where can i go,what can i do? im all alone in this?

Question

Im 20 years old and 7 months pregnant,i dont have no money,no education,the father is in jail for 4 years.Im staying with my mom until my babys born.Staying with my mom is stressful with 5 other kids and a very small place.I got a very bad anger problem.It seems like my mom cant put up with me any longer.I just need to get out NOW but im stuck no where else to go

Answer 1

This is a serious situation not only for you but for your baby. Look in the yellow pages of your phone book under "Abortion Alternatives". You should hopefully find several listings of agencies who can help you. No one is going to come knocking on your door to magically give you the help you need. You will have to make many calls, visit many offices, and probably fill out many forms. But, you must do what is necessary to provide a good life for you and your baby. Another thing to consider is adopting your baby to a loving, stable, and mature couple who can not have children of their own. Many adoption agencies allow the birth mother to choose the parents who adopt their baby. Adoption would be a loving decision to assure your baby the best life. Many adoptive parents will pay for housing and medical care for the birth mother. After the baby is born, you can go back to school, get a job, move out of the area, whatever you want to do. Follow your dreams knowing that you have done what you can do. Make a better life for yourself. Address your anger problem, get counseling, take anger management classes. Some of your anger may be because you have lost control of your life. If you decide to keep your baby and raise it alone at least for the next 4 years while the father is in jail, it will be a very difficult life for you. You may also want to contact whatever your state's family agency or social services assistance program is called. Some people resist any type of "welfare", but it is there for people needing to get on their feet and it sounds as if you are in need of that.

Answer 2

If you are 20 yrs old, living at home, no job, no education, no father for the baby - I would strongly suggest considering putting your baby up for adoption. I would suggest CONSIDERING it. If you are not in a healthy environment for yourself, it is not going to be a healthy environment for your baby. Your anger problems will not help anything either.

At 20 yrs old you should have had a job and been responsible enough to make decisions that are good for you and your baby. Granted, everyone falls on hard times but you are 7 months pregnant. You had time to try to make things better for your baby. I'm not trying to come down on you, but you have to stand up and take some responsibility for yourself and your baby. Make yourself happy and you will be able to make a baby happy.

I wish you and your little one the best of luck.

Answer 3

This is why young girls or women are encouraged to practice safe sex. If I were you I would stay put and be good to your mother (you only have one). Get public assistance for now (it helps), and pray before you lay down at night and upon waking in the morning. You will be amazed at the power of prayer. Be careful of your anger issues cause your baby will become as angry as you are now. Give your baby a chance and give yourself a chance to be the best mother for your child. It won't be easy but where theres a will there is definitely a way. I will pray for you and your family.

Stay strong young sister in Christ.

By the way
Ghostpirate7 is an Idiot!

Answer 4

thats really ironic cuz im going through just about the same thing. im 19 and 5 months pregnant and with my screwed up family in a tiny house and i have no money. what im doing is going to our counties building and applying for full assistance. u know, food stamps, cash assistance, etc. i will even get a place to live. but if u need to get out of there now there should be special homes in ur area like a city mission or the salvation army. and they would help u find a place to live. we have so much in common. i wish o knew u. but good luck, sweetheart!!

Answer 5

You have to think about what's best for your baby right now. Now, that you're about to be a mother, you have to turn your concern from yourself to your unborn child. I'm so sorry for the situation you're in. Is there a Grandparent, aunt/uncle, cousin, etc that would take you in? You need a comfortable and low stress place to live until your baby is born. Then, when your baby is a few months old, you need to get aggressive about taking responsibility to take care of this child. Get a good job, find a good babysitter, be responsible....a mommy this baby will be proud to call "Mom" someday.

I pray that you find what you're looking for and that Christ strengthens you and leads you.

God bless....

Answer 6

I would suggest placing for adoption. I was also 20 and pregnant, I placed for adoption and it was the best decision I have ever made in my life. It gave another family what they wanted and me a chance to grow up and prepare for a child. I cannot imagine where I would be right now if I had a 4 year old to take care of.
There are several places you can go to place for adoption, I went through Gladney and I lived there in their amazing facilities and met the most awesome girls. We still keep in contact.

Answer 7

Maybe you have a friend that you can turn to? If not, then maybe a family member that can help you out. I know it's got to be hard right now between the anger problem and the hormones which is contributing to it. Speak to your doctor if all else fails. They actually can help. Good Luck..=)

Answer 8

The government will offer help if you seek for social welfare service.
First, you have to accept the fact that you're pregnant, and the baby is going to be born. You're her mother, and is responsible to take care of her. 20 year's old is not too young to be a mother.
Get a job.
This is your life lesson. If you accept and deal with it the best of your efforts, God will take care of the rest.
My prayers are with you. You can make it through.

Answer 9

never stuck.... okay here is what you do. go to local apartment complex. the ones that are based on your income. (i know you have no income) the apartment will not have a rent charge. fill out app. then keep calling them everyday to find out if they got any vacance. you have to stay on top of these people. they should help you. go to human services office they can give you the list of such apt. in your area. your bad mood is due to stress of the whole situation. you feel n=much better in apt for you and your baby. try it. sounds like you got nothing to loose and everything to gain.

Answer 10

It seems to me that getting control of your anger is what needs to be done. You are lucky that our mom has taken you in since she has 5 other kids to care for. Your solution is to move. Isn't your anger going to be a problem anywhere you go?
Grow up! You're going to be a mother soon.