The father of my children cheated me on several occasions while working overseas. He regretted his acts and wanted to reconcile.
Given the choice, would you as the injured party want to know every details of what went on between them and reconcile OR would you just heck it and leave him.
Thanks to all in advance....
2006-08-14 04:26:34 · 16 answers · asked by DiL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you will ever get the whole truth out from him. So it is either you put the past behind you and him and starts afresh with him or just break up with him. No point asking when you yourself don't believe what he will says.
2006-08-14 20:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Grace is a liar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to be slowly tortured and then kiss and make up? Ok that may be an extreme analogy, but every detail?? I mean are you more concerned about the emotional attachment with his mistresses ( which I believe to be more of a threat ) or his physical attachment. Maybe it was just sex because you were so far away. So now he's coming back home with his tail in btween his legs. So its really up to you........... I mean follow your heart, you only live once, You do have children together but please think of yourself. you cannot teach a child about healthy relationships if you dont show an example
2006-08-14 11:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would be a question of how much you really need him and how forgiving you are. I do not think that I could be that forgiving of my husband and I would leave. Because I would never trust him again and I would bring it up all the time and make us both miserable. But some people are capable of forgiving and letting their lives move on. If it is going to cause too much stress and lack of trust on your part, I would leave. If you think you can move on in life with him, then stay.
2006-08-14 11:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by tevilo1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U already know everything so what point to ask again.Even if u ask him he also have so many reason 4 u.This lah that lah.Just make yourself know nothing about it.Give your brain a time to relax.Go some where with your friends.About leave him.Can u survive without him?Can or Cannot?lf u think u can.Just move out n see what happen.May l ask u a Q?Did u still have any feeling with your husband?
2006-08-14 18:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regret is another thing compared to "repent" and would he repeat it again? thats important!
save the marriage and kids from emotional hurtings if can be. the kids comes first now? ( if its possible )
frankly, no point in knowing the details as it'll hurt like hell. as they say " whatever dont know wont hurt".
important things are:
what he intends to do with the affair or his flirting habits?
how is he gonna behave and rid of future urges
what lead him to it and can it be prevented.
alternatively, if the case is almost hopeless, break the marriage rather than make. as from experience, the "sweetness" has been tasted and will always be wanting? compared to a wild animal that tasted blood, it'll always be wanting it?
sorry, speaking from experience. wish you luck.
be strong and firm.
2006-08-14 20:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to know and would probably just walk away from it, cheating seldom has to do with the non-cheating party and it is something the cheater has to work on them self, don't blame yourself if he's gonna cheat he'll cheat.
2006-08-14 12:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by faerydiva3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you want details.. but trust me you don't. It is better to just accept what happened if you want to make it work. Details only haunt you, you keep running them over and over in your head... then come the visuals.. trust me just forgive and try again.
2006-08-14 11:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want all the details. Once you hear them you'll never get them out of your head.
If you can forgive him then stay, if it's too hard to deal with then it's best to get out now.
2006-08-14 11:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just out of curiousity I would want to know about it but I would leave him either way. Forget him, you don't need to contract any of the STD's he is exposing you to.
2006-08-14 11:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would NEVER forgive him.
If he has done it once he can do it twice and more.
I don't think it is worth it forgiving him.
Sorry if this wasn't the answer you were looking for!
The best of luck
2006-08-14 11:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋