JUST FOUND OUT SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH THEN BEST FRIEND .THIS HAPPEN ABOUT 10 YEARS AGO I FOUND OUT ABOUT 3 MOS AGO .SHE SAID THAT IT WAS A 1 TIME THING BUT WHO KNOWS
2006-08-14 06:16:17 · 16 answers · asked by KEN G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ten years is a long time,Buddy.I can only say that...It is possible yall need some counseling to get past this.She obviously loves you or she would not have stayed.Find out WHY she did this..then try to get over it.I am sorry for your troubles.This is ALWAYS a difficult situation.I hope everything works out for you and your wife.Good Luck!
2006-08-14 06:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater!
Not so. The guilt alone may have been enough to make it a 1 time thing. Unless you can prove otherwise or have reason to believe there was more than the 1 time, whether with him or someone else I'd say work on forgiving her. I won't say "forget" because no one forgets the hurt and frustration that is done when you have been betrayed by a loved one. In 10 years, the liaison between your wife and friend should never have been mentioned 3 months ago, it should have remained in the past unless the cheating is happening again.
2006-08-14 06:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a decision to make. Is her act of infadelity from ten years ago enough to end the 10 years of happy marrige you two have shared before this knolodge. Keep in mind that she probibly was afraid to tell you becuse of this very reasion. That you'll leave. Know another question is why did she tell you now. There is one of two reasions I can think of. One, she finally felt that your relationship was as strong as it could be and that if there was a chance you'll stay now would be the best time to tell you and releave the guilt thats been building for the last 10 years. or She is cheating on you now, loves someone else, dosent want to tell you and is telling you about this prior indescresion to get you to leave.
2006-08-14 06:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by honest guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who's best friend was it, yours or hers? Was it a male or a female? If it happened 10 years ago forget about it. What's past is past.
2006-08-14 06:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A one time thing?! From 10 yrs ago...sounds like she's being honest...cause she could have left then..but she loves you and stayed!!
I know easier said than done.. cause if my husband EVER cheated...He'd be on the street -bags in hand!!!
2006-08-14 06:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally the guy who cheated suspects the guy who did not cheat of an identical indiscretion. She is deflecting her very own guilt onto you. It would not sound like there is any have confidence on your marriage. without it there is no foundation for a protracted and healthful relationship. too a lot time spent on investigating and accusing one yet another. Waste of time.
2016-10-02 01:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by rettig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously he wasn't your best friend! You have to decide whether you want to stay with her or not...Do you still love her? Can you forgive her and move on? Has she been faithful since then? Trust is a hard thing to get back, but you have to decide in your heart what you want to do.
I'm sorry it happened I know it really sucks! Good luck!
2006-08-14 06:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has lied to you about it this whole time? not telling is lying to me. i would have a serious talk with her about it if it bothers you and find out exactly why it happened. but if this means that you are not going to be able to trust her then i would try counseling. 10 years is a long time to waste. try to make it work if you love her!!
2006-08-14 06:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by amandy245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was ten years ago, just drop it. Tell her that you understand people make mistakes and that you could not imagine your life without her. Be strong and don't let your jealousy ruin your marriage.
2006-08-14 06:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by yamaha bassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a show stopper. I feel for you buddy. Can you ever trust her again? Is your best friend still in the picture? Who else has she slept with? Good luck!!
2006-08-14 06:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋