My husband and I have decided to have a wedding ceremony, as we were only married by the court, civilly. We would like to have something pretty but not that big, because we already had a bigger party and etc... when we got married by the court. We do not know whether to plan it at my Mom's back yard, because she is having her nephew getting married there on September the 2nd,2006. I do not want to sound inapropriate with planning it there either, but if not, I do not know whether to plan it at a Comfort Inn, etc...Since we are planning to hopefully get married for like September the 23 or 30, 2006. I do not know if I would like to dress up again or not, I'm really undecided about that, but if I do then it will be a simple wedding dress, not too fancy. Our anniversary is September 4, for when we got married by court, that's why we would like to have it in Sept. and also, we have bought a new set of wedding rings and would like them blessed, because we have lost, or I should say, I lost.
2006-08-14 04:45:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my original. Well, the whole thing about my question is how to have this nice but simple wedding, because first we thought that we wanted it just private but are now thinking about inviting more people. Just as an addition, I feel a little doubtful about what people will think because my husband and I were seperated for almost one year, and are not back together and happier than ever. We got back together like in May of this year.
2006-08-14 04:47:57 · update #1
This would be a church wedding by the way.
2006-08-14 04:49:52 · update #2
If you and your husband have a church that you prefer you could have a small ceremony there. Just invite your parents, siblings, their children and children's children. Don't go all out and invite aunts and uncles, etc. Just say that you are renewing your vows and have a simple dress rather than a wedding dress. Most people will come if it an anniversary celebration (put off due to the wedding being so close to your original date) and you could have a very nice party in the church's common room with a wedding cake/anniversary cake. Good Luck.
2006-08-14 04:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a church wedding unless it's in a church, which is certainly an option. All of the questions you have should be answered by you - what do you want to have? As long as your mom agrees, there's not reason to not have your wedding there just because the other one's there too. It's not like you're trying to intrude on their ceremony. This is al about you and your husband. Start out (again) the right way, by doing what's best for the both of you and not worrying about making anyone else happy.
2006-08-14 11:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad to here you got back together. Mom's would be nice as long as it's not at the same time as the other wedding. Have you considered a park? County parks usually have shelter and areas you can reserve for parties and the like. There might be a small fee involved but it would be cheaper than a hotel.
You could also check local lodges- they usually have a hall that you could rent. They more than likely have a bar too. I don't know if membership is required or not-- they'll probably take your money regardless.
Good luck and have a great day!!!
2006-08-14 11:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already done the deal why cheapen the original by a fake imitation. Are both of you that unsure of the relationship that you need another ceremony. God was with you all the time and it does not take a member of the clergy to sanctify the marriage. If you really believe then you should know God is always around to look over you and the church uses marriage as a way to increase the treasury. Get on with life and use the money that you set aside for your new wedding as a gift to some charity that will get more done than wasting it on another ceremony.
2006-08-14 11:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't matter what people think. If you are happy and you love each other that is all that matters.
As far as the wedding goes. You really have to go with your own wants/money situation. I had what I feel was a pretty wedding, nothing extravagant, but nice for under $500.00. Here is my myspace ID you can see pictures. if you want. But you just have to figure out what you want, and go from there. I had a much more expensive wedding planned, but this just gave me something to work with. I just keep down sizing and rearranging things until I got it down where I could afford it. If you would like to chat about this, e-mail me at sweetpeachiebear@yahoo.com.
And if you would like to look at my wedding pictures, www.myspace.com/sweetpeachiebear
I believe I also have these pictures on my 360, but I don't know.
Good luck!
And Congratulations!!!
2006-08-14 11:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpeachiebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that's a lot of stuff!!! Is there a nice park close to where you live? We have one in Vancouver that a lot of people get married in, and have their pictures taken. It is gorgeous and huge. Or do you live near a waterfront? You could have the wedding on the lakeshore or oceanfront. A cabin would come in useful for the reception - even a large tent. And it would be different. I hope this helps some - even just to give you more ideas. But make sure it's what you want, and that it's unique.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-08-14 11:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your mom would mind..If you have a good relationship with her..But it would be much better else where so u don't have to worry about the cleaning after, invite how many people you want or can afford and you will see how happy the outcome will be..A Church would be fine also. This is about you not everyone else.. Sweetie don't worry about what everyone thinks. They would only make your life worse. As long as you guys are HAPPY that's all that matters. You guys are starting a new life and you should put on the white gown (even off white since your married) Put your hair up and let your hubby put that suit on and walk down that isle..The hell with everyone that don't think its right..U are you and he is he..You have you own life to live so don't worry about all the ignorance of anyone Else..Just prove them wrong in the long run..GO FOR IT SWEETIE HAVE FUN..GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-14 11:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your question exactly? Are you asking where you should have your wedding? If that is the question, what is the problem with having it at your Mom's if she doesn't have a problem with it? If money is no object, rent a fancy ballroom and be done with the whole thing. I don't think I really understand what you need advice about.
2006-08-14 11:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - confused by your question
If you have a marriage ceremony have it wherever you want to - just because you were seperated doesnt mean you cant get back together and have a renewal of vows.
Invite as many people as you can afford to have there.
Personally i'd have it in a venue - as if something happens at your mums house, it'll be down to you to sort.
2006-08-14 11:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by schmushe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would not make the wedding that big!!! the main part of the wedding was the vows!! you have already done that!!! a wedding and reception at the comfort inn sounds like a place just right to redo your vows!!! private weddings are nice but having people there is part of the wedding celebration
2006-08-14 11:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by juggalettegirl4ever62885 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋