My married lover keeps asking me to have his baby. He and his wife don't have children and I can't imagine why he would want to do such a thing. I really don't want children right now. Anybody got any ideas why?
2006-08-14 03:40:12 · 79 answers · asked by Tiredofbrainlessmorons 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1st and foremost find ur own man, 2nd if ur gonna continue to sleep w/him use protection always, even if ur using birth control, 3rd if ur considering it ur stupid cause all ur doing is ruining ur life and his marriage.. just cause he has no respect for his marriage that doesn't mean u shouldn't .. be a women and not whore/side chick/mistress...
ain't no guarantees he'll be there for that baby and by the time his wife is finished w/him for filing for divorce he won't have no $$ left for ur kid anyway..
2006-08-14 03:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the cheating scum does not believe that his lack of children is his problem. You want an idea, here goes- Stop spending time with this a$$hole. He is obviously not prepared for a marriage much less fathering a child. Why don't you call his wife and ask her what she thinks. Wake up and wise up. YOU DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH PEOPLE WHO CANNOT BE THERE. He is married, he cheats. Are these the personality traits you want for your child's father? Get Out. Get Out Now. Find
a guy where there is a future which might be worthy of children.
Sometimes Mother Nature recognizes when a person should not reproduce.
2006-08-14 04:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Weather you like to have a bay or not that is another matter. But why should you have to have a married man's baby ? All over the world there are lot of guys eligible to have relationship and to be a father who is not married . And can't you find a man for you to have baby than a married man? I hope so. If i were you i will smack him when he asked to have his baby very first time. I hate the guys who will give status of wife to a woman and keep sex relationship with another woman. They don't faith full to both women. They irresponsible; unbelievable; self fish; can't trust this kind of person. Never will be faith full to the word LOVE. Don't trust him.
2006-08-21 18:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by mswathi1025 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful about this one.
If he and his wife do not have children it is probably because they can not.
If he is pressing you to have a child it could be for very selfish reasons such as him taking the child away from you in court so that he and his wife can have a child.
Or it could be more innocent then that and he just once a child of his own.
But I do not think that I would be taking that kind of a chance.
And since you do not want children right now then stick to your feelings.
And above all else.............Listen to your gut instincts about this.
2006-08-19 12:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you're playing with fire. Don't you know better then to mess with a married man? Not only is it morally wrong, but if his wife ever found out about you, you may get beat down!!!! And please, I repeat, PLEASE-....do NOT get pregnant with this man's child. He may decide to leave you, go back to his wife, and make you become a single parent! Even if he didn't, this is still an unhealthy environment for the child, to say the least. You want your kids to grow up and have morals, right? So start now by righting your wrong: leave this worthless, decieving piece of crap, and only date single guys from now on!!!!!
2006-08-21 20:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you grow up and stop seeing someone that is married? Don't you see that your a home wrecker? You have a lot of nerve getting on the net and pretty much letting everyone know you hand out your goodies! I would hardly call your fling a relationship let alone anything at all. Shame on you and the dipxhit your screwing. Do yourself and the world a favor. Don't MULTIPLY!!! Find your own guy and let that woman have her nasty husband or tell him to get a divorce. Ever hear of keeping your legs closed? Gag!!!
2006-08-21 16:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tainted_Halo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your married lover is one thing i advise. However, is it possible that his wife is unable to have children and she has agreed for him to go out and find a womb? Maybe the idea is that you would give up your child so she could raise he/she as her own safe in the knowledge that he is the legitamate father. Or does he want you to have his child whilst he remains with his wife and continues to lead a double life?
2006-08-22 03:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by felicitym2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to stop worrying about why he wants children with you and worry about why you are messing with a married man, that's your biggest issue. Secondly think about it. If he's is cheating on you with his wife and he gets you pregnant do you think he is going to be around for you and the baby, do you think he is gonna tell his wife about you and the baby? be smart and safe. I hope you make the right decision. Good Luck!
2006-08-22 04:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by dollbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I've got to say is don't do it. You shouldn't be sleeping with a married man in the first place. But aside from that, do you really think he is going to be much a father to this child beings he has a WIFE? Do you think he will want you when you are pregnant? This jerk probably just wants to screw up your life.
2006-08-21 07:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by College girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I don't care what justification you or your (lover?) come up with, he's cheating on his wife, and you're cheating yourself.
He's already shown you that he has no respect for his marriage, and no respect for his wife. He probably has no respect for women.
You on the other hand, don't have much respect for yourself. You evidently believe, whether consciously, or subconsciously, that you don't deserve someone who wants to be with you, and only you. You should truly ask yourself why.
As for his reason for wanting you to have his child when he knows you don't want to; once again, your wishes aren't worth consideration or respect in his eyes. If you have his child, then he has you one way or another, for the next 18 years. Get it?
Please, drop this guy like the trash he is. Stop making excuses for him. Start to love yourself, and others will love you. Honestly.
These are words spoken from experience. I hope you take them to heart.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-18 13:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything to be gained from having a child with a married man. You "really don't want children right now." So just say no. Since you really shouldn't be having sex with a married man anyway, which you've already been told in numerous responses to your previous questions/statements about this same married man, you have no business having his child. That priviledge belongs to his wife, whom he CHOSE to marry!
2006-08-14 05:51:10 · answer #11 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋