he has been away from me and his daughter. i don't know if i could trust him again.
2006-08-14 07:33:19 · 15 answers · asked by mommalyle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would give him at least a couple of months out of rehab...it is a whole different situation when people leave the protection of the rehab place and enter a world where the choice is theirs. For the sake of your child, and yourself, give it a little more time. Maybe schedule some visits with him in a public area so he can at least see what he could lose and rekindle the bonds that were broken. Good luck!
2006-08-14 07:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say give him a chance to prove himself. You married him for a reason obviously, see if it's still there. If he's just blowing off treatment and doesn't care to clean up I would say get away from him for both you and your daughter's sake. In my line of work, I have seen these kind of cases go both ways, sometimes the husband (or in some cases the wife) decides to clean up and other times they just feel that they're too far into that life and can't or don't want to get out. Just do what you feel is best for you and your daughter. No child needs to be raised with drugs and alcohol around. Best of luck to all of you.
2006-08-14 07:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, it would be thought outrageous to even conside taking him back. But think about it this way.
He is your husband- You have a strong committment to him as his wife and partner.
He is trying- If he is coming out of treatment it means he must be trying at least a little bit to get his feet off the ground.
Trust is a big part of love and marriage, if you feel that you can not trust him with your marriage or his child, you must do what you can to follow your gut instinct.
Sit down and have a heart to heart with him, you'll know in your heart what to do in this tough situation. Just remember- If his intentions are good, he just might deserve a second chance.
Hope this helps!
2006-08-14 07:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not right away, no. Let him move nearby (but not too close) and establish a friendship with him. Let him establish a relationship with his daughter. If that goes well for a year, then you might have a few dates. See how it goes. Go slow. He has to earn his way back.
2006-08-14 07:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Do you still love him?
#2 Does he love his daughter and despite everything is he a good father?
#3 Is he willing to understand that there is a LEGITIMATE trust problem, thus he's willing to attend and participate in AA and NA?
#4 Is he willing to get tested for Hep, HIV and other diseases when he arrives home (are you willing to still stay with him if he contracted these before his rehabilitation).
If you can answer yes to these then he should get another chance.
2006-08-14 07:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question, and one that can't really be answered by someone who isn't in your place. If you can't trust him, then there's problems, but could you begin to trust him again if he showed you he could be trusted? Do you believe he is sincere in his attempt to 'clean-up'? Most important is the safety and happiness of your child. The decision needs to be made with this in mind.
2006-08-14 07:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off.. if he was forced into treatment.. I would not trust him either.. If he truely went in because he new he had problems.. then i would still give it at least 6 months.. before then.. if he is gonna fall off the wagon.. it will happen..
2006-08-14 07:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him live on his own and deal with life outside of treatment- As for as a second chance, he is just beginning a second chance being sober, romace should wait, be there to support and let him interact with your daughter- He'll need your support and if you love him you can give it to him-
2006-08-14 07:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it his 2nd chance or his 3rd of 4th chance?
Don't rush into it. Take it slow, see if he's changed but he should at least have access to his daughter.
2006-08-14 07:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you just worry about you and the baby. my sister was in a place like that and she only learned to play the game and do the dance that those people there wanted her to do. she got home and she was the same spitful biatch she was when she left.
2006-08-14 07:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋