My ex husband is remarried. We've been divorced for 5 years. About once a week he will call, and you can tell he calls to talk to ME, since he'll call while the kids are in school and he knows that. He never has much to say, he just continues to try to make conversation. He was abusive to me in the marriage. Why do you think he makes calls to me like this, even after 5 years, and even though he's remarried. He's caused chaos all around him and he's not the one affected by it. What do you think is going through his mind when he calls me like this just to chat?
2006-08-14 06:48:38 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont talk to him, who knows what is going on in his mind?? maybe he wants to get back together, but if he was abusive then beware of him, he migth want to keep u as his mistress now!!!
2006-08-14 06:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's trying to make things right in his mind about abusing you. You are considered safe since he is remarried and he has an excuse to call you. He's probably feeling bad and feels like things are okay when he talks to you.
2006-08-14 14:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to make sure that he can maintain some sort of control over you. All abusive men are like that and can not let go. Trust me, I had to get a PO to stop the calls!
As for the people who said he still likes you? He NEVER loved you in the first place if he chose to make the adult decision to abuse you.
2006-08-14 14:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to find some kind of forgiveness? Or he thinks doing this makes up for all the crap he did in the past? Hard to tell, just be careful and don't trust a word he says.
2006-08-14 13:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a form therapy for him. He may have a lot of guilt over the fact he was abusive and the marriage failed. So in his own mind keeping civil contact may be a form letting his guilt dissipate. Just an opinion...
2006-08-14 14:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't talk to him. Everytime you pick up that phone and engage in conversation, he thinks there is a chance to stay in your life.
If he was abusive and controlling, he won't change. Keeping in touch for the kids is ok, but I would limit it to ONLY the kids.
2006-08-14 13:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometime for security reasons people do thing like this, there is definitley something there in his current relationship is lacking something that you offered him in your past relationship, this behavior can also be a sign of him regretting or being sorry for all he has done, he probably has a jeckle and hyde personality usely people that act like that has that type of personality.sometime insecure people; even possesive people just like to know that there throphy is there meaning that spear someone is there for them just in case.
2006-08-14 15:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by seeking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he still care's for u .or maybe he know's that he messed up when he lost u.
2006-08-14 14:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by KEN G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be able to come back if it doesn't work with the new wife.
2006-08-14 13:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
control he his looking to have some input in your life and to remain a part of it.
2006-08-14 13:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by X2 epsilon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋