I am a really shy person and i want to be very outgoing how do i ddo that?

Question

when someone refers thst ur as quiet as a dead mouse its time to change!

Answer 1

I am also very shy, but have made a lot of improvements so far.

The thing that helped me the most was and is still to take "baby steps". I think the thing that limits me the most is poor self-esteem, and my OCD. I am constantly worrying about what other people might think of me and what might happen if I make a bad impression.

Depending upon how shy you are, "baby steps" might mean simply holding open a door and smiling at someone. Or, for some people, it might mean expressing their opinion to other people. Everything varies based on your comfort level.

Don't start with something that will be really difficult to tackle. Make your goals using the SMART method. They should be:
S... specific (I will say "hi" to one person today)
M... manageable (you know you can complete the goal you set)
A... attainable
R... Reasonable (kind of like manageable. Know you can do it.)
T... timely (example: "I will make ten friends by tomorow" is NOT timely. Saying you will make ten friends in the next two months is).

Answer 2

lol.. well at least u want to change! that's the first step. :) there's one thing about being happy w/ urself..there's another when other people cannot see what ur about because u are too shy, too quiet, too closed to let anyone in. remember, the reason why someone said that about u is cuz they WANT to get to know you!

i would say, first of all, what makes u shy? i was shy growing up too, and for me it was 1) my appearance 2) my smarts 3) i didn't feel "cool", and was jealous of people around me that were different.

soo....in order for me to change it, (and i was pretty shy around strangers for a LONG time...only outgoing w/ my friends), i had to first work on my appearance. i felt fat, ugly, and just bleagh. so i had to start exercising, eating better, losing weight. then i started putting on makeup, doing my hair, buying prettier clothes, *caring* about how i looked. it made me feel better about myself, esp when i got compliments! :)

next, i started developing my brain.. i'm a "thinker"...so i started reading the news, listening to interesting debates, learning more, and asking questions. it made me feel good that i could come up w/ my own opinions and actually feel just as "smart" as those who are more confident than me.

after that, i developed my current relationships w/ my friends and family; why did i feel comfortable around them? because i didn't care if they judged me! so i talked a lot w/ them more, and i felt more comfortable (cuz of my appearance), and i realized that i could talk more, to even strangers, and they would listen, or respond! so i'm not dumb. i'm not ugly. i'm a person, JUST as good as the next.

after all that work, i think u will realize that u don't need to be perfect, beautiful, or smart to feel accepted. u just have to have an open mind, and always strive to be your best. you will respect urself, and be able to respect others who do the same, instead of being jealous. :) always keep positive, healthy, strong, and happy people around u, and filter out the negatives. that way u can always learn and grow, and not let anything stump you. once u work on urself, u will feel Worth it. and then it won't matter what people think, cuz ur Already happy!

Answer 3

Toastmasters.

http://www.toastmasters.org/

Answer 4

Just be yourself!Throw yourself out there!!Join a club,make new friends,just go up and talk to people!It will be a little hard at first,but soon you will be totally comfortable with it all!You and everyone else will love the new you!!

Answer 5

just dont worry about anyone else and what they think just let loose really and be hyper is what it really takes. lol

Answer 6

NO BE YOURSELF! I"M SURE YOU ENJOY SOCIAL ACTIVITY & HAVE FUN LEAST YOU AREN"T MAKING A FOOL OF YOURSELF

Answer 7

you are the way you are, dont change, you will only become fake!