This is the third time I've found him doing this. I no longer feel trust or love towards him because of his behaviour. I've confronted him before he could follow through with any of his encounters but do I actually need to have proof of follow through? Or are his personal ads and chats about meeting for encounters grounds for divorce?
He is currently setting something up. Do I wait and take the baby and our suitcases to say goodbye when they meet? He needs a serious wake up call about how serious this is.
Don't get me wrong he has the right to behave how he wants, but this isn't what I signed up for. He broke our agreement and it's not what I wanted for my life. We each deserve to be happy.
2006-08-14 05:31:42 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely it its grounds for divorce. Having no trust for your spouse is probably the worst thing that can happen to your relationship, because trying to get it back is a bit**. I would have suggested counseling, but it looks like you've already made up your mind about the situation. I wouldn't wait for "proof" because you'll be killing yourself inside just waiting. Who's to say that he hasn't already met up with someone? I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I've been in your shoes and I know exactly how you feel. It's not going to be an easy decision, but it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you will do whats right for you and yur family. You deserve MUCH better. If he thinks he can find better than you online, let him. He'll be sorry when you're gone! Good luck hun!
2006-08-14 05:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on the other side of that situation. I was the bad guy. I never met anyone online, I never set any meetings up. But It was treated as cheating and I almost got divorced. We went to marriage counseling, and we are better than ever.
If he wont stop...he never will. You've already tried to stop him. There is something missing in your marriage for him and he is not happy. You are not happy. Divorce is all that's left. I say leave him alone, you cant give him what he needs, he isn't giving you respect and true love, he doesn't deserve you. You can do better. Move on and start a new life.
He will never change. (Especially if you caught him and he keeps doing it) You gave him a chance to learn his mistake.
2006-08-14 05:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by ♣ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot emphasize this enough- GET COPIES. Print out copies of all of it so you can use it in court. Have proof so he can't talk his way out of it. You do deserve to be happy, and staying with a lying, sneaky, conniving man is not the way to be happy. Get your evidence and leave him. OR you could set up a profile on one of the sites he is on, contact him, and see what he has to say. Then you will know for sure if he would follow through. You could even go so far as to set up a meeting, then watch him pee in his pants when he sees you sitting there. Bottom line-you can't trust him and you deserve better than that.
P.S. Is it just me or do these "online dating sites" seem to be the downfall of society? Or at least of alot of marriages.
2006-08-14 05:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the baby to a sitter and allow the meeting to take place. be there with video cam in hand . Don't let him see you and do not attack anyone. best revenge is in court.
Give all the dang rope he wants. Some men can be such bores. They sometimes they they are original. Take the computer to a tech and get a copy of everything on it. Only takes a while. Also go to Microsoft and download freeware to monitor the keyboard. You can get the return info sent to your private email. Good Luck.
2006-08-20 09:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Makingwishes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Marriage is a promise to love only each other for always. The only Biblical reason for divorce is for adultry (sex with someone else). You can't watch this guy 24/7. When you no longer trust him to love only you, it's over. Besides he may bring home something from his little encounters that soap and water won't wash off. Today that could mean a death sentence. Dump that guy.
2006-08-18 11:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bama Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is how cheating starts and from what you said your Husband has a cheating heart and whats his deal why would he go so far to disrespect you by even contemplating cheating is enough for me to consider walking and why does he have to use the internet in the first place is that the best he can do maybe he wont miss what he has until its gone because with internet dating you never know what or who you are going to get so follow your heart its usually right.
2006-08-14 05:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's grounds for divorce. Planning a murder but no following through will get ya thrown in jail. It sounds like he has no respect for you and you don't want to be with a man like that. Having no trust in a relationship is the worst. I know. Get out now.
2006-08-14 05:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Celesta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it enough for you that he is no longer holding your marriage vows sacred? He is not forsaking all others; if you "do" still love him, I would imagine it would hurt more to see him in the act of having an affair - intent is just as guilty as the deed. He did not happen to walk into a situation not knowing it was intended to be an affair.
Before his actions become mental torture or abuse to you and your child, leave him and pursue your own life. If he really wants you, let him regain your trust (almost impossible).
This is just a heads up "Love is not supposed to hurt."
2006-08-14 05:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have grounds now such as not loving him is grounds for you and him to get out of a relationship before it sinks any further. You can be floating and not all the way to the bottom before you bail out. Do what your heart tells you to do. When the trust is gone i would think so is the relationship with it.
2006-08-19 22:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is grounds for divorce. If you want to make it even better you can wait until he sets himself up and divorce him or if you dont feel like all that you can just divorce him on the grounds that you already have.
2006-08-14 05:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by sha scrilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋