Just curious to know, this guy has been hitting on my man at work, my man doesn't think he is hitting on him and says the guy isn't gay, but he says stuff to him like, I wanna bite you and you look good in those pants and even flashed his weiner at him one day to show his spiderweb head tattoo! Sounds all too weird to me and my b/f thinks it is cool and is acting really weird about the whole thing like he likes it. My b/f usually has a "scruffy" kinda look to him and today he went to work clean shaven and smelling good! Should I be worried?
2006-08-14 05:30:41 · 24 answers · asked by Wonderinggirl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I did ask him about it and I told him I think you are turning gay and he said how can you say that to me and chnaged the subject, we haven't had sex in like 4 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-14 05:41:46 · update #1
The guy that has been "hitting" on him, says he is engaged to be married to a woman????????? I think he is gay or bi?????
2006-08-14 05:55:30 · update #2
No one can turn gay. It is literally and factually an impossibility.
Now, as to whether your boyfriend might already BE gay, and simply have hid it from himself for many years or fought it to a standstill -- that's a totally different story. It could be correct, or not.
On the other hand. We are gay, we have straight friends with whom we are very close. We know many other gay people with straight friends, and straight people with gay friends. What you are talking about is NOT any indicator of being gay.
Guys DO, if they are comfortable with themselves, kid with each other -- I know guys in warehouses -- who are about as straight as they come -- that will joke about bending a deliveryman over the counter -- it doesn't mean anything -- and showing one another your dick doesn't really mean anything either. Yes, many American men are, pardon me, f**king hung up -- but not all of them are, and those that are, often have hung up women to blame for it.
I very much doubt you have anything to worry about -- although if you don't leave the situation alone, you could end up without a boyfriend, it won't be because he is gay.
Regards,
Reyn
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2006-08-14 06:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can which man turn "gay" overnight? Your boyfriend? No, he cannot turn anything either overnight or in a lifetime...he is either Gay or he isn't. He likes the attention, and sorry to tell you, but the attention he is getting is not going to lead to somewhere that is good for you. Count your blessings..there is a very positive side to this, you know! IF you BF is gay, and he didn't know it (you can bet he suspected it, but wasn't talking), then better to know now and stop investing any more time into the relationship, move on to find another. Why are you asking here? Why don't you have a heart to heart, not come across as accusatory or judgmental, and maybe he can level with himself IF he has these feelings. HE MAY NOT have them..I am not saying one way or another...I am only saying that it is time to find out for yourself, not ask for opinions, for no one here, including myself, can tell you one way or another...period! Only he can tell you that, and he may not want to admit it IF he is Gay. With what I have seen here, I wouldn't blame him..the homophobia that is rampant on this site is horrible! So much judging on things many people have NO idea about. Sad situation. But for your sake, at least try. If you do not get satisfactory answers, then move on. It is easier than falling hard for someone that can never be yours. And all this fuss may be over nothing. Good luck
2006-08-14 05:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one turns gay, ever. It's not a choice. He may be curious however and/or pleased by the attention. Or, he could be gay and has been suppressing his feelings due to worrying about what his family or how society thinks about homosexuals. If the two of you haven't had sex in over 4 months, you may want to sit down with him and discuss your concerns (don't accuse him of acting gay). You may find out that he is gay and just wants to be your friend. If he doesn't want to discuss the matter at all, than you need to decide what it is that you want and go from there.
BTW, I think the other guy is def. gay but may not be "out" yet.
2006-08-14 05:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by Draga M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no person can turn gay overnight, its impossible to choose your sexuality.
your b/f may be very curious about being with a man or he may be gay and not know it or not want to admit it.
as for the comments that this other guy makes to your b/f i wouldnt have worried, he may just be comfortable as a man to be close with another man, but as for going into work smelling good and being clean shaven when he doesnt normally, that may be reason for your concern.
your best bet is to talk to your b/f in an understanding way. unfortunately he may not open up to you about it he may be curious or gay and ashamed about it.
2006-08-14 05:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by nicoles1504 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex g/f had something similar, wanted to know if a male can turn gay, so since i ask her servral times to have sex with other girls and she complied, she asked me the same, and got guys for me, 3some you know, me her and another guy and she gave him a bj then ask me to join, and for the hell of it i did it, she got like 5 guys in over a month and i am not gay, i still like and i am attracted to women, i wont say i didnt enjoy playing with her and the others, it was a lot of fun, yes i had pleasure, my g spot was fun to have massaged, ha, but pleasure you can feel from a machine (j/o machine) , but having pleasure with feelings, i dont see a guy and myself..... i feel it with a girl where i can complete my other half... i might be bi, but more into girls.
so if you are gonna be, you will, if you dont, dont think matters what you do, you will stay how you are.
2006-08-14 11:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Wilfred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think your boyfriend is gay, there are probably other indications which will turn up in the bedroom. If not, you sound like you're reading too much into this, unless your boyfriend has clearly indicated that this behavior does indeed turn him on.
2006-08-14 05:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, no sex in four months, He thinks it's cool when some guy flashes his "wiener" ( I can't believe you used the word "wiener") and now he's all smelling good. I'd start getting prepared for a big announcement from him real soon.
2006-08-14 05:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by buldawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think a man can turn gay over night. the feelings have to be there to begin with. men are confussing, to me anyway, and probably confused in the proses of coming to tearms with the fact that they are gay or curious about gay tendency's
2006-08-14 05:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people dont turn gay over night or over any period of time... they may discover they are gay...they may even have known they are gay for a long time and deny it to themselves and everyone else and wake up one day and realize they dont wish to deny it anymore,, accept the fact they are gay and then act accordingly
They didnt turn gay... they were gay all along
2006-08-14 05:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I doubt a person can turn gay overnight - they can finally admit to themselves they always were gay......when you ahve those little fears creeping up you are normally justified!
2006-08-14 05:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋