My son has just turned 4 years old and starts 4 yr old kindergarten on September 1st.The morning class is full and no one wants to switch, so he has to be in the afternoon class which runs from 12-3pm. This is being run by his daycare so he doesnt have to go any where different.
Here is my problem, his father is mad at me now and refuses to let me pick up our son on sunday nights (i have him mondays) and thursday nights(when i havehim for thewknd), I live over 30 miles away (one way) from his daycare, I also work in the same town as his daycare,very close actually. So I now have to drive to there 2 times a day, both of those days, in the morning to get him and in afternoon to work. His father drops him off at 5:30 A.M, our son doesnt go back to sleep after getting there and once his 4 yr old kindergarten starts,he wont be able to nap anymore.Sept.1st I'll have to leave him there on those 2 days until 6pm,it would be a waste to pick him up in the morning anymore. read on....
2006-08-14 06:28:22 · 5 answers · asked by hotmama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he was with me then he wouldnt have to go there until 12pm when his class starts, he still takes naps in the afternoons especially when his father has him and drops him off at 5:30am, since he wont be able to nap because of class I'm very afraid that he wont be learning as much as he could because he wont be able to function as well, i'm worried because i really want him to do this 4 yr old kindergarten thing being that his b-day is so late in the year,it would be a good thing to get him ready....am i thinking about whats best for my child or am i being "crazy" as his father would say.
2006-08-14 06:32:19 · update #1
I'm currently filling out paperwork to change our placement schedule...all this driving and him being in daycare when he doesnt have to be is costing me too much money.I want to let the courts know how much i am concerned about our son, but i dont want them to think i'm trying to take our son from him. He has class mon,tues,thurs,fri, his father cant help that he has to work that early but is being childish,i'm just asking to take him the night before so that atleast 2 days a week he doesnt have to be at daycare so damn long..and i get to pay for the extra 6 1/2 hours hes there when i shouldnt have to...
2006-08-14 06:38:09 · update #2
I cant make his daycare make him nap earlier...nap time is 12:30 in the afternoon..if you have kids then you know he's not gonna nap when the rest of the kidsand his friends are all running around playing and making noise....not an option.
2006-08-14 06:41:12 · update #3
As a father of 5 i totally understand what you are saying and where you are coming form. You are not being crazy at all as parents part of our job is to put whats best for our children and their needs b4 our own. My ex and I have a joint custody joint placement agreement where I have my girls one week and she the next but because of her work schedule I end up having the kids more than I should because she works Mon wed and Thurs and has to be there by 630 am. So on the weeks she is supposed to have them they spend the night sun Tues and wend so that i can get them to school. its not always easy on my wife and i or them but as a parent it is my respectability to make sure their needs are met first and for most. So if your son's father wont meet you in the middle ecstatically for something every child should have the chance to do because having that chance could mean the difference between being successful and needing to be held back. So if hes not going to work with you then yes you need to pation the courts to change the agreement because he is not only being immature he is also being irresponsible as a parent
just my opinion hope it helps
2006-08-14 07:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 4 year old program sounds like a wonderful thing i have a daughter with a birthday in oct. so she was a late school starter and the headstart she went to was wonderful. Do not let his drop off time be a issue if he gets there at 5:30 am let him stay awake just move his nap time up to 10:30 that will give him an hr or so depending on how long it takes you to get him to day care maybe a little longer... Good Luck
2006-08-14 13:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all sounds like a big pain in the a**. But you need to decide what will benefit your son. Even if it puts you in a bind. Alot of parenting situations are not convenient. So put some thought into what is best for him. And go with that. Hope that helped. Good Luck.
2006-08-14 13:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by mssteph800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definately not in the best interest of the child. I assume you have joint custody 50/50... is it stiplated in a court order anywhere? Talk to a lawyer they usually give you a first free session..... you need to get this mediated and solved. He should have his childs best interest in this matter, if not contest it, tell him YOU DISAGREE WITH HIM ~~ it would not take much to get it resloved in front of a court commissioner.
2006-08-14 13:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by sinneragain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kid has to come first. Try it for a month and see how it goes for him.
2006-08-14 13:37:17 · answer #5 · answered by dt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋