Is anyone else a....?

Question

Is anyone else a deep thinker? I am one and sometimes it annoys me. I know that you can't stop thinking, but I mean I think more that most people do I think. I think deeply about everything. Sometimes that's good, but other times it just annoys me; and it annoys other people. It annoys them because I look at all the small details and stuff of everything. And I can't really help it, because it's just the way I am. Is there anyone else like this?

Answer 1

Yes. Sometimes I can't even sleep because if I start thinking, there goes the whole night. I don't know how many people have said to me, "You think too much". But it is the way we are made. And like all qualities it has its upside and downside.
I'm a conceptual thinker, more than a detailed thinker, and I think you have the harder road on that. Talk to your counselor about it at school. There are tests you can take that can help guide you into fields of study where your particular gifts are really useful and you can put them to work. My husband is gets lost in details (he's a thinker, too), but it makes him good in electronics, computers, anything that is a mental challenge to the point where most people would give up--when they've run out of energy, he's still trucking and usually gets there. It gives him an inventive mind, too, always thinking up better ways to do things. So study into it and make it work for you.

Answer 2

You bet! I can totally relate that. However it's a blessing in disguise as I can't help be so fascinated with everything and it has built my creativity. I enjoy keeping busy and my deep thinking gave me new ideas and I use them. I tried painting a gourd for a friend who asked, and wasn't even aware I could paint! That was the funny part...and have been doing for two years now. I love it! I have had a lot of compliments on my work that is a wonderful reward. I make a lot of other things involving woodworking etc...always thinking...I love what my hands have created so far and have made gifts for a few. A lot of hours has gone by in a much more relaxed mode. From a deep thinker my friend has turned me into a creative monster! I love it, and we have a great laugh about that, but we share often...and always curious to see what we will come up with next. I see myself as her student and have a lot of respect for her. We have met alot of other people who enjoy doing the same things. We have a blast! So don't cut yourself short...find the genius within you and have a great time! There's nothing like it! I'm so glad she has a great sense of humour and I tell her I'm the strange one, but we do make alot of people laugh and it's very contagious if you will. I mean to laugh until you cry...how good is that, it just doesn't get any better than that! Have a great day!

Answer 3

I'm that way too. I try to focus on sorting the important details from the noise, especially in deciding what to mention to other people, but it's difficult sometimes.

This tendency is a double-edged sword. It will make you good at identifying the critical issues in any given situation/issue/problem, but it can easily get obsessive and you end up spending way more time thinking about something than it's really worth. I some times get the "paralysis-by-analysis" problem where I can't make a decision because I feel that I still need to think more analyze more. Sometimes I think that I'm really just fooling myself, using this as a way to avoid making the obvious decision, which will result in having to do something unpleasant.

One other negative side effect is that I often get irritated with people because they don't think deeply and critically enough about important things; they just go by prejudice, dogma or conventional wisdom, without ever questioning it.

Maybe we should start a support group :)

Answer 4

I can remember sitting on the front porch when I was 5 years old and watching the neighbours do their thing. Who pays attention to a kid? I would watch people and how they reacted to each other. Pretty soon I was making bets with myself about how each of them would react to whatever new situation was brewing, and I found that I was most often right. People have always fascinated me.

And then I got to school, and I discovered books. Well, I had the school library read out by the time I was 9...yes, even Don Quixote and Catcher in the Rye. I discovered that while I read I could have movies going on in my head. And those lives were so wonderful to watch. Treasure Island was a joy. And Moby Dick. And A Conneticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court. I got to go to ancient Egypt, and the Moon and Stars. And all that reading helped me gain even better insight into people. So my guesses about how people would react in different situations became more accurate.

And when I was 9 I realized that everyone on Earth. All animals and birds and insects and people were just born to die. It crushed me. I was depressed for 2 weeks. Why? If there was a God, why were we put on this earth to die? What could be more cruel? Or more pointless?

Then I discovered philosophy. Maybe this life was just a stage of a greater whole. Maybe our souls put on these different suits of flesh and bone to learn lessons needed to move on to a higher plane of existance.

By the time I was 20 I had experienced every religion available to me in the western hemisphere. And I had decided that religions were just a means of making insecure people feel better about that death question. Most people fight the idea of death for their whole lives. And they need religions to make them feel that their lives have a purpose.

So I believe in a higher being. Or maybe I should say a higher consciousness. And I believe we're all striving to become a part of it by learning our lessons in our lives and moving to a higher degree of understanding. And once we've learned all our lessons, I think we become part of that light of reason and beauty. That consciousness of love that all beings strive for.

And apart from philosophical things, I just like to learn anything and everything. It pleases me to learn something new. It doesn't have to be important or earth-shaking. Learning that my middle grandson loves the colour orange "because it's warm and happy" is just as important as learning that Bush can back off from stupid "up yours" decisions sometimes.

So yes, I believe I'm a thinker too. Whether my brain goes deep or stays in the shallows is rather irrelevant. The fact that I'm using it to expand my knowledge and grow as a person is the most important aspect of it.

Answer 5

Don't worry, you're not alone on that one! I know, it drives me up a wall and sometimes into tears when i feel that the world is spiraling down into something that it was never meant to be. But it seems that you can't level with everyone around you the same as you would wish to. i've thought about life, i've thought about death, i've thought about feelings, i've thought about the fact that i'm thinking, i've thought about pretty much every universal question or assumption, and i am VERY young to be doing so. lets just say that i haven't gotten my diploma yet... my highschool one. But it seems scary at times that i think and feel this way, but at the same time, i can't imagine living without it or being so ignorant to these thoughts. So i say, don't try to block it out and just accept that you are someone that can think and feel deeper than those around you... giving you a sense of wisdom and chaotic contentment unlike any that they've ever imagined.

Answer 6

I'm always thinking deeply about everything, too. And, I always get good ideas and I manage to figure out most of what happens in my life. But, I get my best ideas when I go to the can... Don't know why...

Answer 7

I can totally relate. My penis thinks so much when I see a hot chick in public, it looks like I stuffed a banana in my pants. Of course you're not alone!! Maybe I should introduce you two? It could be love at first sight! Ya' never know!! Also, check out the source I listed. That place will give you more food for thought!

Answer 8

I've been accused of this also. I enjoy thinking about and researching things from every possible angle. Most people don't want to or can't do that. Just try not to obsess over the tiny things!

Answer 9

OMG Yes,

I am told that i am too complex and turn the simplest things into so much more. My imagination starts going and I start thinking of the pros and cons and well.... yes i truly do know what you mean.

Answer 10

Yeah, me! I'm always thinking. My partner tells me off for it cos I lose sleep thinking too deeply about things!