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My sister and I have never got on. She makes me feel so down. Shes always shouting at me and gets things her way. Everyone agrees with her and then starts on me. I hate living at home with her. I sometimes wish she wasnt my sister. is that so bad? You have no idea how she makes me feel. what should i do? no insensitive answers please x

2006-08-14 05:45:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Unfortunately, just because you are born into the same family doesn't mean you will "hit it off" and get along. Often getting along with family takes even more work than you will ever have to do to get along with your friends. But it's worth the work in the end if you can have peace and support from your family members.

Start by sitting down and thinking about what you can do to get along with your sister. No, it's not fair if you end up doing all the work, but you can't control what your sister will do, only what you will do, so that's where you need to start.

For example, if she shouts at you, you don't have to shout back. How long can she really argue with herself? If you are kind, compassiate, caring, honest, responsible, etc. how can your family not be pulled around to your side eventually? Why does your family agree with her? What is it that you do or don't do that makes them doubt you? That is something you can change.

Everyone wishes a brother or sister would disappear somewhere along the line of growing up, but the truth is, that when you are older and your parents are gone, you will be glad if you have found a way to get along with her. Then you will be able to be a support and comfort to each other.

So put in the effort and do whatever you can to improve your relationship--try listening to her and figuring out her concerns and seeing her as a person just like yourself. Put in the effort and hopefully she will mature to a place where she puts in effort too. You may never end up "best friends" but you could end up a lot closer.

2006-08-14 06:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0 0

This may sound patronising but when i lived at home with my sister we couldn't be in the same room together we did some awful things to each other when we moved out we spent time away from each other and now we are best of friends I am bridesmaid at her wedding next year and we email and talk all the time.
I still remember how hard it was to live with her though so understand what a tough time you are going through my advice is give each other space for a while .
Take care & good luck :)

2006-08-14 05:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am afraid that is how nearly all sisters are. But do not despair it seems that as they get older and leave home to make lives of their own, they get on a lot better. So, for now try and make the best of it. If it gets too bad tell your mum how you feel perhaps if she really understands how you feel about it she might try to sort the situation out. Good luck.

2006-08-14 06:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh yes I do I had 2 sisters and they were both b'tches to me but now I have the last laugh on them,they have made nothing of their lives and I am very happy ,too happy to talk to them,and they want what I have ,makes me feel good to know how miserable their lives are

2006-08-14 05:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It's very hard to answer this question entirely fairly without knowing a little more about your circumstances.

However, I'd recommend that you talk to your parents about this: or, failing that, talk to a Counsellor at school or something. Get a teacher involved. A dinner lady. Someone you trust.

The only way this issue is ever going to get resolved is if it is allowed to come out into the open, so talk to someone.

2006-08-14 05:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by fiat_knox 4 · 0 0

Don't worry i go through stages where i feel like this too it's normal, you'll probably feel you wish she were dead sometimes. You may grow out of it. Try not to blame yourself, she's probably just a really horrible selfish sister but then could you prevent this yourself from happening.
Try not to worry, try to ignore her
;-)

2006-08-14 05:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I felt the same about my sister growing up, but now that we are adults we are very close. Sometimes you just need time andyou both have to grow up to like each other.

2006-08-14 06:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer b 2 · 0 0

I know I have 2 of them!!! I don't live with them anymore but they still affect my life. When she does things to bother you, just try to remember its not forever. Someday you and her won't be living together and things will be different. I hope the best for you.

2006-08-14 05:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

me & my sister have NEVER got on either so i sympathise with you. she's 20 & im 23. she does exactly what your sister does & it annoys me how everyone's world revolves around her.

apparently things get better the older you guys get.... have to say i'm still waiting

2006-08-14 05:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by tjstarbe 4 · 0 0

Have a talk with her & tell her what make you feel annoyed from her but make sure you are both in a good mood.

2006-08-14 05:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Tota 2 · 0 0

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