2006-08-14 05:03:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to return to the roots of the relationship. Going places that once sparked activity and taking the pressure of everyday life off helps allot. Look at the stress He may be under and also the schedule the two of you are keeping. Remember there is nothing wrong in climbing in the shower with him on the weekend and giving him a good working over. Be sure you are not making him feel bay by being unresponsive and learn how to fake that big o. Men lose interest if they feel their performance is substandard. Naturally You should not fake it all the time just once in awhile and never play dead when he is working you. If his daily routine has changed or he is spending more time away from the love nest there may be someone else working your old man.
2006-08-14 05:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can fix the problem you need to find the cause. Would have been good to have more info. Have you guys had a child recently? Has he started a new job? Any illness? All these can play a huge role in sexual drive for both partners.
Some times men feel overwhelmed, for whatever reason feel sexually unattractive as do woman.
You may want to try, the tried and true of what used to work. If it doesn't or you already have and it didn't work. You were probably left more frustrated.
If you try to initiate it and he pulls away. Then you feel if you do nothing maybe he will. Then he could possible feel you don't want to anymore. And he won't initiate it. Both of you chasing your tails as the gap grows wider and wider.
Talking is always the first choice. Feel him out. Make ever moment a chance to initiate it without it looking like a set up. Romantic dinner, movies, get aways. There's also books on how to spice things up.
It's hard not to take it personally and your self-esteem to start to dwindle. Try to catch it now. Before it's too late. If all else fails. Do what I do. Use a couple you both know. Tell your story as if it was theirs. Like. " Susan was telling me that her and Bob haven't had sex in 4 months. Susan think there's something wrong with her, or that Bob doesn't love her anymore...." You get the idea. Listen to his feed back. without knowing it he'll be opening up his feelings.
2006-08-14 05:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with each other and see what each other is thinking. Why are you not happy? Pet peeves? Likes about each other? Dislikes of each other? Something is going on for each to go their separate ways.
As far as the sex goes...2 months is nothing. How about 2-3x a year. You have a ways to go to top me. Good luck.
2006-08-14 05:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have children that makes it a different ball game. You need to seek counseling. If you're still in love, you need to seek counseling. If one of you just doesn't give a damn about the relationship, do each other a favor and go your separate ways. Not everything lasts forever.
2006-08-14 05:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sound like something happen to me with my first marriage, I ask my first husband to travel with me to Miami , you know for a change to see if we can save what if was left of our relationship, well he didn't want to go, so I went alone and I met my now husband....
2006-08-14 05:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him with true love and careness be intrested to talk or do activities to create a healthy atmosphire .
i suggest a one day trip for a beach or river or see or garden any where for long time it make you fresh when you go back home you could have forgot many bad events duaring the week
2006-08-14 05:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to consoling together and ones in a while alone so yous can express eachothers feeling alone with ur consoler!! go out have funn like you did when you first started and if it doesnt work ur better off seperating cause this isnt geting better!! no sex why??? what did you do or she do?? something is wrong here!
2006-08-14 05:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by big&beutifull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not good at all. Its also a bad sign. You need to find out what is going on. Talk to him before it's to late. Do it now.
2006-08-14 05:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication neither one of you will know what the problem is unless you talk,unless you both are done talking and if that's the case then you are roomates and that sucks.
2006-08-14 05:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking to each other. It might not work, but it would be a start.
2006-08-14 05:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by yahoohoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋