we know this girl that we are both attracted to and we both think that she is open to a threesome but i dont know how to bring it up to her. any help would be appreciated..
2006-08-14 06:34:13 · 16 answers · asked by nuttsrus2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, first of all, I'm personally not too bothered by the idea of couples either married or not, having another person enter the bedroom with them, however, in your case..why would you want to? You normally should have at least some sense of ownership, and bringing another into your bedroom could lead to many problems..have you ever thought about what would happen if either of you decided you were attracted to the 3rd party? It is possible , you know. Then someone WILL lose in that relationship. I feel that if you value your marriage, a 3rd person isn't the way to go. There are plenty of ways to make sex more interesting for the both of you..Try dressing up, to give the illusion you are someone else he can fantasize with..or maybe toys, or talking dirty? Don't know if you've attempted already but, just a thought. Hope it works out for you. Good luck.
2006-08-14 06:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that it would not destroy your marriage, then go ahead and test the waters.....ask her casually, what she thinks about other women, threesomes, and her precious expeience.
She may be offended, or possibly flattered, and interested. You won't know until you make a move.
Don't come right out and ask her, make her feel pressured or on the spot. First, see how she feels about things before inviting her over for whatever.
Are you sure that YOU want this? Or do you think that you have to to keep your man happy? Are YOU attracted to her, or are you because he is? Will you worry that he will be thinking about her instead of you, or mssing her when you two are alone together?
If you have thought about all this stuff, and you;re clear, then find out where she stands with the idea, any attraction to you or your husband,n etc first, before you invite her.
She might possibly have too much respect for your marriage to want to be involved in anything. She might feel negatively about threesomes. She miight not be attracted to women, or feel guilty for being attracted to someone's husband.....
Be gentle.....
2006-08-14 06:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful...I know several people who did that and it ended up ruining their marriage....most of the time the wife became jealous of the other women.It depends how confident you both are in your relationship,but if that is not a issue i'd say just invite her over for dinner and start off by hinting that you and your husband are interested in a threesome and see how she reacts..if positive then ask her.If she looks uncomfortable though i wouldn't ask...good luck!
2006-08-14 06:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by sugar_n_spice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are talking to her, either with your hubby around or not, start slowly moving the conversation toward the topic of sex. Talking about it really lowers people's inhibitions. I don't know why, but it seems to work like magic. Once you are happily chatting away about it, ask her if she would be interested in a threesome with you and your husband.
2006-08-14 06:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have her over for dinner and then just bluntly ask her "I want to ask you something very personal but I don't want you to feel awkward after I ask..." And then she'll say okay (hopefully) And then say "You know I think you are very beautiful and I was wondering if you would consider having a 3sum with my husband and I?" and just let her talk. But if she stays quiet after that, then just politely and softly say i'm sorry I didn't mean to scare you let's just change the subject. Try to talk about something first and then change the subject to what you want to ask that way if she doesn't agree you can continue where you left off......Good Luck
2006-08-14 06:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur close to this girl & have intimate convo, casually ask has she ever had 1 or been with a women, if so did she like it, would she do it again..etc etc..of course if she says hell no to either that's ur answer to not ask her..but if she answered yes to either & it depends how much more in depth u get & her answers i get whether u'll "know" if she's down
2006-08-14 06:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by REAL24/7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By being very forth right-- if the attraction is mutual she will jump at the chance
2006-08-14 06:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by big man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite her for dinner, drink allot of wine and slyly suggest strip poker.
2006-08-14 06:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite her over for dinner. drop suttle hints into the conversation. watch a seductive movie together after dinner. watch her reactions.
if i were near you, i would come over and help you 2 out ;-)
-Jill
2006-08-14 06:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by jack_and_jill420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong-why not just go out and cheat on each other? Marriage is blessed by God.
2006-08-14 06:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋