My enemy at school, called this boy that I HATE and asked him out for me, and he said no.(thank god, and he already has a girlfriend!!!) When she told me she did that I was soooo mad and started yelling at her. How do I let that boy know I really don't like him. Or do you think he will forget about it? I need to know how do avoid them at school and what do if that boy or my enemy are in one or ALL of my 6 classes, because I really can't avoid them if they are in my class. HELP!!!!! No stupid answers, I am serious. Thx.
2006-08-14 06:40:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would just tell him, and use the excuse about him having a girlfriend as your way out of the situation to not embarass him or you.
For example, say, "my friend called you and I'm really embarassed about that, because I did not ask her to do that. I think she was just trying to prank me. I know you already have a girlfriend and I'm not the kind of girl who goes after a guy who already has a girlfriend. I just want to make sure you understand that, and I don't want things to be uncomfortable for me or you or your girlfriend because we are all in a bunch of classes together. Sorry my friend did that, it wasn't fair of her to involve you in her prank against me".
Then you've explained yourself without having to embarass him by saying, "I don't like you" or "I would never really want to go out with you". He doesn't get his feelings hurt, he understands the situation, and you don't have to spend all kinds of time avoiding people which is hard and takes a lot of energy.
By the way, if you do talk to him, make sure you talk to him AND his girlfriend at the same time so she doesn't feel like you are trying to talk to him behind her back, and so she doesn't get suspicious about you for nothing....which might make your situation even worse instead of better.
Good luck.
2006-08-14 06:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by teachinmom 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One of the worst things you can possibly have is an enemy. Make friends with your enemy. I used to have enemies at school and one day I decided why am I holding grudges with these people. I figured out that I was missing out on alot of fun, because I was doing everything I could to avoid them. I decided I wanted to become friends with them. Now they are some of my best friends. It was a great life changing experience. Try being nice to your enemy and this boy and maybe they will forget about the past and you can become friends. Live in the future not the past. Good luck.
2006-08-14 14:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you make a big deal out of it and make a point on telling him that you don't like him then he is probably not going to believe you and neither will anyone else, also you give your enemy the pleasure of knowing that they have gotten to you.
The best thing you can do is ignore this boy and your enemy. Your friends probably know what this enemy of yours is like and that you don't really like this guy, and they will stick by you and that is all that matters. Who cares what everyone else thinks.
Be the bigger person, let it go and relax!
2006-08-14 13:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don;t worry about it and let it drop. I am sure he got the impression it wasn;t really you who asked. Now the person you may have trouble with is this boys girlfriend. You might want to make sure she knows, subtly of course, that you did not ask her BF out.
2006-08-14 13:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by mikeae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just act like that never happened. Your enemy probably wants you to react to what she did, that's why she did. Just play it cool and forget what the other guys thinks. And if he confronts you just tell him that you don't like him in that way.
2006-08-14 13:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by laura_lou80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd straight up talk to him about it. Just say that you heard she called and asked him out for you... and that you don't know why she did that. You can be nice and say "man I'm sorry I dont know what got into her." Or you can be mean and say that SHE must actually like him, but didn't have the courage to call for herself. Good luck tho!
2006-08-14 13:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by socalgrrrl05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop flipping out! everything is gonna be ok! The guy has a girlfriend so get over it just tell him who it was and why they did it. This other girl is just being rude just ignore her and everything will be fine
2006-08-14 13:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Brina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i seriosuly think u should call him on his cell cuz then no one will be watching u and no one will know that u called him. be like im soo sorry but that girl was lying. dont sound to harsh though. and the last thing u should do is avoide him!
2006-08-14 13:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Klaudia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
2006-08-14 15:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to him and say it. "Hey, I know that *girl's name* called you and asked you out for me. I just wanted to let you know that she was just trying get me upset, and that I don't actually want to go out with you. I'm sorry if she made you uncomfortable or anything."
2006-08-14 13:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋