by them.
2006-08-14 15:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either he/she needs to step up to the plate. It doesn't matter if he's a vidiot or not...he'll have to get his act together and a baby will show him that in a hurry. If he takes responsibility for the child he'll have no time for computer/video games. Take charge and go with it...
2006-08-14 14:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by slimm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up for adoption sounds like the best thing
2006-08-14 14:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's on drugs, that kid is going to need to be detoxed at birth. That's not fun. I say adoption.
2006-08-14 14:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the guy better grow up now its his responsibility ,was he just a pussy, when they did get together,most be if she could push him around,he did want to play now its time that he pays,time for him to be a man and grow up get job,could just be jail for him to, for rape
2006-08-14 14:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by tay3r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
adoption
2006-08-14 14:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by border 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋