The last time I expressed my thoughtts, she gave me a quick hand job - not what I had in mind!
2006-08-14 05:57:24 · 17 answers · asked by sputternick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT ACT LIKE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER OR THAT SHE IS A DISAPPOINTMENT TO YOU...
Whatever "noise" she has bizzing through her head, distracting her from feeling sexual....will get worse.
Inspire her to feel appreciated, needed, wanted, sexy, special, important, valued, etc. Do that with your actions and do things for her (even if they don't SEEM romantic) to give her a break and enhance her ife. Take over some of the household work, tell her to go take a bubblebath...you got it. Get her attention with your efforts to "pursue" her and win her over. Flirt with her like a teenager.....she will catch on.
Flowers and candy are outdated. Nice, but don't mean much more than you think you can buy her off with little effort. DO stuff for her that normally SHE would have to do.
FOREPLAY sometimes takes all day. For a woman, it is mostly mental, and has little to do with the physical.
Men don't know how selfish they appear when they "expect" sexual attention on the spot, without doing anything to INSPIRE their women to even want to go there......women can be resentful and hold grudges by withholding sex.
You could sit and have a long talk, but there's no way you will NOT appear to be critical. So it wouldn't be such a good idea.....
Just assume that she is hot for you, that you're in high school, that you have to charm and seduce her to win her over to get her to go out with you......
You can do this, you've done it before. You did it better than anyone else. She picked you, and married you. Remember?
You go,Tiger!
2006-08-14 06:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you need to do. First when you get home take a shower. Send the kids to grandmas house. Bring her roses chocolates, and a nice bottle of wine. Make her a nice dinner. Put on some Barry White. Don't forget the candles. This should do the trick. It always works for my husband
2006-08-14 13:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try going back to doing what u use to do in the beginning to get her to go to bed with u in the first place, u treated her like a queen , wined, her dined her, were sweet understanding ect.. see if that works, maybe she's missing the romance that once was there but now is gone
2006-08-14 13:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old book entitled, SEX STARTS IN THE KITCHEN. It basically says that good sex in the bedroom (or wherever) is a result of what happens in the daily life and interaction of the couple. Perhaps it is time to examine your actions to see if you are being the kind of man that your woman needs and desires.
2006-08-14 13:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is stressed or tired or something. Women have responsibilities to take care of during the day. By the time it's bed time, we are there to sleep, nothing else. Try to take some of her daily work off of her hands, and I'm sure you will be rewarded.
2006-08-14 13:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could start by not referring to sex as "giving it up" - not exactly the romantic words a woman wants to hear. If you are appraoching her this way it's no wonder all you got was a hand job.!
2006-08-14 13:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare the environment from evening itself with romantic things. Keep her in nice mood. Show your affection by way of mild kisses. When her moods start up, you will have a nice night.
2006-08-14 13:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by sanam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all find out why she isn't having sex with you and go from there.If its not medical, plan a special night or evening with her.Maybe she just needs to be reminded that you still love her.
2006-08-14 13:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you pressure the more shell not give it up
try let seee be patient
communication being caring try to listen to her feelings and respect her
try taking her out go for a walk
ask her why sh hasn't given it to u lately maybe there something bugging her
2006-08-14 13:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sitting down with her and discuss the problem maybe it's a health issue,in any case you really wont know what the deal is until then in the mean time please don't turn to another woman although that is a good way to get her to come around its also ADULTRY.
2006-08-14 13:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋