Ive been heart broken for a few months now, how do i heal my self?

Question

I thought time would heal my deeply damaging mental wounds but no.. not even thinking about other girls dont help, it just reminds me of my ex.. come to think of it i remember every painful moment of heartache ive recieved in my young life. people i need your advice .

Answer 1

Time will heal.

Take baby steps:

1. Walk - Run - Rollerblade for 1 hour each day. During this time refuse to think about sorrow .... when sorrow starts entering your mind, exercise harder, and focus on the pain from exercise.

Once you get better at this, then limit the amount of time to feel sorrow to 1 hour a day. Some just get it over with in the mourning ... or before bedtime ... practice focusing on positive stuff the rest of the day. Sounds weird, but simple stuff like, "Wow look at that grass blade" and turn that brain off on just google at a piece of grass. Or watching a bug even ... just mastering how to control your thoughts to anything other than the sorrow, and disapointment you're feeling.


These baby-steps help make time move to heal you.

Answer 2

First of all, I am sorry for the pain you're going through, It sounds like more time would help. I know it has been a few months, as you said, but sometimes it takes longer than that.
And DON"T try to think about other girls...That is bound to make you think of your ex.
Instead, focus your energy and grief on something creative, or a sport or OUTSIDE activity you are fond of. If you are creative, take up writing or music composition. If you're sporty, get out there and play games, run, whatever.
Basically, you need to distract yourself from melancholy sad reminiscence.
You WILL feel better, and eventually you will have a new, healthy love relationship. Remember that, and good luck.

Answer 3

The pain of the human heart can hurt badly but emotionly it could torture you. But it can be healed. The best medicine and remady is time. Time will heal a broken heart but it cant be rushed though you must be willing to allow it to heal remember it may hurt but you will get over it and find someone better. Time heals all wounds no matter how big or painful.

Answer 4

Sometimes when we are deeply and passionately involved with somebody it feels it means the whole world to us. Life seems more beautiful. Every days feels like a brighter day. Thats the magic of being in love and being loved. It does a whole lot of good things to us. But sometimes our relationships dont always work out the way we expect them to be maybe because life itself can be quite unpredictable sometimes.

It makes it even more painful and difficult when somebody you really love and care for breaks your heart. I have been in your situation before and I found it really difficult to come over it. During that time I slowly started realizing that believing that we are capable of overcoming our tough times and believing in God and understanding that God always has a plan for each and everyone of us really helped me to get through it all. Sometimes our lives get stuck in daily and materialistic routines that we dont often realize it. Its also quite possible that maybe in a way the person you really love is not deserving it fully enough. May be there is someone else even more beautiful ( And I dont mean only from a good looks and great figure kind of perspective beauty is more than skin deep ) and who would accept you more as a person and show even more love and affection to you.

Most of us have gone through these kind of times. One of the interesting things Ive knownis that we kind of learn more about our selves and discover new things which we didnt know before. Its a kind of a learning experience in a way. ( And believe me later on in life these small things really help you to become a much stronger and better person ).Who knows your new relationship may be even better than your old one :-) .

And as the saying goes: Theres Somebody Somehow Somewhere Made Especially For You ! . . .Its just a matter of time. . . .So just chill ! . . .Keep doing things that you really like and which you havent done for a while perhaps meet up with old friends. . .go on a short holiday to a nice place you always thought of but just couldnt find time to go there. . .go for a nice lil jog or a work out when you get time. . .there are little things in life around us which are really beautiful and which make you go vow ! . How come I didnt see or know about that before. . .go out sometimes on the weekends to nice places where you feel comfortable and chilled out . . .

And I think once you start relaxing and just take life easy. .sooner or later you will meet someone interesting :-) . . . .

Good luck buddy ! . God Bless.

Answer 5

If ur that depress u need to seed professional help-sometimes talkin to someone unbias helps alot. Also u have to move on, maybe not in another relationship but find a hobby, hang out with friends, take a trip. Do what ever it takes to keep ur mind of this girl. I know what it feels like to be heartbroken-but u gatta pick urself up and move on! Don't stay sittin dere in the gutters, life's too short for dat!

Answer 6

Bro, it really easy to heal a wounded heart. sometimes it takes a long time. you know its hard to forget someone we truly love but you have to moved on. Think of the happy times you experienced in your life. Go to some places where you can meet a lotof friends. Dont lose HOPE.

Answer 7

You've got to decide to put it behind you and close that chapter of your life. Time will help heal, but only if you let it. If you are determined to continuously think of your pain, then it's not going to leave you.

What do you get out of continuing to hurt? Pity or sympathy from friends? An excuse not to get back out there and risk being hurt again? What is it? There's got to be something that's causing you to choose to stay miserable instead of move on and live life.

Think of what you are allowing yourself to miss out on, by choosing to let your ex rent space in your head/heart for free? Is it really worth it? This life is too short to spend too much time mourning things that didn't work out, or people who we don't want/need in our lives (or who don't want us in theirs).

Decide you are going to turn over a new leaf...then do it!

Answer 8

Loss of a loved one naturally hurts. You must grieve the loss ,accept that it has happened, and tell yourselve that nothing lasts forever not even the pain,it too will end. Get hope in knowing that you are not the only one that has ever felt this way, it is a human condition and yes you will love again. In the meantime love yourself you are worthy.

Answer 9

this helped me......good luck

“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you apart pain. I hate love.”
Neil Gaiman quote


and it will get better, promise

Answer 10

You see ...it is your mind that is causing you the pain ....
You still immerse yourself in your work or hobby to keep your mind very very busy so that at the end of each day, you are mentally very tired to think of anything else except to get a good sleep.
Few months later, the pain will go away.

Alternatively if you must think of her ... think about her bad side ...as no one is perfect.
eg ..does she have nose hair sticking out of her nostrils ? imagine her disgusting look ... or if she loves food ...imagine she will bloat into a balloon size shape after getting married ...if she has BO, then imagine you are lucky not to be tortured by the smell anymore ....