my husband still has an affair and he denies it but i keep finding stuff?

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my husband still has an affair and he denies it but i keep finding stuff?
he is emotionally and physically abusive, and im six months pregnant, and his girlfriend sandra pazos knows it, i dont know if she instigates, i dont know what to do he dont live with me any more but he still show to the house,. can any of you help me or drop her a few words her email is [e-mail]. the police took report but havent done anything yet. and this hoar and him are still together, but he keeps coming back,i kiked him out . i cant control situation . i hate this woman and him it ruining my life and my little six year old is confused. she is just interfeering too much. i dont want this guy anymore but she needs to stop she knows im pregnant and that hes married ans she get away with it!!! he wont though. but she will i can only think of people droping off hate mail she cant be let off that easy. please.help

Answer 1

WHY ARE YOU SO ANGRY AT HER WHEN IT WAS YOUR HUSBAND WHO BETRAYED YOU?

THANK HER FOR HELPING YOU TO REALIZE WHAT KIND OF MAN HE IS.

BE GRATEFUL HE IS HER PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH NOW.

THANK HIM FOR SHOWING YOU WHAT KIND OF MEN TO AVOID IN THE FUTURE.

FORGIVE HIM FOR HIS SHORTCOMINGS, AND KNOW THAT YOU CAN DO BETTER.

PUT YOUR CHILDREN ABOVE YOUR FEELINGS. DO NOT EXPOSE THEM TO ANY ABUSE, ESPECIALLY ABUSIVE ADULTS. KIDS LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE, SO DON'T STICK AROUND AND SHOW THEM IT'S OK TO BE ABUSED.

GET A RESTRAINING ORDER IF HE WON'T GO AWAY. LET THINGS HEAL BEFORE YOU TALK PRATERNITY TESTS AND CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS.....

QUIT CHOOSING TO BE A VICTIM. THE WOMAN DID NOT RUIN YOUR LIFE. SHE ISN'T IMPORTANT ENOUGH OR SIGNIFICANT ENOUGH TO DO THAT. QUIT BLAMING OTHERS....

YOU SHOULD THANK THIS GUY (AND GAL) FOR FINALLY SHOWING YOU WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE THEY ARE. YOU DON'T HAVE TIME IN YOUR LIFE TO DEVOTE TO THEM. YOU ARE PREGNENT AND HAVE A CHILD. YOU HAVE MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO THAN WASTE TIME WITH THESE LOSERS.

CHOOSE TO LEARN THE LESSON AND MOVE ON. GET BACK AT THEM BY NOT LETTING THIS DESTROY YOU, AND GET BUSY BETTERING YOURSELF. MASTER A SKILL, TAKE SOME CLASSES. GET YOUR GED AND TAKE COLLEGE CLASSES. MAKE YOURSELF MORE INTERESTING.

GRANTED, WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU WAS WRONG. BUT YOU CAN CHOOSE TO REALIZE THAT IT BUILDS CHARACTER, AND YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOURSELF NOW. SO YOU CAN CHOOE TO RISE ABOVE THIS AND BE BETTER FOR IT.

GOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE!

Answer 2

My first words of advice are as follows:

TAKE CONTROL.

You can. Don't say you can't.
You know what?

You are a grown woman with one child and another on the way.
Your husband is not good to you, he is abusive emotionally and physically, he is unfaithful, and useless in your marriage.
If he keeps returning to the home, you must take control and make big, LEGAL, changes in your life.

Change the locks of the house, or move.
Find out what you can do to protect your kids from him, though that may be a struggle because they are his as well, and you can't officially take them away from him by law.

It sounds like you need to do a lot of thinking.
Try finding a help line in your area to call for guidance, or even a therapist to sort out your thoughts.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

You've asked this before and apparently didn't take anyones adivce. You need to quit worrying about that woman, the only true thing you said here is that you CAN'T CONTROL the situation. You can't control her and really there is not reason why you should be able to control her, her life is really none of your business quite frankly. She isn't going to stop, that is obvious, so when are you going to quit beating your head off a brick wall? The only thing you can control is YOURSELF, and you aren't doing a very good job of that either from the sounds of it. You need to start worrying about you and your kids, you are a mother and that is your job. You need to stop worrying about this woman before it gets out of control and YOU end up getting yourself in to trouble, how would that be for your kids? What if another 'other' woman here dealing with an irrational ex feels bad for this woman and emails her and lets her know that you are posting her name and email address on the internet and calling her a whore (which you spelled wrong by the way), guess what happens then? YOU get your butt in to a whole bunch of trouble and she gets your husband AND your kids, is that what you want? You need to grow up, let it go, start being a mother, this is on YOUR HUSBAND, not her!! She doesn't owe you anything, she didn't promise you anything and she never said she loves you...HE DID ALL THAT! You may not want her to be let off that easy but guess what? That isn't up to you, it is not your job or your RIGHT to punish her, not to mention as I told you before it is your husband that wronged you NOT HER! And I bet you have never even considered your role in this whole drama have you? What did you do to bring all this about? If your immaturity here reflects your immaturity in the way you deal with the rest of your life its no wonder you have found yourself in this situation. LET IT GO, YOU CAN NOT CHANGE IT, just deal with it and move on! The police took a report about what? That she is sleeping with your husband, guess what they don't care!! If he keeps coming back thats because you keep LETTING him come back. You feel so out of control because you are trying to control the wrong things, things that you will never control and you are ignoring the only thing you can control.....YOURSELF! Good luck, I hope you figure this out and stop torturing yourself very soon!

Answer 4

Well first of all take her name and email address out of your question. Its only serving to make you look bad and set yourself up to be sued by the other woman for slander. You should be angry at your husband, not her, she is as much a victim as you are. If the marriage is over and he is abusive then file a restraing order and for divorce. You need to take the high road in this. You need to be a good role model for your child.

Answer 5

This man is clearly poisonous, and the situation is out of your hands. Don't even think of taking him back. Get a restraining order on him, stop communicating withn him, and get to court as soon as possible to file a case for child support.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You need to think about your six year old and your baby...why are you still with him? It is obvious that he has no respect for you and doesn't care about you. You need to get out of the situation completely, move to a different area or at least out of the house that he is in. If you stay with him, knowing what you have told us, you are the one that will ruin the lives of your children and yourself. Don't waste your time on him.

Answer 7

There really isn't anything that we can say to her to make her stop. If her BOYFRIENDS PREGNANT WIFE can't say anything to her to make her leave then no one can. You need to go on with your life...get a restraining order against him..so he can't just drop by when he wants to, get a good divorce lawyer, and then let the two pigs have each other.

Answer 8

did you make this up? how old are you? you have a lot of misspelled words...its kind of crazy...you say that there's been reports filed about his abuse and you're 6 mths pregnant...and the cops haven't done anything...but if there's proof of his abuse...there's no way they can't do anything to him...I know its through better or for worse, but you have 1 child and another one on the way you have to think about...stop letting him back in so easily...

Answer 9

please don't start giving her email out. Your going in the wrong direction. Listen to what everyone is saying. Get a restraining order than get yourself a lawyer. It's time to end this marriage. She will find out that you shared her email if they email her regarding this matter. You can get into trouble and she may turn around and get a restraining order on you. Don't let him back into the house. as soon as he left he abandoned you. It's in your favor.

Answer 10

You need to take control of your life... get an attorney, file a restraining order against them both, file for divorce, etc.

You are being manipulated in this situation... because you are allowing.. by not taking the necessary steps to make it stop.

Good luck.