We've been going out for 10 months now. Pms has gotten in the way of our relationship. Now she will be taking meds the doc gave her. She says she loves me. We tried living together but it didn't last. She gets annoyed easily. We are fine for a while then she needs space she says. She says she does not want to give me up. Go out and be friends. I love every second of her. It is hard to give her space. How do I do this. She is on my mind 24/7.
Great love making. Great everything we do together. ????
2006-08-14 06:10:35 · 12 answers · asked by terry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really need to calm down. Feel with your heart, but think with your head. This girl has issues enough that she needs to be medicated to act civilly to you. That's not a great sign of things ahead. I'm not trying to be mean, or rain on your parade, just objective. If she keeps occilating between highs and lows (where she needs "space") that isn't a great sign either. Space is an undefined concept that really comes down to one person being uncomfortable in the relationship. If you've already tried living together and couldn't make it work, all inside the 10 months you've known this girl, it may be a good time to take the opportunity of this "space" to make a little space for yourself. Go hang out with your friends that you've been ignoring since you hooked up with this chick, catch a ballgame, read a book, whatever. Make some time to do stuff for yourself. Remember, if she likes you, she likes you for the man that you are. So, be one.
2006-08-14 06:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she needs space let her be. Don't call or IM or text her because that will make her feel crowded when she needed space.I know it will be hard but if you don't listen you will prolly push her away. If the doc got her on meds give it a few months for it to get into her system and then things should be fine. You say PMS. I don't know if you mean PMS literally or just that shes moody. Trust me I speak from experience. I have suffered many years of depression that made me VERY moody and irritable but have been on meds since 2000. They do work but give her time and understanding. If she says she needs time. Tell her you understand and to call you when shes ready. In time she will love you for it! These kind of things are true illnesses so DONOT hold it agaisnt her in the heat of an arguement.
Good Luck
2006-08-14 06:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're young. This is tough. Many people have been through what you're describing. Have you heard the saying if you love someone set them free and if they were yours they'll come back (not exact quote here but similar).
If you love her the way you say you do, you'll try and endure, but the cold hard truth is, it will be up to her to overcome whatever emotional issues she has. And even if she does, it's no guarantee that she feels or will feel the same love for you as you do for her.
Right now you sincerely believe with your heart that she's the only one, but trust me, there are others. Your real soul mate could be out there and you don't even know it right now.
Good luck...Peace
2006-08-14 06:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not giving her, her space can run her away. Try doing other things and let her have the space she needs for her self. Everyone should take a breather or to to think or do other things in life. Having just one focus on a person coud mean less time on you trying to move up in your life. So do other things that are constructive to improvement on your life.
2006-08-14 06:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Nita C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your best to be supportive and non judgmental let her know your there for her no matter what but don't smother her if this means you have to go a day or 2 without talking or seeing each other then that is how it has to be in time with your help and support she will be able to work through whatever issue or issues she is having and by taking this approach she will love and respect you more in the long run
2006-08-14 06:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just let her have her space. A women needs her space especially around that time of the month. She gets irritated and bloated. She does not want you to see her like that. You need to back off and she will come around. Good luck.
2006-08-14 06:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to pursue some of her own interests. Sports, book club, cooking classes, something like that. When women pursue these activities outside of a relationship, they gain energy and insight that they can bring back to the relationship making it stronger. They feel like they are still living their own lives, but are also part of a couple.
2006-08-14 06:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space just let her call you don't nag her about when the next time you will see her those sort of things. Good luck.
2006-08-14 06:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know what taking a break mean? it's just that... just don't call her as often and don't go visit her unless she says it's okay...
when she's ready and she's used to her meds then she'll call u.. u don't wanna be around for any side effects...
2006-08-14 06:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. Get another hobby that is not your gf. Space will make it even better.
2006-08-14 06:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Unique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋