i am in a terrible problem...please help?

Question

i always said to my self i will do it , i will study more, i will be more serious, i will be more better and responsible person ,i will and i will and i were serious and really want to did what i promise my self but i don't know why i maybe forget or bored or cant but i never commit and being like this will destroy my life i feel i am just a big liar


i am serious please help me and be seriouse

Answer 1

i often do the same things... I believe that there are some people that have to make a much bigger effort than others to buckle down and get to work... people who prefer to be doing something more exciting. Make yourself a goal, and some consequences that will be reinforced by a friend or family member if you dont meet that goal... that way your forcing yourself to buckle down

Answer 2

Just because you said your going to do something usually means your not, just becuase that is how human nature is, it's the natural man. but if you are sincere and committed then you will change but it has to start from inside. I think sometimes when we try to change like you want to be more serious sometimes we forget that it's our personality. I have heard somewhere to use what you got. I can understand when you say I want to study more and then you don't I have been in the same boat and I have paid the price, you need to balance your life, you need the same amount of work and play, seriousness and goofyness. or other wise you will go crazy.

Answer 3

Stop right were you are! Think about what you are doing to yourself. I am going to do this. I am going to do that. If accomplishments are the only thing that are going to make you happy then you are never going to be happy. Do this for me. Sit back and get comfortable let all the negative thoughts flow from your mind and let all the good memories float in. Ask yourself this: What makes me happy and be honest with yourself. What do YOU like to do, what do you want to do. I hate my job and i wish i could exercise and be more fit but in the end i enjoy sitting on the couch and eating chips and watching a good movie. That is what truly makes me happy, i enjoy being lazily and unproductive. Be yourself and let everyone else in the world except you or reject you for who you really are. Always remember this 'If something is truly important to you you will succeed without effort. You wont forget to do the things you really enjoy and in the end you will be happy that you walked your own road. Trust me you are not the only one who feels the way you feel. Peace be with you.

Answer 4

What do you think you will gain by more study, being more serious, better and more responsible and why do you think you find yourself so objectionable when you clearly, at some level are not all that unhappy with what you are doing or you wouldn't be doing it. We all seek pleasure and avoid pain, but we'll suffer pain if we think it leads to greater pleasure. You don't study more because you associate it with pain. You're not more serious because you associate it with pain. And you are not associating either with enough pleasure for it to be motivating. So one of two things is going on: either your deceiving yourself about how much you value these things, or you are sabotaging yourself by losing sight of the pleasure you think these things will bring. But it kind of sounds like you think you should do these things, and my friend, doing something because you should is never motivating like doing something because it brings you pleasure and satisfaction. You will do those things without any prompting whatever. If you can't find a way to associate more pleasure than pain to these thinks you think you want to do you will never do them. So start out with making a list of the pain and pleasure you associate with the activities involved in achieving each of these things and find ways to remind yourself of the pleasure aspects and find ways to mitigate the pain. Try to convert these things into habitual behavior and be happy with incremental progress, and don't beat yourself up when yoou miss the mark or you will just associate more pain to the process.

Answer 5

Hey dont panic. There must still be some time. Why do not you make a to do list each day and see how it gets short each day and it will not be easier. All you need is a sincere effort. Do this today or there will be no tomorrow ever- Do you have the guts to believe in this. If yes then help your self.

Answer 6

I already felt that way about myself and it is really normal. I don't think that you are lying to yourself, it is just a lack of commitment. You cannot just get a good drive to propel you to what you plan to do. At least you have a goal to stick on to. Just try to make a list of the things you think are bothering you then avoid them as much as possible. If that does not work, you can always ask God's help. Never forget that he will deliver as long as you find it in your heart to trust Him.

Answer 7

It sounds like to me you have a case of being a procrastinator. You need to find out why you procrastinate, then you will be able to break down that wall, and go forward in your life. Ask yourself, why don't I do what I promise myself, is it because I am afraid of the outcome? I don't like to do that certain thing? Once you have determined the reason, then you can take the bull, by the horns and force yourself to get-r-done. Good luck and have a great day...

Answer 8

First of all, what helped me during those times is a self determination that I'm going to get this done! You see, I've seen in the lives of some people that were around me that talking alone gets nothing done and you get nowhere in life.I don't intend to be one of those persons who wake up one day and realize that so much of life has passed me and I've done nothing to make it better.I think you need to adopt this same go-getter attitude.You'll love yourself for it and others will respect you for it .OK?

Answer 9

First of all, try something NEW. Try forgiving and loving yourself first. Repeat daily affirmations like: I love and respect myself, and I am a success. Say this 10 x/day.

You may feel a little uncomfortable doing these at first, but they work and they will help you both build self-love and will make you more successful at whatever it is you are attempting to do.

Remember be gentle with yourself. Compassion and forgiveness are the keys to true success.

Answer 10

OK, buddy, listen up.LET GO.now repeat after me:I am enough. I have enough. I do enough. Now, WHY do you want to study more, be more this, be more that?Think about it.IS it for yourself? or someone eles?Now, find something you have never done before but sounds cool, and learn it.Or go outside and climb a tree. And stop promising yourself things.DO them.Practise these small things.Don't think," i will get out of bed".GET out of bed.Practise is good.