i have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years i just had his baby 3 months ago, and he has been living with me since our 6th month of dating. we've actually known each other for 5 years. what am i doing or what did i do wrong?
2006-08-14 07:36:16 · 17 answers · asked by LADY SONNIER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave little notes around the house just saying you love him, thinking about him, etc. Make him awesome meals, better than Racheal Ray, lol. Always take care of yourself and look good for him. Keep yourself in shape. Go on date nights once a week. Try new things in the bedroom, rock his world! Sooner or later he'll pop the question.
2006-08-14 07:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just in the wrong order...thats why its not a good idea to move in with someone if what you want is to be married!
In any event...I would tell him "I am happy living with you and love our baby but I'm not going to end up like one of those couples living together forever without being married". Don't make it a threat, just make it a statement. You are not asking him to do anything..you are just telling him that living together is not the ultimate goal for you and he should be able to put together the pieces and suggest marriage. Or be more direct and say, hey, we are happy after 5 years, lets make it official so we can have a normal family for our child.
2006-08-14 16:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by Marrs G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is not to rush him. If you push too much they never will commit. I think you 2 need to sit down and discuss it. Speaking from experience, its only a paper. Like they say," if it isn't broke, don't fix it." If he loves you he will see the light in time. Maybe if you try talking to him about the benefits of marriage in a calm manner he might agree or not. You have to decide if you want to stay with him if he decides not too.Is your love strong enough with out the paper? Do you have a great relationship now? Don't get married just to be married, if you have doubts about anything now don't marry him cause it wont change things, believe me I know first hand. Good luck to you.
2006-08-14 14:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by adatude4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are very happy to be with that person and just had baby then why are you wanted to be married? time will come when it right. You shouldn't be worry too much about this. Becasue look at me and I would do the same thing not to rush thing. Like others said Marriage is a biggest step... just be happy what you have now smiling. time will come and ask him to marry you and when best time to set the date to get marry when ever he is ready. he knows that you want ot marry him and so time will come.
2006-08-14 15:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt want to get someone to propose to you.When you try ways to get someone to propose to you, that is usually a red flag, which means
A: He does'nt want to marry you
B: He's not sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you
C: He does'nt want to be married
D: He thinks your relationship is fine just the way it is
What you are doing wrong is letting him act like he is your Husband when he is not, But don't feel bad, because you do have control of your situation, it's just up to you to call the shots on your life.
2006-08-14 15:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by fruitstream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong. He probably just isn't ready yet. Marriage is a big step even for a couple who has a child together. You need to let him work it out on hiw own. Who knows he might surprise you. Jsu tenjoy your time together and evrything will work itself out.
2006-08-14 14:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not you, consider this he may love you enough to not want to jump into marriage because you all live together and have a baby. he may be waiting to he feels that he will really be a great husband.
honey dont be scared to propose to your man. let him know how you are ready to be a supportive wife through everything and even til he is ready to be married...good luck ;)
2006-08-14 14:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by porsha226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together without an official engagement was probably a bad move.
2006-08-14 14:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be ready to get married. you should enjoy your single life. it is a huge committement to get married and couples rarly feel the same as about each other throughout the duration of the marriage.
2006-08-14 14:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. my wife, which whom i am divorcing , did that. we were together for 6 years before we got married. then she got the fever because all of her friends were getting married. she gave me a bunch of sh!t about committing forever to her. we got married, then realized we were better off as bf/gf. now we are fighting over a house. don't do it. he may be afraid of commitment, or waiting for something better to come along. let it happen by itself. or find someone who does want the wife, kid, two car garage.
2006-08-14 14:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by redeye069 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋