i gotta polyneuritis at 2.I can walk freely n've no prom operating computers n writing. i m indian, 22.So far i've achieved everything a normal guy achieves.I've a beautiful cousin, 18.She visits my place as 'caretaker'(if my parents r away.)i m moved by care she takes of me. i've loved her as a sis till now.my prom from some days is i've started fearing of losing her! i want 2 make her my valentine! She loves me i know but like a brother.on other side there's guilty in my mind that i m looking my own sis in such a way.m i wrong or right?will she sacrifice(i think she has a boyfriend..he's a real crap!!!)?if not how can i get out of this?
2006-08-14 07:11:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Dude just jump!
2006-08-14 07:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trishaan, the only people you're not allowed to marry are your parents, siblings, uncles, aunts, and grandparents, and only in some states are first cousin marriages not allowed...anyone else is fair game... although creepy.
However, I agree with the person who said that the reason she's helping is because she loves you, just not in the way that you love her. I understand your situation... And are you sure that her boyfriend is crap or is he crap to you because he's in a position where you'd want to be. Anyway, everybody wants to be loved, and wants to be loved in a special way like a man loves a woman and vice versa.
My suggestion is that you try to forget the romantic love you have for her... but at the same time, don't resent her... make sure you continue loving her, because she's loved you all her life too. You may still do nice things for her, like give her a gift of appreciation, but don't try to indicate your feelings of romance towards her. What might be nice too is if you really got to know her boyfriend, and maybe you would see that he's not such a bad guy. And your seeing her happy probably would make you feel better... AND in doing that, you'll make yourself open to any other person who might have an eye on you. Good luck!
2006-08-14 14:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indian as in India Indian? I don't know what the laws are in your country, but in this one that type of relationship with your first cousin is illegal. Also, even if she weren't, she's in a relationship already, so don't try to split them up. Do you think you've formed an attachment strictly because she takes care of you? You're young, it sounds like your disease hasn't progressed too far. There is someone out there, so I suggest you get out there and look. Do you really need a caretaker, or just someone to check up on you to make sure you're not having a relapse? Might be best if she weren't filling that role anymore. It will help you move on if she isn't around all the time.
2006-08-14 14:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by t79a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not exactly "in love" with your cousin, and the more you let yourself think that you are the more true it will be and it is wrong to think that way of your cousin. The reason you've gotten this attached to her is because she shows you kindness and she's a good person. She must love you too, but don't confuse that with the same thing you're feeling. She is a nurturer and a good person for you to have around.
Don't scare her off by allowing yourself to feel this way.
2006-08-14 14:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a cousin, which in some places is legal to marry, though not suggested. Just realise that she is helping you because you are family, not because she is in love with you. There is someone out there for everyone and one day you will find someone to love. Try a dating website where you can meet all kinds of women.
2006-08-14 14:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she luv' u as a brother not as luver.is better u get ur mind off her.u can even tell her to find some1 for you as urs.gud luck
2006-08-14 14:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by shebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes you take care of her.
2006-08-14 19:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋