What does it mean if a guy does'nt spend a lot of time with his girlfriend even when he's not busy and all he does is calls her a lot... they break up for a year and a half and get back together and its basically the same thing but he claims that he's in love with her and wants to marry her someday...
And he buys her crappy gifts and stuff that she does'nt like (even bought her a box of candy on valentines that has nuts in it and she's allergic to them!!!) And this was on there 3rd valentines together
Does it seem like he's just stringing her along?
2006-08-14 07:33:53 · 36 answers · asked by datgagirl87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hes not worth your time. a guy like that doesnt change. and if he bought you chocolate on v-day even though you allergic...wow he dont care as much other wise he'd know. im in a lil same situation...and trust me they dont change. if a guy cares he would pay attention to the smalll details...like the nuts...he's prolly just waiting for something better to come his way...and then he'll let you go...
2006-08-14 07:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by krissy_pod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it means for the time he does not want any commitments, he pro bally does love her because after a year and a half he went back however, this seems like the guy does not have enough cash in his pocket to take her out (it's cheep er by phone). On the other hand if he was just stringing her along, in that year and a half, he could of been boyfriends with someone else. The bad news is "he loves his freedom".
2006-08-14 07:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladydi9red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not make a person give the object of his affections something to which she is allergic, for example. Stupidity and/or indifference does.
I think the girl should tell him: "You say you love me, exactly how do you mean this? What is your concept/understanding of love? If this is love, is this how it's going to be when we are married?"
There is the possibility that he hasn't had good role models and actually believes that his behaviour is acceptable. So listen to his responses (I mean, tell your friend to) and evaluate them. That will tell her whether there is any hope for an actual, deep relationship.
2006-08-14 07:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't into the relationship as much as you are and if it has already been this long chances are things won't get much better. I am assuming that you guys have spoken to each other about this and little effort has been put into changing things. Why waste your time on someone that isn't into you as much as your are into them you are really asking for heart break if you expect them to change. Face reality, close to five years of knowing this person and not much has changed, there are more fish in the sea.
2006-08-14 07:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by lawsonmc11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's taking advantage of a woman that allows herself to be strung along. This isn't his making, this is all hers. She's been seeing these same indicators for all these times yet she sticks by thinking it'll get better. She allowed this to happen.
2006-08-14 07:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is keeping her around because he wants to continue having sex with her. If she is not having sex with him then he is keeping her around because he is a jerk that like to always have someone on the side. This guy is just not into her. He is not committed and as long as she allows him to come back and continue treating her like dirt, then he will.
2006-08-14 07:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't stringing her along at all. She just has low standards in guys. He has little interest and isn't going to change. Don't blame him for being who he is. Decide if he is acceptable or not then act appropriately.
2006-08-14 07:37:14 · answer #7 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. Why would a woman allow any man to treat her with such a lack of regard or respect? Don't you believe you deserve better treatment in a relationship than this? There is a reason you broke up with him in the first place. It is never a good idea to try and revive a relationship which already went bad.
People treat others how others allow them to treat them. If one refuses to be treated poorly, then the person doing so will either stop the poor treatment or the person will get kicked to the curb. When others see a person refuses to have relationships with those who would mistreat, disregard, or otherwise degrade them, then they know they can not treat that person that way either, not if they expect a relationship with that person. However, if a person consistantly allows others to treat her/himself with such poor regard, abuse, neglect, use her/himself, or any other negitive behavior, then others will believe they can treat that perosn the same way.
It is all in how an individual shows others how they will tolerated being treated. Also, if an individual does not treat her/himself with respect, nobody else will either. If a person does treat her/himself with respect then others will follow suit.
How a person gets treated is all up to each individual. How each individual treats her/himself, and how this individual allows others to treat her/himself. If is all completely up to each individual to set bounderies and to show others how they regard themselves.
If you stay with a man who disregards you, who takes you for granted, who is emotionally or physically unavailable, then not only will he think he can continue in this treatment and not have a single reason to stop, but others will see this and come to believe if you allow one person to treat you so shabbily, then you will allow others to treat you shabbily as well, and others will do so. It is completely within your control how others treat you. By others I refer to those who are closest to you, who have more than a passing aquantance with you.
I hope you will see that by staying with this man you are perpetuating his treatment onto yourself and also setting yourself up for others to treat you this way as well. I hope you leave his sorry butt behind and allow yourself to be with a perosn who will treat you as well as you treat him. This will also set the bounderies on how others in your life treat you too.
I wish you much happiness in life and a great relationship where you are treated well. Remember, you are in control of how you are treated by others. Blessed Be.
2006-08-14 08:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that he is not a bad person, he just doesn't know what he wants. It is unfortunate that he uses the word love when it is obvious that he doesn't know what it means. That is one of the most overused words ever. (ex. I love you!, I also love watching Seinfeld reruns.) I suppose if the girl is willing to put up with it, it is her fault.
2006-08-14 07:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no my husband is the same ot a point. Your boyfriend may just be careless but I would say kick him to the kerb you deserve better
2006-08-14 07:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋