I moved from WV to NC last summer. I have a baby girl. My husband is in the Marines so he's gone alot. I don't work, I just take care of my daughter. I hate it out here because I feel I don't have anything. All my friends and family are back home in WV, (470 miles away) I don't really have anyone except my baby. I want to make friends, but I'm kinda shy. I don't drive so my husband takes me every where. He doesn't want me to be able to drive. On top of that, I have my baby, we're always in the house. How can I make friends? He goes out with his friends, I'm always with the baby. I NEVER spend a minute without her. It's not bad, but I would like to have friends you know? I don't really even talk to my friends from WV anymore. There all busy with school, or work. Is it wrong of me to feel lonely and want friends? Any good advice of how to make them? (Please don't be rude, and please don't just jot something down, I could really use the help)
2006-08-14 04:24:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all i think you need to discuss the issue of driving with your husband. It's really important you know how to drive what happens if he's not there and something goes wrong? If you want to make friends but still be able to keep an eye on your baby make friends with the people who live around you, if that doesn't work the Internet is a great way to chat at any time just always remember to be cautious. Also I'm sure you husbands friends have girlfriends or wives so get a babysitter and ask him to get his buddies and there significant others and go out. Being shy is OK a lot of people are like that so be yourself, find common ground with the people your talking to and soon everything will just flow. As long as your still in touch with your friends and family there's no reason why you can't go up there when you have some time and see them so good luck and i know you'll find friends just have faith.
2006-08-14 05:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really bad to go through, but you can change that. It's not wrong to feel lonely and want friends at all! Everyone needs friends and family to talk to, no matter what anyone says! It really feels awful to be lonely constantly and to do the same thing over and over again day after day while watching everyone else do things that's great. It sounds like you need to talk to your husband about what you can or cannot do because it's not fair that you have to do all the work with your child while he goes out with his friends. I'm not saying he's lazy because you mentioned that he's in the Marines, but maybe it's time for you to talk with him about wanting to make friends. And as for you not being able to drive, you can learn how to drive if you want to, it's your life, so why does he have to tell you what to do about that? Also, the only way to make friends is to get out there into the world and meet new people, it could be at work (if you get a job eventually), it could be at the store, it can be anywhere. You can also join a club or something like that! I hope this helps...
2006-08-14 12:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to want friends, your husband has friends, and so can you. I don't know if you want to have like a pen pal. or some one to IM, then we can do that. I will not recommend that you go to a club, but go to like a park that's in walking distance and sit next to other women that have a small baby such as you. That's one good way to make friends. Please, fro your sake as a woman, learn to drive because that's a way of holding you back. You can't drive, and you have to depend on your husband to drive you every where. Baby-girl, that's lock down. Ask him to keep the baby sometimes. He helped made it! That will give you time to relax and at least try to do something by your self. Look on the Internet and search for the nearest park on your side of town, look for a movie theater. That's sad, he got you away from everyone you love, and you there alone. There isn't much I can do, but I can offer my friendship. Be blessed.
2006-08-14 11:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by missinterlectual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a tough one. Why doesn't your husband want you to drive? That seems a bit controlling to me on his part. It is hard to make friends in a new place, especially when you have no transportation. Have you looked on line or in the local paper for some like Mommy and me groups? Is there public transportation where you are? You could maybe go to local parks to take your daughter to play and meet other mothers that way.
2006-08-14 11:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong you do need a friend even if it is just someone to talk with on the phone. you really need to sit down and have a talk with your husband and tell him you love him and the baby but you need a girl friend to hang out with or just to talk to. do you live on a base with other family's? or get a news paper a lot of times they have advertisements for playtime for mothers and babies a great way to find someone to socialized with and if your husband does not support you in this then maybe you need to think about talking the baby and going home. i am not trying to be mean but i was in a similar situation once and it was very depressing and finally i had to leave the father of my child. it wasn't easy to do but now i have a wonderful man who just loves me and my child and i have all his support he even encourages me to go out and have a good time, because he understands how you just need a "girls night out" once in a while. ps i could be your email friend if you want.
2006-08-14 11:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your baby to make friends! Find a playgroup, take her to the park, or enroll her in gymnastics or ballet (If she's old enough). Other mothers will be there, and they will all have gone through the same experiences as you, which makes it easier to start up a conversation. Moms are usually friendly, and if you don't start up a conversation with someone, someone is bound to start a conversation with you. You'll make friends, and you'll never have to leave your baby.
2006-08-14 11:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shy, is kinda bad specially if u are in a new neighbour-hood. I think u should try to come over to some of your neighbour's, introduce urself, get them some snacks, pies . . . . Go there and say "Hello Im (ur name) and I'm new here, I would like to know how is this neighbour-hood bla bla bla . . . ." then ask them to go to ur place whenever they are free. If they are at ur age it could be easier to make them ur friends. So you don't need to be Shy, why do you need to be shy? u're not a bad girl are u? If u believe that you're a good person, u wouldn't be shy.
2006-08-14 11:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Wim I.G. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to make friends, or find someone you've known, go to www.myspace.com and register. THERE ARE TONS OF PEOPLE ON THERE!! Its 100% free and you can search by name, age, gender, race, religion, location... all sorts of ways. You can see pictures and profiles and get into contact with TONS of people! I've met over 60 people this year and Its SO much fun! Check it out!
2006-08-14 11:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You know that a good chat room is always fun to open open to. Although not to open where you will get a stalker but it is always fun to talk online when the baby is takeing a small nap.
2006-08-14 11:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kasey W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to www.jippii.com then press multiple players or somthinlikr that
2006-08-14 11:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋