any one else feel this way?

Question

I just feel like venting to anyone who cares to listen. I got my period today which is quite depressing, since my hubby and i are trying to have a baby. I have been off the pill since June 13th and I am aware that it will take a while, its just you get your hopes up and the here comes your freakin period. I am almost in tears because I am cramping so bad, and I just wanna go home early from work and lay down. Not that it would ease the pain, but oh well. So please someone enlighten me.... I feel like I am never going to get pregnant. I know its takes a while, but its so depressing. Thanks for letting me vent....

Thank you so much everyone. I am crying so hard right now. I want my grandma to see my baby before she dies and its just so hard. You would think it wouldn't take long because I am young (22), I just pray my grandmother gets to hold our baby before she dies.

Answer 1

I'm sorry Aunt Flow came to visit this month :-( It's funny how we go for so long, happy that she came, and then when we want her to stay away, we can't get rid of her.

I'm sure you just need to wait another month or two, every woman is different in how long it takes them to conceive after stopping the pill. It might seem unfair when you hear the stories of "Oh, I went off and immediately got pregnant", but just remember, everything happens for a reason and for some reason we just don't know about, now was just not the right time.

I say take off work anyway, go home and watch one of your favorite feel good movies and indulge in a favorite dessert. haa haa haa

They say every woman ovulates at a different time, but typically it's two weeks after your last period started. If that's the case I'd go home and plan some romantic encounters for the last weekend of August and the first weekend of September ;-) half the fun of getting pregnant is practicing!

Answer 2

Everyone's cycle is different. There is a myth that woman ovulate 14 days after their period begins...but that is only an AVERAGE and each month can be different. The other thing is that sperm can live inside you for up to 5 days.... so if you are having a shortened cycle one month and you have sex right after your period and you ovulate earlier than day 14 than yes, there is a chance of getting pregnant. They only way to know is to know exactly when you ovulate. There are several ways to know and some are more effective than others. Some can only predict before ovulation happens and some can only predict that is has already happened. The absolute best info I can give you is to go read a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! . It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths! Even if you don't get into charting and everything....it will help you in so many ways!

Answer 3

I am so sorry as I have been down this path numerous times. You get yourself all worked up and hopeful only to have the ‘dreaded’ visit come but IT WILL HAPPEN! I promise!!
We were married for 2 years, I wasn't on any type of birth control and we wanted a baby soooo bad! Month after month we were disappointed. We even suffered through a heartbreaking miscarriage. One day, 7 months later my period didn't show up and I once again got hopeful. I didn't want to spend another 12.50+ on a test so I bought a cheapy CVS test. I waited until the morning and tested and 2 lines showed up...I was shocked and elated! That was 4 yrs ago and now we are expecting #3 so yes it will happen!!
The other thing you have to remember is that your body has to adjust with the hormones from the pill, etc. You may not have your exact ovulation date nailed down and that is so common. My doctor said to just 'do it all the time and have fun' so that's what we did LOL! I know its hard, because your focus is a baby but try to make the most out of it. Have romantic dinners, watch romantic movies, go out on lots of dates and have lots and lots of sex!!!

Answer 4

I am sorry you feel this way. I have been there too. It can be depressing but its not like you will never have a baby. Your time will come. Just remember that you cant get stressed out about it. Enjoy the time you have with your husband and all that practicing you get to do!! Its only been 2 months since you have been off the pill. So, just hang in there. Good luck to you!! Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 5

Honey,
I'm sure you know all about ovulation and stuff because you're trying to have a baby... but just remember, there is a 24 hour time right about 2 weeks after your period that you can get pregnant.. That makes it a lot harder than it would seem. All other times you can't get pregnant. It's tough. My advice to you is to calculate the 2 weeks right after your period (also 2 weeks before it if you want to look at it that way) and have a LOT of sex. Good luck :)

Answer 6

First of all don't put pressure on your psyche that much, try to relax and let the love be spontaneous and a joy, not finalized to pregnancy> Sometimes the pressure works better than a birth control pill:never think of the baby, it won't come until you badly want. Enjoy your love and let the sex be relaxed and disconnected to the "plans". If you are a healthy couple and have no other problem 1+1 is always at least 3.Best wishes!!!!

Answer 7

it's so hard to go through this! my best friend went through the same thing, and every month we would talk about this!!! i believe that because of your emotions during this, it makes the cramps and moods even worse!!!!!

it's hard to do, but try your best to relax through this, because yes it does take time, but stress can delay the pregnancy also! when my best friend finally relaxed and stressing over when or if it would happen, she got pregnant. it takes time for your body to get use to not having the birth control too.

as i'm sure you know, ovulation occurs 2 weeks before/after your period, during this time relax, have a couple of drinks...and enjoy. (not saying get drunk) but do whatever to relax...take a long weekend and go off with hubby and enjoy your time together, stay at home w/him....'whatever' the both of you can do to relax!!!! it can still take time, but maybe not as long. follow up with your dr. to make sure there's no reasons that keep u from getting pregnant if u feel it's taking too long though!!!

take care, and i hope you find something you need to help you through this time!!!!

Answer 8

You just started trying and while it's not impossible to get pregnant so soon, it also isn't likely depending on how long you were on the bc. Also, by wanting it so bad, you are adding stress to your life, which in turn could lead to an even longer wait for the anticipated result.

My advice? Just go with it. It will happen when it happens. You can't force it and the more you worry about it, the more stress you are creating on yourself. Then, the win fall of creating more stress on your marriage. Yeah, that's not where you want to end up.

Good luck and just keep "practicing" in the long run!

Answer 9

honey, try again 14 days after you period, this should be your ovulation period. Have you tried tilting your pelvis after sex?This may sound crazy too, but in my case, everytime I loose about 10-15 pounds, I fall pregnant. I have been pregnant 3 times. Don't stress because always remember that God has a plan for your life and you just need to have faith in him. Your baby will come.
Keep smiling and keep trying. Good luck!!!

Answer 10

Well I'm 35 , I'm 17 weeks preg. My first time. The Doc. told me a would NEVER have kids due to Cyst on my ovaries and Endemics. Well I still prayed for one. I gave up when I hit 32 no baby I just excepted the fact. Well look at me now. I wish you much LUCK and Patients.