I've been happily married for 11 years to what I consider my soul mate. When we first met, we were both sexually adventurous and crazy as a dating couple; threesomes, swapping, kink, you name it, we did it. Then when we tied the knot and started a family, things settled down, which was fine. My wife's libido for sexual wildness disappeared, partly I assume because of the baby and a new chapter in our life. I didn't mind, because in truth, I too was a little burnt out by all of it, and also had changed a bit. I was enjoying growing my business and raising a family, and there was no time (literally) for anything but family and work.
About 2 years ago, I suggested to my wife that we get a babysitter and go to a popular Latin themed night club for dancing and drink without the kids. My wife loves to dance ménage and Salsa and I'm terrible at it. In our younger years, I never had an issue with her dancing with other guys, and this evening it was no different. She started dancing with a younger Latin guy and seemed to be having a great time. All of us were consuming a lot of liquor, and during one point I saw her dance partner grab her *** during the dance. She removed his hand and backed away. He made some apologetic gesture and they continued dancing again. After they were done she walked over to me, laughing that "he was getting a little out of control", in which I replied, "don't worry about it, he's young and horny and you're gorgeous, so what do you expect?" She looked back at me and admitted that was a hunk and that she was having a great time. I then blurted out that I was really getting turned on by watching her dance with him and that I thought it was hot that he as groping her. She grabbed me and gave me a long wet kiss and asked if I really didn't mind.
The next dance set, she was making out him, grinding, getting her *** groped, and I was almost cumming in my pants. By 1:30 am we were all trashed and in a drunken state, with her dance partner standing there with us, I asked her if she wanted to sleep with him, although I used a different expletive. The next thing I know, I was buying condoms at the 24 hr CVS, and then checking us into a Red Roof Inn. I sat in a corner and watched my wonderful and beautiful wife get thoroughly "you know what" for about an hour strait. I did not participate. I asked him to leave when they were through. I felt such an incredible charge and I felt renewed as a person, which seemed strange to me. Here my wife was with another guy, and I felt like a teenage again. My wife was pretty trashed, and passed out on the way home.
The next morning we talked about and my wife laughed it off, saying it was pretty much a blur. A week later she admitted that it wasn't that much of a blur and that she really enjoyed herself. We had great sex and would talk about it frequently while in bed.
Since then, she has taken a lover that she sees once or twice a month. Sometimes I'm present, sometimes I am not. Regardless, we both really get our rocks of by this lifestyle.
I do have moments of worry though, wondering if her sexual relationship will turn into anything more than sex. She promises no, and claims that it's strictly sexual. He's much younger (early 20s), ethnic (not that it matters) and she says that it's all about the bedroom; his youth, stamina and physique.
I do enjoy seeing and knowing my wife is having incredible sex with this guy. Am I crazy? Are we both crazy? LOL...
2006-08-14 05:08:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For those who have asked what do we tell the kids? The kids know nothing about our sexual lifestyle. Also, we have an agreement that we can stay stop at any time. I have no reason to at this time because I do not feel threatened. My wife and I continue to have a great sex life and are very much in love.
2006-08-14 05:23:15 · update #1
Well, you're two consenting adults, so do whatever is right for you and your wife. If you both are really ok with it, and enjoy it, then go right ahead. Personally, I do think you are both crazy. LOL
2006-08-14 05:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
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I've been happily married for 11 years to what I consider my soul mate. When we first met, we were both sexually adventurous and crazy as a dating couple; threesomes, swapping, kink, you name it, we did it. Then when we tied the knot and started a family, things settled down, which was fine. My...
2015-08-23 07:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is a sham. Part of being married is to keep it between the two of you. Your inability to get satisfaction through interaction is not as bad as her taking on another lover. Sex is an animal instinct where marriage enables you to make love. She may decide to go for the gusto with the one that works her better and will be on the outside looking back at the good times. Have more pride in yourself and stop the outside activity.
2006-08-14 05:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by hardnose 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. There is nothing wrong with either one of you. my wife and I are the same, some times she will watch me with another woman and then her and I have great sex, and other times, it is her and a man with me watching, either way we both get very hot and it is great. the kids never have to know, and it is no one else's business, you would be surprised that some of the people that condemn our lifestyle either have fantasies about it or have done it and like to keep it secret. Keep up the Good Life!
2006-08-14 08:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is worng. even if you are besy and your wife enjoy dancing but that is ledding you both to turrible mistakes.
if you really love your wife you should not accept that. do you love your money more? that would make you loose your wife she might reach a level that she does not want you any more in her life. or if she is still with you you are just teaching her to Betray you. you need to be stop and think much about your money get an accestance and limit your worknig hours to 8 houres and enjoy your marrage and learn how to dance with her
2006-08-14 05:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is my theory as to why a very trusting and secure husband would get turned on watching his wife with another man. It's because when you see her being completely satisfied by someone else, and yet she still comes home to you, it proves that your relationship is based on so much more than just sex, that you have a very real and very intimate bond.
It's a wonderful statement about your marriage that you are so trusting with each other.
2006-08-14 05:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Steven S 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
REMEMBER CURIOUSITY killed the cat. If she find someone who can perform better will you be out in the cold? You're taking huge risks for cheap thrills. RELATIONSHIPS are worth alot more than cheap sex. Love is worth so much more. I would stop if I were you. Were you raised to believe in God? If you wouldnt tell your parents, then it might be best to stop doing this.
2006-08-14 05:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ya seems your both crazy!! Thats 2 weird
2006-08-14 05:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is fulfulling some basic needs outside the marriage. It may work for you for a while, but one day, she will connect with one of these partners. When she does, you will lose her. It is nearly certain.
2006-08-14 05:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not crazy. I a lot of guys feel that way. It sounds like you 2 have a solid marriage and an understanding and your wife is up front with so I wouldn't worry. Enjoy!
2006-08-14 05:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by dwnaz1 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋