Help me understand this behavior?

Question

im bisexual i had sex with a gay male which was my first partner i have a wonderful girlfriend and when i had sex with him it was like on and off understand that I live in a small place but im the kind of person who could give a **** about what someone says about me that they didnt see for themselves but anway rumors got around whatever but this was like 10 months ago so 1 day this year he called my house cause i changed my number he asked me did i want to participate with him in sex i said no because im trying to improve and slack up on it a bit or whatever, now im recieving phone calls just people playing on my phone this male also told my girlfriend what we did im pretty equp for any succession so i got out of that bs and this person still trys to pry his way into getting some attention the thing is this person has had sex with various people he was the first i had and im like WTF shouldnt i be the 1 actin stupid.......... whatever but this person has really became a pest

also I love my girlfriend but I also loved sex with him keyword:sex and sometimes i still want to, do to his behavior he just dosent qualify anymore me im a very free spirted person so i always do what i feel i even told him that it was just the sex he was really like trying to take it upon himself under any circumstances that im gay and we were going to be 2gether some B>S, but im not and for those critics that dont belive that bisexuality exist you ARE VERY AND MOST RESPECTIBLY WRONG!!!! there is also a new breed of sexuality and thats trysexual TRY ANYTHING LOL

Answer 1

Sorry, too hard to decipher. Please try some punctuation, spacing, grammar and capitalization.

Answer 2

Wow. Do you talk without stopping like you write? I think I can figure out what you're saying though.

Listen, if the guy keeps calling, you are obviously giving him mixed messages. You even kind of included a mixed message in your question. You say you still sometimes want to have sex with him. But it's just sex. No such thing as just sex. You might think so, but almost always one of the partners, if not both, is getting something besides an orgasm out of the deal.

If you really want him to stop, you have to change YOUR behavior. Tell him once, and once only, that you do not want to be with him, sexually or socially. You don't have to explain. It's just one big NO. After that you don't talk to him. If you have caller ID, you don't even answer his calls. If you don't, when you know its him, hang up. Don't talk to him. Don't explain, because your explanation sounds a little to me like if he'd just have sex and shut up about it you'd go for it. So you don't take his calls, you don't see him, you don't write him or email him, he is OUT of your life. He'll stop calling.

As for sexuality. Homo, Hetero, Bi, Trans, or Tri/try. there is no excuse for sex which is not caring and respectful of both partners. What you had with him is not respectful, nor caring, and so you need to move on, but in the future, keep in mind, caring and respectful. This doesn't mean have sex with anything that moves. IF you really have a girlfriend, you probably shouldn't be having sex with others. How would you feel if she was messing around?

Answer 3

Change your phone number and tell him to stop contacting you. Also tell him that you have decided to stay with your girlfriend and be loyal to her only. Then stay away from him. Do not contact him yourself. Being bisexual (or maybe even experimenting in your case) is no picnic. If you are happy with your girlfriend, stay with her. Sex with men can be addicting and you are going to have to get over it for the sake of your girlfriend (and perhaps your future wife). Cut off all connections with this guy.

Answer 4

You are being stalked for no reason other than someone being evil. Call the phone company and have a block put on calls from his number. Call the phone company and tell them you are getting harrassing calls from ______ . Write down the time of day everytime one of these calls comes in. Notify the phone company. It wouldn't hurt to notify the police and tell them you are being harrassed...let them know the times, etc. They will notify the phone company, and between the two of them, the calls will stop. The police will go to him and have a "little talk"..that should be enough to get it to stop. Good luck....been there and this is what I had to do to get the calls stopped by someone who wouldn't take no for an answer.

Answer 5

Tell him to stop contacting you. If it does not work, get a restraining order. I'm sorry your first time was with such a bad person. Learn from the experience and move on.

And definately get yourself checked for diseases if this guy is having lots of sex. Were you using condoms? No anal, vaginal or oral with out a condom!

Answer 6

Sounds pretty messed up.. My only answer would be that there are jealous immature people in every race,sex, sexual identity etc.. Hes just one of the homosexuals that fall under this category... I wouldnt let it get to you... It happens all the time with people from all walks of life... He is the one that looks like an azz, not you..
good luck

Answer 7

I think you need to go see a dr. and get tested for some diseases, cause all that just sounds disgusting. Second, you should stop having random sex with everyone. It's gross.
Keep your pants on.

Answer 8

Like most if not all Homosexuals that have placed their sexuality at the center of their very being and think of nothing else you too suffer from some serious dysfunction like being able to write clearly as a result of your fixation on genitalia!!

Answer 9

People suck sometimes that's the long and short of it, He almost sounds like a yahoo stalker, just stay away from him and if I understand you right your girl now knows about this thanks to him, if she's ok with it just move on don't let him get to you. Don't answer your phone when he calls and in time he will go away...

Answer 10

Of course there is bisexuality.

I don't exactly understand why you decided to break off with the boi -- but it is within your rights. Regardless there is little you can do but weather the storm.

I don't know what else to say.

Reyn
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Answer 11

Be strong and firmly tell the pest that you will call the police for sexual harrassment against him.