I gave a friend a "care package" before she went to Spain...some earplugs, eye mask for sleeping, gift card at Nordstroms, and a 'good-luck' anklet .
What to make of someone who cannot express the simplest of gratitude when you do something for them. Is a simple "thank you" so difficult in our self-absorbed society today? I feel like I cannot and do not want to look this person in the eye anymore.
2006-08-14 05:51:37 · 17 answers · asked by LovePinkPuffies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know what...I should not have expected graditude in any form...my bad!
2006-08-14 10:14:42 · update #1
I have been in a similar situation last year I threw a baby-shower for a good friend and and never got a thanks.. but there are a few things you have to remember when gift giving...
a) never give more than you can afford to
b) consider the type of person you give a gift to (i.e are they just thoughtless or is it that they just really don't know any better, some have no home training)
c) and most importantly think about why you're doing it in the first place if you are doing it because you feel good making someone else feel better then you got the right idea, don't stress it and when she realizes that you don't give gifts anymore just tell her "Oh well I didn't think you liked my taste being that you never said thanks".
2006-08-14 06:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by misst 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Had you ever given her such gifts before? She might have been totally surprised and did not know what to do. Having said that though, anyone who receives a gift and does not acknowledge it is rude. There are people in our society (and among our own friends and family members) who don't think they have any duty to acknowledge a gift. It's just the way they are. For the time being, continue being friends with her. But for absolutely no reason, whatsoever, should you EVER give her a gift again. You have learned a very valuabel lesson. Don't set yourself up again with this gal so she can ignore your gestures of friendship.
2006-08-14 06:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you give the gift because you wanted some acknowledgement in return or because you care for your friend. Before you are critcal of another being self absorbed, look to your own actions. A thank you would have been polite on their part, but really shouldn't be the reason why you give a gift.
2006-08-14 05:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Alex B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask this person "So, did you like the care package?".
I do know what you are talking about. I gave my friend's little children some christmas presents, was actually sitting there as they opened the gifts. Do you think the parents even said "Thank You"? No. It was almost like they felt like it was my duty to buy the gifts. So I made a mental note to not buy gifts for them again. Their loss.
2006-08-14 05:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by sukditup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your disappointment. We are living during a time where
we are experiencing attitudes from people such as unthankfulness,people are lovers of themselves, haughty, and is without love of goodness.
When we see these negative traces in people, we just don't let it
rub off on us. We keep doing good. We choose are friends carefully. Give happily. When do this, we feel good about ourselves because we are a cheerful giver.
2006-08-14 06:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by laidawestbrook2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you weren't truly giving the gift, but were trying to get something. If you are really giving something, you shouldn't expect ANYTHING in return. Sure, polite people will be thankful and acknowledge your gift, but if they don't that's on them. If you get upset about not receiving a "thank you" that's your problem, for trying to get something in return.
2006-08-14 06:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know! I hate that! I went out of my way to find this soap that my mother in law likes that she can't find at her store anymore. Did I get a thank you? Nope. I just wouldn't get another gift for that person ever again. Not even for Christmas!
2006-08-14 05:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your pain. Some people do not know how to express gratitude. Be kind hearted knowing that you're the "good" person. Keep them as a friend but know how they are as a person..
2006-08-14 05:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by amylr620 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer strategies getting present enjoying cards and such yet I believe your sister, they're very impersonal so I generally do no longer provide them to human beings until eventually i be conscious of they are going to be greater proper off with them. Like my brother replaced into outta artwork for a month and 0.5 basically at the instant so I have been given him a modern card so as that they might purchase **** for the domicile and what no longer, fairly of having them some cheesey crap they do no longer in all probability decide on. yet yeah...i be conscious of what ya advise...my entire ingredient is...in case you don't be conscious of what to get me, don't get me something....and we are going to shop on spending money for no reason :)
2016-09-29 06:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happened to me. my 'friend' openly criticized my gift in front of everyone else. i didn't say anything at the time but she is, in my book, considered a real ******. there are other stories related to her, though. but anyway, i'm sure your friend will enjoy your gift. maybe she is busy or maybe you gave your gift with the wrong expectations.
2006-08-14 05:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋