i was wondering, should u really wait until you are married to really save yourself for someone, or should you just put yourself out there and let the world know that you have grown up?
2006-08-14 05:44:20 · 8 answers · asked by kid09 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Special Education
"Putting yourself out there" is no indication that you have grown up. And why would the world need to know? It just means you are engaging in an activity, possibly without considering consequences.
Such activity brings with it adult responsibility, adult emotions and feelings. Children are not ready for those responsibilities, emotions, and feelings.
I have no particular opinion on whether you should wait for marriage. However, do wait until you are grown up. The fact that you are asking this question is a good thing - you are thinking about things. It also suggests you are not ready.
If in doubt, wait. These possibilities will still be there next week, next month, next year.
Take care. You might want to talk more about this issue with an adult you trust.
2006-08-14 05:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can answer this question for you. Lots of people can give advice weather good or bad. The real answer is inside yourself. You need to do some soul searching to discover what you feel. What do you believe in? What are your values?. It is more of a social issue to people than it should be.
My personal opinion is that I think you should wait untill you are married. There are too many downers to doing it before hand. You sound pretty young. Are you ready for the chance on bringing a baby into the world and supporting it? Birth control is not always a guarentee. What are your religious beliefs? What have your parents taught you. There are so many things on both sides of the argument. Take some time, some thought, and find it within yourself.
2006-08-14 14:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by lisaquinn9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am fundamentally opposed to the 'no sex til marriage' notion. It is important to know if you and the person you are commiting to are compatible. Sexuality is a major componant of a healthy marital relationship. Incompatibility in this area can be devastating to a marriage. Look at it this way; would you wait until after marriage to find out what religion the person is, or political affiliation, or health condition,or if they want children or not, or any other of the vital issues to a healthy relationship?? Why would this be different, in fact I think it can be even more vital.
2006-08-14 13:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by lmn78744 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different and each individual will decide for themselves when the time is right. I would encourage your group to continue to wait because it really is the only surefire way to avoid pregnancy and STD's (this is why I waited until later in life- not marriage but definately out of high school).... however I wouldn't beat them down with dogma if they chose not to wait!
2006-08-14 12:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by annathespian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to save sex for marriage. Save it for the one you love, that's what I did. But just because it worked for me doesn't mean it will work for you. If you really want to save it for marriage, that's fine. It's entirely up to you. You will get way too many different answers if you ask other people.
2006-08-14 12:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by bluejacket8j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world doesn't care "that you have grown up". What does that even mean? It's up to you. If you want to do it, then do it. If you think you should wait, then wait.
2006-08-14 12:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by aplusjimages 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you definitely shouldn't have sex to "let the world know that you have grown up!"
If you have sex, it should be because you're in love, you trust your partner, and you feel emotionally ready. And most important, because you want to do it.
As long as you practice safe sex and you only do what you really want to do, you'll be fine.
2006-08-14 12:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by dark_phoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting is better of course.
2006-08-14 12:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by Nova J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋